RQG @ RQG @lemmy.world

German, Dad, GM , Mini Painter, 3D Printer, dysfunctional gifted kid - he/h

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I can relate so much. My whole life has been dominated by hyper fixations.

I can't control them almost at all. Fighting them makes me depressed. If something remotely positive comes up I'll jump in. It's better than some of the more problematic ones.

Some last a few weeks, some lasted as long as 2 to 3 years. And everything in between. I have one hobby that lasted almost my whole life since childhood but a few years ago was replaced. Video games. Just don't interested anymore in my mid 30s from one day to the next. Been gaming since I'm 8. Some fixations come and leave.

What helped me.

• I stopped giving myself shit for quitting. Without the guilt I also found it easier to return to something.
• endulge the positive and social ones. Like my chess one was fun, to play at local trounaments and such.
• I got better but not by much at not overspending on every fixation. It's still a bit much but the trend is positive.
• I realized I have a ridiculous amount of superficial knowledge and okay skills at various topics and activities. People initially believe in bulshitting but I can back it up so that kinda cool.
• I try to enjoy the time in between rabbit holes now. It's tough, I used to feel aimless and sad and out of balance. But these days I try to embrace the calm before the storm.

Time between fixations is usually only a week or so max. All other time of my life is spend in hyper fixated mode. It is a bit tiring and it does control my life quite a bit. Makes life harder.

I don't know how to close the chapter. Usually interest in the topic just is gone from 100 to 0 over night without warning.

Motherquokka!

We got singles, six and ten packs usually.

I'm still going to pretend it is.

Jealous?

And if a train is canceled, it doesn't go into the delayed train statistics as delayed.

https://media.tenor.com/qRq6uenJInkAAAAM/think-smart-meme.gif

Deutsche Bahn has entered the chat.

Switzerland is pretty good at well with trains.

That could be the case. Guess I'm lucky my old ass TV seems to respect the setting.

You can disable auto play in the account settings. I needed to login on the website to do that but it works on my TV now.

No. I dismiss you.

Why do people accept those games and manipulation in their relationship? I've dealt with some shit in my youth but even in my mid twenties I just decided that's now how I want my relationships to be. I broke up over a silent treatment once. She was a surprised Pikachu even though I told her if she keeps this up all day til bedtime and refuses to talk it out, I am done.

So after dinner I packed my shit and went to my place.

My current partner and I have agreed to not punish each other with things like silent treatment or love deprevation.

When there is a problem we talk it out. If emotions are getting in the way we try to calm down first with an hour break or so. And we also can disagree and that's fine. Otherwise we try and find a solution. Together. It's us versus the issue at hand. Not versus each other. Coming up on 9 years together and still madly in love.

You will not own the revolution and you will like it.

The tuba meme would be appropriate.

You thinking those friends married and with kids are not depressed?

Source: was married with kids and depressed for years.

I can still quote that whole speech from heart after playing on the highest difficulty.

5? That's my large Playlist.

To be fair apocalyptic scenarios become more realistic each day. Still wouldn't want to rely on that thing though.

That's what I teach my kids. If you apologize and do it again it doesn't count as an apology. An apology is a promise to do better next time.

That's great to hear.

In my real life bubble Noone has heard of it.