Daily Discussion Thread: 📖 Tuesday, November 12, 2024

One of my clients got pissed off at the slow pace of their projects, and decided to bring in a 3rd party "project partner". Tomorrow I'm having a "conversation" with Senior Leadership Team. I have a real bad feeling I'm about to be scapegoated for the failures of the project team because the project team manager is besties with my manager. I hate this feeling so fucking much.

I know exactly how that feels. We're here for you if you need it
- I appreciate it man. Let's see how it plays out. It'd suck to be looking for a new job a few days before my birthday.
  I'm OK money wise for a while, but I don't think I can do another 6 months without a job.

Got a reference request from a former colleague that I did not along with.

Our work relationship was cold, at best, so it's interesting that they would want to use me a reference.

I declined politely.

They were difficult to work with and created a large amount of unnecessary work for everyone.

you were more polite than I woulda been.
- When I say polite it was basically
  'Considering our respective roles during your time here, I am not in a position to provide you with a good reference. Good luck with the job hunt'
  This person still knows people in our organisation, so I didn't think to completely destroy the bridge...just in case

I'm stoned, a little faint after changing the bandage (just a non-stick one held one with normal bandaids lol) so lying on the couch. I'm such a pussy when it comes to my own body - I can watch and even help with wounds, but when it's my wound... Ugh!

Got a bag of twisties though! #winning

Oh bummer. Hope you’re not too out of sorts.
Are you busy at the moment?
- I'm alright :) just hate seeing my own blood haha
  I'm not particularly busy:) why?

Work from home all approved and I have a nice open ended task to spend half a day on. Things are going well

2 more days and I'm on leave for 3. So much I need to get done before I go.

That's one thing I love about my job, there is no ongoing work to manage. The moment you leave your desk the work is someone else's problem and you can just leave and forget about it.
- I wish I had that type of role. Because I have a portfolio of clients, they're my responsibility alone :(

Got off TAFE early today. Teacher had to pick up her kid from childcare cause they couldn't be arsed dealing with a three year old's tantrum. Some bullshit about the literal toddler posing a threat to other kids.

I was hoping to get more work done today. Guess I'm getting more units extended to next week.

omg, I just had a sparrow eat from my hand 🥰

How does it feel to be a Disney princess?
- 😹

Ordered pizza, watch some TV then bed I think. May as well speed up the time till the meeting tomorrow.

Goodnight everyone ❤️

You're gonna be alright friend :) 💜

First class survived. Don’t think I made a tit of myself. Making friends seems unlikely though.

It just rained and now it's sunny again. It smells earthy. Time to take the rubbish out.

Petrichor!
- Oh that's what it called. I never knew it had a name.

I guzzled the appropriate amount of water on Sunday and Monday, as my vein gushed a tad yesterday lol. First time 'round last year, the machine kept beeping because my pressure was low, because I didn't eat or drink enough.

This time, I filled that bag up quicksmart! Had a Nippy's Iced Coffee and some potato chips after. But yeah, now my elbow-pit is rather sore, I keep catastrophising and think it's still bleeding and I don't want to look, as it was when I changed the dressing yesterday (3 hours afterwards).

But! No complaints! Follow the directions and drink heaps of water!

Edit: actually, the only complaint is the bruise on my left middle finger from the haemoglobin test. I forget how much the tips of the fingers are used until one is sore 😅

some lemmy medals 🎖️🎖️🎖️ it's a wonderful thing you are doing 😘
- They're putting in the hard work collecting it all 🙌🏼 I just go in when they text me that they want my blood type haha although, the nurse there said that my vein is real big so I should consider plasma donations.
  Can do it more often, and they need people with big fat veins to handle the blood being back in when they seperate the plasma. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I should rack up my donation numbers lol
Yay go you!!

I've started my shed cleanout. There is a lot of junk in there! And a lot of dirt ☹️ If anyone is in the market for a slightly rusty hand saw let me know, I seem to have lots of them! I'm not even sure why I have some of this stuff, I'm pretty sure someone has been sneaking in and stashing stuff when I'm not looking. Couldn't possibly have been me!

Morning. I had a very vivid dream in which

... so I wake up groggily to check the time on the clock and FUCK it's 6:55am? I need to leave in ten!... only to grab my phone and see it's 6:05am... and here I am, adrenaline unnecessarily coursing through my system, resolutely staying in bed until i have to get up. 🥱 😴

You have got this and I believe in you, and if you feel like you don't have this then you can maybe just chuck a sickie?

Some people just suck all the air in meetings. Dude, shut the fuck up and let someone else talk!!!

Do they also start with, “in my experience”?
Oh my God we had someone like this at my old workplace and he was just insufferable. In the field, in meetings, just never knew when to stfu with his bad takes. Nobody liked him. Claimed he had ASD but after a certain point it's like no, you're a jerk with ASD. Definitely glad we don't have anyone like him where I work now

Left my hat and water bottle at the office before field work and have been mega cranky and annoyed today. Not how I wanted my day to go at all, I was looking forward to field work. And the moving place I inquired with seems to have a non-working number, I missed their callback but when I call their number it keeps cutting off. Grrrrrrrrrrr. I am PEEVED!

Need to have a good shower and some feel good show for tonight.

E: I will say, going out has given me a lot more pep and energy in other ways now that I've hydrated and cooled off. I miss field work!!!! I need to make this more regular

4 hours of karaoke. Mostly friend screaming. I am dead.

Like a goood dead or a bad dead?
- Neutral dead.

hubs has gone tomato mad, Idk what it is, something about the very Mediterranean house has woken the ancient genes. The terrace and the yard are slowly being overtaken with bushy bushy plants. The one by the front door is already 2m tall. I forsee a lot of canning in our future.

I had a fantastic tomato that got named Audrey after engulfing the entire hills hoist. Seeds didn’t take the next year though.
That sounds like a good problem to have. Is canning something you are familiar with or a new adventure for you?
- We have an entire cupboard dedicated to mason jars if that answers your question

My holiday is over. Back to work today

Hi ho

I have watered the garden. Expect a cloudburst.

It’s now spitting where I am..
Can you get it to hold off for 1/2 hr? Gotta walk to catch a tram 😬
- Will do my best.

I wish my boys could talk a bit more. Something was bothering one of them tonight and he couldn't get to sleep, I wish he could tell me what it was

Depending on their ages, they sometimes lack the vocabulary to put their feelings into words, especially if they're new feelings or sort of vague feelings or worries. It's frustrating because it's hard to know what prompts to give to get them talking. Sounds like you're doing the right thing and you're there for them and they know that, that's all you can do sometimes.
- Tom is the best dad , along with all the other dads here. I'm sure once they can they will talk. 🙂
- Their speech was always going to be delayed because they're twins. One is putting together two word sentences pretty consistently now and the other understands everything but doesn't talk as much.
  I've put together some flashcards using the program Anki and it has really helped them start recognising things and saying a few words

If anyone needs a smile, I suggest peeking into the Brisbane daily thread on here. There's an excellent series of puppy pics in there!

He makes pupdates (his word) on the newest addition regularly. It's so cute.
- Oh I definitely need to keep more of an eye out, thank you!!
I just saw 🥰
I totes 💖 beagles

So the executive dysfunction is a cause of my weird sleep; I forget to take my snri and I sleep in, but if I take it I wake up at 6ish naturally no matter how long I slept for.

I really gotta remember to take it every day and get to bed earlier ffs

ADHD probs?
- CPTSD lol, different acronym 😂 it can have a lot of overlap with ADHD and autism. But nope, just good, plain ol' CPTSD haha
  The executive dysfunction is one of the more prominent symptoms that overlap. Another is noise sensitivity; I gotta wear earphones when I'm on PTV because I get irrationally angry from the dings and beeps and announcements lol.

Really bad end to the day even if it only lasted for 10-15 mins.

Not looking forward to seeing how the rest of the time goes until I go on break.

Hopefully the steps put in place for the future will prevent future altercations from occurring.

Nothing like dealing with someone who thinks the way to solve problems is to enact revenge and thinking that’s the right way of doing things.

That's cos the game is not 'getting the work done', the game is 'being top dog'. I agree with melba that this goes nowhere good. Put on your own oxygen mask first. Good to know that steps are being taken.
EDIT: I'd put money on this person's work history being littered with similar situations.
revenge? There are people like that in the business world? That is crazy.
Oh no, that sounds really miserable... hope this person pulls their head in soon. I hate it when one person can ruin your whole day. When will you be going on break?
- On break from the 20th of Dec and hopefully wont have to deal with them after that forever.
Oh that goes nowhere good.
Maybe you’d like to secretly take notes of/document/bcc every single thing you can and perhaps polish your resume just in case
- I reported everything and some steps are being put in place.
  It’s not my safety that I’m worried about but I do have to deal with the stubbornness and attitude which makes is very unpleasant to end the day.

Listing things on Gumtree is definitely not working out - I have had less time wasting nonsense which I guess is a plus, but that's because I have had no enquiries at all (apart from the initial two scam messages which were so quick I presume were bots).

Yeah, seems like Gumtree is more or less dead...
- I'm not sure it's ever had much use here. I've bought one or two things on there before, but it doesn't really seem to get much traffic.
That was my experience when I first got back to Perth and tried to use eBay. Weird how different places have different apps they use.
- It changes over time too. I used to be able to list pretty much anything on eBay and have it sell, now stuff just sits there (and there is not the volume of buyers to allow you to do the auctions any more either). Marketplace was ok-ish, but these days people don't seem to know how to communicate and mostly just waste time - and you and up wasting other people's time because you are so swamped with the dodgy people it is really hard to keep on top of messages.

Tea break

Eh-oh ❤️

Shitty start to the work day with traffic being balls, but my boss gave me a slice of homemade biscoff cheesecake, so... swings and roundabouts.

Now both fuzzy ones have the sneezes. Gah.

I am also fuzzy and sneezing.
- You and me both!
Hopefully not something they can pass on to you.
- If Catfish is referring to their cats, then it's most likely cat flu. Cat flu is caused by either Feline Calicivirus or Feline Herpe Virus, neither of which are zoonotic (they can't be passed onto humans).
  Toxoplasmosis, giardia, ringworm (not actually a worm, it's a fungus), and quite a few more are zoonotic.
  Catfish won't have to worry about catching anything from their cats :)
  Edit: the cats could also just have allergies 🤷🏼‍♀️

Traffic was awful heading to my social sports training tonight, but had fun once I finally got there. Hadn’t been for a few weeks. There’s just some days I need to be around a group of people. Made the drive worth it.

Starting piano / guitar lessons on Thursday. By that, I mean I am alternating between instruments until I pick one. Thinking of going with piano because I learnt it as a kid, but am considering guitar for something different, and also I wanna be a rockstar.

They're quite complementary instruments so you may end up sticking with both, even if you only pay for lessons for one
Nah, not a rock star. Too much pressure and it takes over your life. You can never do normal stuff again.
You want a single smash one hit wonder that gives you enough to live it up for a year, before you invest $10 Million or so. Then retire into obscurity living very comfortably off your investments for the rest of your life. 5% of $10 Million is an annual allowance of $500k.
If you do want a lasting career, you want someone with the wealth and lifestyle, but not the fame. Someone like Dianne Warren or Max Martin. You can walk safely down the Street and nobody knows who you are. The only circles you're famous in are rock stars and movie directors.
- Or a song that gets picked up for a tv theme or ad, then you get lots of ongoing royalties.

So I have this art project I'm doing. omg, all the skills I need to learn to get it done. I suppose I could go very low tech and just hand write everything but I don't think that will work. There's the art skills/hand skills, like painting , composition and calligraphy, and then there's all the tech/computer skills of making the project ( it's a book ) I find the tech skills the most frustrating.

happily skills are forever and never wasted 🙂

Mixed some midori with some fruit juice. Not too bad.

Now I need ice cubes.

Yep, it was that sort of a day.

Noice
Midori and lemonade is a classic drink. Grab a bottle next time you're at Aldi.
- Yeah. Will do that next time though rate I’m going I might need a new bottle of midori too.

Day 2 of meal replacement done. ✅

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Some dark chocolate and berries please Chef.
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May I please have okonomiyaki, please. Preferably Osaka style but also not too fussy. And a vanilla ice cream cone, please?
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All the desserts please chef
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Egg salad sandwich with extra onion please
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The new Sandwiches of History book just delivered. This will be a tasty exploration.

Whoa. Is Vegemite and cheese sanga in there?
- Nope

Made a thread for tomorrow :)

Just finished the first episode of British Bake Off and was good.

oh noes, I just did too. I'll delete mine.
thank you, 😘😘
Good night , sweet dreams
- The one time I made one, it was two minutes after you had already made it. 🤫

Oh man. My body hates me for trying to move around.

And Melbcat has another uti ;-;

Sorry, it was 15 minutes away from midnight so I waited and then got sidetracked.

I posted the thread early so wait and then check if there isn't one already
- Are we ever gonna fix the bot? Again saying, super happy to help.
I recall you are using iPhone? Can just say to siri "set timer for 12am" and it'll set a timer (not alarm).
- I could have set a timer yeah. I just wasn’t sure if I was def on DT duty or not

It'll be a miracle today if I get any quiet time at work today.

On to my 4th coffee now, I could make it to 5 today the rate I'm going!

Looking forward to the end of the day and pondering if I should go get some more groceries or just go straight home and worry about it later in the week.

be careful with that stuff
years ago I was studying my arse off for exams and had so much coffee I got palpitations
( I totes aced the exams tho, average of 90 over everything )
- Thankfully it's only instant coffee, it's weak as piss as well.
- I've done that too. Also got quite nauseous and felt generally unwell. I was about to go to the doctor when I realised what the cause was, I've been careful to limit my caffeine intake ever since.

What's the best way to get white socks / clothes looking like new again? In hindsight, not the greatest idea to wear new white crew socks on a dusty hike. I soaked in Napisan for hours before washing but they still look dirty.

Sards wonder soap. Put a sock on each hand, grab the wet soap and lather the shit out of them, then chuck them in the wash with the soap still on.
- ok, I might try that with some cool tea towels I've got that I just can't get white
  ( and it's no wonder my nails are always wrecked )

This morning we have cheesy, chilli, paprika tuna rice 🍚

Can we come to an arrangement in which you make me breakfast regularly?
- $100 a pop and your own transportation