OP, I'm thinking this sounds an awful lot like a support question, because it's about using Lemmy and Lemmy functionality. See rule #3 in the sidebar. You posted so you probably already have an opinion - why does this question belong in this community?
I'm asking because it seems borderline and I don't want to remove it purely due to interpretation.
Please check the sidebar for the rules - we aren't able to help you out with support questions. There's a list of suggested communities that can help you out in the sidebar.
This is a question that would makes me feel out of my depth as a moderator. My first thought would be to see if there's a community where I could fnid help in how to handle this appropriately.
This is more of a support question related to using Lemmy. Please see the sidebar for communities where you can find support.