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  • I think the border is in crisis. Our shitty policies make it incredibly and unnecessarily difficult for people to enter the country seeking asylum or a legal means of getting citizenship. I would say the camps of people stuck on the other side of the border, prey to criminals who would rape, steal, and murder (not to mention the asylum-seekers vulnerable to those they are seeking asylum from) are the biggest part of that crisis.

    So I'm not sure if I'd be considered part of that 75%, because my solution is to make the system more efficient in letting people in and started with paths to citizenship. Then there wouldn't be masses of people at the border.

  • I'm having trouble understanding what you mean by this, but to be clear, somebody putting the things you mentioned in their profiles would make them seem rude or generally unappealing. I think that is precisely what the OP was trying to avoid.

  • Not sure if you stopped reading halfway through, but I mentioned 2 clearly visible things and 3 not visible things, specifically because I recognize it's not immediately obvious from pictures.

    Or maybe you started reading on the second paragraph, because I clearly said it's fine having preferences (including trans or not). I also never said anything about "owing" a trans person a date, just in case or otherwise. There's no problem with it being a deal breaker. You're reading things I didn't say.

    I think it's telling, though, that you use the word "tricked." It shows, like my whole comment was saying, that you view being trans as different from other deal breakers, if you think somebody going on a date with a person they didn't realize was trans was the trans person "tricking" them.

  • This isn't a first amendment issue, or an issue of what people should be allowed to say. It's a question of etiquette, and not being rude. The thing is, saying each of those things would drive away more than just those specifically excluded.

    To give a better example, if I were on a dating site and saw a woman who said "No guys under 6 ft," and I were taller than 6 ft, I still wouldn't want anything to do with that woman. It give a completely different vibe, however, to say "I really like tall guys." I get, though, that there's not a positive equivalent for the original question.

  • Neither does a micro penis (or serious erectile dysfunction) and that might be a deal breaker for you. But it would still be rude to say "No small dicks, and don't message me if you can't get it up." But is it worth addressing, prior to being intimate? Absolutely.

  • You should, of course, have your preferences, and your deal-breakers, and whatever else. So if you find someone you are interested in is trans, and that's a deal-breaker for you, that's fine.

    But there is a difference between that and putting in your bio "No Trans People." Is being trans your only deal-breaker? What makes that a deal-breaker worth calling out, but not others? Before you put "No Trans" in your profile, I would ask you to consider that, if you are an athletic person and want an athletic person, would "No fat women" be something you would feel comfortable putting in your bio (even if that was a deal-breaker for you)? What would you think of someone who puts "No black people" in their bio?

    If they have any sense, they will let you know either in their profile, in conversation before-hand, or during the first date or so (before things get intimate), and you can politely end things, just like if you found out they were Scientologists or several levels up in an MLM (or both). Hell, it may take until a third date, like finding out they don't just like, but can relate to Olivia Rodrigo's music. (In fairness, those three were objectively bad, but I don't know any of your non-trans related preferences, so I had to go with some things most people should consider deal-breakers).

    The point is, people look for and look out for a lot of things, but I only ever hear people complain about it being rude to put "No trans." It kind of makes it clear that the person saying it has a particular issue beyond just dating preferences.

  • They're prepping for the first week, and amassing guns to take from more prepared people after that. To them, Doomsday is their opportunity to go Mad Max style. They're looking forward to being the bad guys in every post-apocalyptic film, the raider group everyone runs and hides to avoid.

  • The craziest thing about the Hillary Clinton private email server was not that she had it, but that her predecessors also used private email for government stuff as Secretary of State. Not a one-off, but the norm. Absolutely nuts.

  • The worst was having to self-cath twice a day for a month, then once a day for a month, to try to stretch it out. It worked...for about 3-4 weeks. Then it slowly started coming back. Not what I would call a good return on investment.

  • Ukraine isn't fighting "crush Russia" or "consolidate power," they are fighting to exist as a nation. They are fighting to not be part of Russia, and if you claim Russia doesn't consolidate wealth into a small few while sacrificing their poor as cannon fodder, you're unabashedly lying.

    Now, do Western nations take advantage of this to severely weaken with no personal loss of life or territory? Absolutely. But just because it benefits the West doesn't mean it doesn't also benefit Ukraine.

  • I bleed and hurt if I pee sitting down (urethral stricture, had some stuff done, but looking to probably get stints installed), so I pee standing up even if I do have to poop.

    Side note, I had no idea how truly awful most urologists (at least in New Jersey) were until I had to get this addressed. It took two years and three doctors (in two different urology systems with many locations, one of which was clearly more of a cash grab than actually giving care), and it was only when I wad getting a vasectomy done an hour and a half away from my house (closest doctor with more than a 2-star rating and with no horror stories) that he was horrified the previous doctor said "make an appointment if it gets worse" in response to blood and pain when urinating.

    The first two also seemed to refuse to accept that my 10-year married ass didn't have an STI despite multiple tests from multiple sources to the contrary and me adamantly expressing that it wasn't a "burning" pain, it was a "tearing" pain.

    Sorry, long rant, but yeah, some of us can't really pee sitting down.

  • It's interesting that only one out of the lot of them was (at least within the last 6 months) gay. All the rest with same-sex relations were bisexual (at least within the last 6 months).