if you don't use facebook, what social media do you use to stay in contact with family?
if you don't use facebook, what social media do you use to stay in contact with family?
if you don't use facebook, what social media do you use to stay in contact with family?
There are also these crazy things called SMS and phone calls
I don't. They have my phone number. They can text or call.
Same. I have no desire to be informed every time someone takes a shit, or does something AmaZIng!
Send me a text or call me. The family and friends I want to talk to will make an effort. The rest I don't really need to know about.
Yeah we have one big group chat. And even that I have on mute. Some people glean energy from constantly seeing updates in other peoples lives. I’m the opposite, if you need something from me just call or text. It’s been 6 years or so since I deleted my Facebook and instagram. Don’t miss it at all
I don't use social media to stay in contact with family; I use various messaging/call technologies.
I know where they live and have their phone number
SMS and telephone and IRL.
I haven't used Facebook for over ten years. I was using Instagram for a while but the algorithm makes using it utterly pointless.
Do you really need to be on top of everyone all the time? Give your relationships room to breathe. Allow yourself to have engaging conversations with people to catch up and get to know them and the things that matter most to them. Allow yourself the liberty of not knowing the most ridiculous crap that they choose to share with the world.
Edit: Oh! I have a friend who I turned on to GroupMe a long time ago. He and his family still use it regularly. So, if you're looking for something, give that a look.
A private Signal group for nobody besides us.
Yeah same here, we even have a bunch of different groups like a sort of venn diagram. Works perfectly well including meetups.
Yeah it took a while to get everyone onboard but signal has been the only messaging app that I use. Now even some of my friends and family use it for chats I’m not part of.
I donate $1/year per person I convinced to use it.
They’ve been informed that if they’d like me to know something, they’ll have to tell me. As it turns out, the phone works as a phone too!
Seriously, has everyone forgotten what a "phone" is? I mean I have trouble hearing and don't like to hold long conversations on the phone, but it's still one of the quickest ways to get in touch with someone.
My phone number.
And christmas cards every year.
I don’t use any social media. I give my phone number to family members. They can call/text if they want to reach me.
Texting?? I also use this technological innovation called living with your parents.
Stay in contact with family? No thanks
Had to scroll too far down to find this. Amen.
Signal
Via my spouse.
Me too. And SMS since we are on mix of Android and Apple.
You feel like you can't disconnect from these things, but you can. Group text plus family learn quickly that you're outside of social media. They learn to deliberately send photos or call and if your spouse is more social, they become the conduit for "news" and it's filtered down to you when important
Simple. My sister keeps in touch with the family via Facebook and I keep in touch with her by phone. 😁
I dont
I use this alien technology called a phone.
I call them
None, I like it that way. I also don"t pick up the phone when they call.
I have a few friends though, we Signal.
Signal for whole family chat; phone and SMS variously; discord for some
Signal
Signal groups, works great
Not social media, just Signal. I was able to convince them to use Signal even just for our own family group chats.
I just text and email, also actual mail.
Why would I stay in touch with family? Those people suck.
Giant group texts. One has over 30 people, mostly used for baby/marriage announcements. Then a bunch of other group texts for different social groups (stoners, siblings, camping, etc).
Telegram group chats. It's perfect.
They can suck my balls on WhatsApp
a phone number
If my family isn't on Steam Chat, then we don't speak.
i pick up my phone and call em....
I don't use social media to stay connected with family. I lift up the phone, go visit, or if we need to communicate online, I have an XMPP server for the family with end to end encryption. Can share pictures, text, and can even do video calls if need be, send files, and so on.
Don't see the need to involve any kind of social media.
Bold of you to assume that I have family that I want to keep in touch with. Entire family tree is twisted and gnarled, and full of white-trash sociopaths and narcissists.
For the one remaining person I might keep in touch with, it’s a text message at holidays.
My mother and my kiddo live with me. I don't really have any other family.
honestly it's sort of useless for that function. The only thing my family posts is dumb crap. I still basically have to see them or talk to them to actually catch up. As a means of keeping up with people I have found FB as practically useless.
That's the funny part - I don't!
They can text me.
Lol, if I had family in my social media I would have to stop using social media.
Groups in Signal and Threema. For my grandmother, WhatsApp (she doesn't want to use more than one app and her friends are on that one) or calling (because her grasp of that app isn't quite complete.)
Phone, SMS, Signal/whatsapp (which technically belongs to facebook)
Why would I use a social media to do so
I've convinced them all to use matrix with me. For some reason they still use Skype with each other.
Also it sounds like you still use facebook? In which case doesn't that make you the boomer of this comment section? I don't see why you would use a public social platform to communicate with your family - that's what messaging services are for. Also what's wrong with SMS? It's literally just another messaging service, built into phones by default.
also also if SMS is for boomers.
and people's parents are likely to be boomers.
does it not make sense that people will use SMS to communicate with their parents?
something something something I win.
WhatsApp. I'd prefer something not owned by Meta, but tech supporting my parents already costs me enough time without adding extra apps to the mix and all their other contacts use it.
Lemmy is my only online presence. I use.......
My phone.
I don't. Sometimes they send me group texts and I send back unsubscribe.
Mainly WhatsApp. Would love to use Signal but a lot of our family members won't be switching to anything else.
The phone bra.
We text, we chat, we decolonize.
Whatsapp and calls. I tried to get them to migrate to Signal but they won't.
Same :(
Signal group chats
They can hire a private eye and try to find me that way.
They can contact me using those neat little messages that you can send with PayPal transactions
Signal, texting, emails. I've never been on Facebook, and never will be. I prefer to not be spied upon by evil billionaires.
Only hearing from family when they deem it important enough to pick up a phone and call or text me directly is one of the benefits of not having social media presence with non any anonymous accounts for me.
I don't really keep in contact with my family. They can call if they want, and I do the same, but otherwise, we don't interact much. I'm definitely glad I stopped using Facebook, personally. I'm not interested in seeing them fall prey to conspiracy after conspiracy and then demand I participate.
I don't. :)
My younger brother. He's on social media platforms. He's my link to the rest of the clan.
Telegram mostly. We have multiple Telegram groups for family
With Covid and the wake of Covid with a return to various aspects of austerity in the US… well most connections I would have had on something like facebook are now trivial or obliterated. There has been a progressive narrowing among most (not all) of the social circles I perceive including family connections.
I really can’t stand Instagram though so I was already fairly isolated before and I am sure plenty of other people have had opposite experiences.
COVID was what put me back to wh*tsapp now I have a tons of family -and coworkers- convo muted
Only a few friends and my dad use Signal I cannot imagine convince the others to leave meta or instal something outside the playstore like the internet though guyz ITT (still love you lemmings but come on)
I don’t. I’m estranged from my family for several reasons including that I’m trans, gay, in a different city, and a pain in the ass to get ahold of.
When we talk it’s via text
Lemmy. Or the phone, email, actual physical letters/post cards written by hand (people really appreciate these).
Your family is on lemmy ?
Email and the occasional Skype video call. One of my family has a digital album thing we upload to.
Texting. My parents and sister in law keep me in the loop of what's going on with everyone else. I've never had a Facebook and they all know how to get in touch with me if they want to. Half of them won't even talk to the other half due to drama people started on Facebook anyway and that was years before all the Trump shit started. Social media is the worst thing that ever happened to society.
We had a whatsapp group for a solid decade and then finally migrated it to signal last year.
I don't get the point of using facebook to stay in touch with groups of people. For individuals maybe, but if you want to talk to more than one person, it's pretty useless.
I don't!
My wife does it for me, lol.
I have a group text with my immediate family so we can coordinate semi-regular get-togethers, and I do the same with my own kids, but that's it.
(There's no way I'd be able to get my parents to learn how use anything more complicated anyhow, and just getting everyone in my own household to use a shared calendar was a whole thing. Simpler is better.)
My wife, however, likes staying informed, if not always in touch, and so dutifully does all the obligatory proud parent posting on facebook. She lets me know if anything important comes up from one of the relatives on there.
Distant family stays distant, which is how I like it, because most of them are pretty right wing anyway and the less I have to engage with their gibberish the better. Otherwise I only visit facebook occasionally to browse a shitposting page for a podcast I listen to. It's better this way.
Your comment made me think of this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rQDdmobnGcw I don't know if it really fits your case, but the general message of men oftentimes not learning to keep up social relationships and that it sometimes huts them in the long run might be something to be aware of :)
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Are you me?
I don’t. I’m estranged from most of my family because I refuse to use Facebook.
Element/Matrix
LINE? Signal? Text?
Signal and texting. It's not that hard
The ones I do stay in contact with either call or text me. With the rest of them I only hear rumors and I assume they do aswell.
Signal for a very few, and everybody else I don't keep up with.
Telephone
Signal for a few friends, Telegram for everyone else.
Threema or text messages. Sometimes calls.
Contacts
Unfortunately it's WhatsApp. No matter how much I convince them to get rid of it (because I wanna get rid of it), they choose not to.
Internet. Mostly internet chat and calls.
My spouse, who uses facebook
whatsapp for family, because that's where family is.
nobody uses facebook to connect with family, they use facebook to connect with people from high school they haven't seen in 15 years and don't care enough about to actually keep in touch.
itt: no answer
There are three main themes:
Personally, I'm a mix of 1 & 2. 1 for close family, 2 for everyone else.
Delta Chat is encypted packets sent over email. Easy for whole family. Send, text, pics, files, push-to-talk messages, Jitsi videocall integration
Has an alternate UI too, DeltaLab.
this post is hilarious. half of you were like fuck my family I hate those guys and the other half are talking about texting and telephones like a bunch of boomers 😭😭 (I mean that lovingly)
I mean are you saying that making phone calls is “boomer” now?
I almost hate to ask but you’re what, 14?
no no. the way everybody is saying it. "uh, have you ever heard of a phone". "what, you don't know how to text anymore?" that's how boomers talk. and I made it clear I didn't mean it insultingly, it's just a caricature of a mannerism. I'm 37
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Text messages and phone calls. I don’t need to see my boomer relatives racist posts.
That was disappointing, when you grow up thinking your parents are progressive and then as old age and its symptoms happen their guards drop and you find out that they always had some racist tendencies. I guess credit to them suppressing them for so long.
In my parents' old age they've gotten more progressive. I reject the notion that people naturally trend towards conservativism as they age... I just think there are a fuckton of entitled "I got mine" boomers.
I am originally from the south but my mother joined the Air Force and we moved away after she divorced my dad when I was very young. I’m so glad that I was able to experience life outside of that racist bubble. I’m not sure how I would have turned out had I grown up there.
i really must be lucky because my mum and dad are as liberal and accepting as can be. i guess i was just lucky to grow up in massachusetts and attend a pretty liberal methodist church. my pastor growing up even hand wrote me a letter when i came out as trans and apologised for how some of the church needs to change.
We just didn’t see it in the past because we were all kinda racist. But we grew out of it.
FB got my sweet pre-school teacher who I never, in 30 years, saw be mean to anyone turned into a MAGA who hates people. The programming worked way too well.
This, but it was more surprising for other relatives, aunts and uncles mostly.
Like, Jesus Aunt Beth, I didn't realize you religiously watched Glenn Beck and believe Muslims are trying to take over American by genetic conquest.
I'm the opposite. I don't need to see my Gen Z relatives desperate pleas for attention.
My boomer relatives are relatively liberal and don't feel the need to share more than the vacation they're on, the cocktail they're drinking, or their high score on candy crush.
Edit: I assume the downvotes are from butthurt Gen Zers. I don't mean to generalize, I can't imagine anyone doing that when discussing an entire generation, I'm simply offering my own personal experience. When my cousin is posting photos of himself in a banana hammock and my sister is posting daily cringe videos of her words of "advice", AND IG keeps trying to show me this because the algorithm is trash, this keeps me off social media. Right, I should just not "follow" my relatives. Or, I could just stay away entirely. It's fine.
Seriously, every time I see stuff like this, I just wonder if people have completely forgotten that you can text and call your family and friends.
This is the way.