I really hope that things will be better here for me, that I'll be able to post and comment even though I use VPNs and Proxies, as this isn't negotiable
No problem at all! We have a signup process that pretty effectively lets us verify folk are legit before they join. Once you're in, you can use whatever you need to!
And smart clients/UIs like tesseract realise that the link is to a remote lemmy instance, and then give you the option of viewing it remotely or from your own instances perspective
Reports federate, in a limited way. They federate to the instance the community is hosted on, the instance the reported user is hosted on, the instance the reporting user is hosted on (well technically, it doesn't federate to the last one, as that is where it started). I don't believe that a report will federate to a remote instance that doesn't meet one of those criteria, even if it hosts a moderator for the community, but I'm not certain about this one.
Either way, report resolutions don't directly federate, so resolving a report doesn't resolve it on the other instances. It looks like they federate, because post removal from a mod federates, and removing a post auto closes the report. However, a report that was spurious or a troll or whatever that isn't going to be actioned, has to be manually closed down on each instance it federates to.
I'm not the OP, but their question was pretty much describing me.
For me, it's about intimacy. I value intimacy. Hugging, kissing, touching, holding hands, sharing moments, laying on the couch together watching TV etc. Those are things that I don't do with my friends, and aren't things that I'm looking for from my friends.
Asexual folk have developed language that talks about the way they navigate similar situations. Sex averse, sex neutral and sex positive. So even though I'm not ace, the terms apply in a similar way to my relationships. Using these terms, I would describe myself as sex neutral. Which is to say that I don't seek it out, and I don't miss it. Yet, it's also a very strong form of intimacy, which I value a great deal, and as an expression of intimacy, it's very much something I'm happy to share with my partner.
For there to be a meaningful criticism to be made against people who don't adopt, adoption would need to be accessible to folk who want kids.
In Australia, queer folk have only been able to adopt since 2017. Even for the straight folk, accessing adoption is next to impossible for most folk. It takes years and lots of money, and it involves the couple (only couples, not singles) being greenlit by the birth parents, which means queer and racial bias is another hurdle.
In theory, you can do international adoption, but that has to be by the books, or the adoption isn't recognised. And and that means dealing with the adoption systems of two countries. It takes time and even more money that adopting locally, and most countries don't allow same sex parents to adopt.
Visualize a bunch of children. Some are on the streets and some are in foster care centers
Kids on the streets can't be adopted. The system doesn't work that way.
And kids in the foster system can rarely be adopted. It's sometimes possible, but if adoption is your goal, fostering isn't the way to go about it, because most of the time, adoption won't be possible. Mostly, foster kids get moved around, and returned to their birth families after a period of time. Fostering is laudable, but it's not adoption.
And all of this altogether means that the adoption system is inherently biased towards rich, white straight couples. If that's not you, you're effectively locked out of the system. And on top of that, it doesn't even help the kids in your hypothetical scenario
Kaity and I aren't going to run one, as it's a centralised service. However, people are welcome to create one and share the details here (or ideally, in a thread of its own for better visibility).
If it actually worked, it would be really useful for a lot of people (it's me. I'm a lot of people)