Madzielle @ Madzielle @lemmy.dbzer0.com

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Copacetic has an interesting history. I heard about it in a video I can't currently find, but this article gives some history: wordorigins.org

You just don't get it, you keep it copacetic..

I play bass and I always just listened to the song for 3 hours straight while figuring it out, writing down on makeshift sheet music the parts I got worked out. Could take hours or days depending on the song

Amazing folks can just run it through a program today, slow it down, I bet there is tech that can just, tell you the notes.

Amazing. I still learn manually this way lmao Sometimes I would just be fucking around and hit a spot, and suddenly realize thats part of a song I know, and it would all click into place.

Teaching my son to play guitar/read music this year and the tech today is so good. Hes years ahead of me when I was first starting out.

No tips, cuz I dont know the tech, I'm just impressed how far the tech has come in the last 25 years.

Hey me too.

I joined the Dems for Bernie. Nearly ten years later nothing good has come of it.

If they prop of AOC I will consider it, but I'd rather we have more parties. To only have two is absurd

Bro this series in on my reading list. Its been spoiled!

I'm still read it though, sound delightful

I'd guess young women do this kind of thing more frequently than women whose prefrontal cortex is fully developed.

Some people put expectations on what they want, and then get confused where they can't find it. Live life with no expectations, and you're less likely to get disappointed.

This absolutely. I'm a 5'1" lady, and I do like my partner to be taller than me, but basically everyone is taller than me.

If you lined up every man I've dated over my lifetime, you'd see men from 5'2" to 6'4".

The right people are there for the person, not shallow bullshit. Hygiene is the best indicator, yes. Good hygiene, nice person, you'll find success.

When my now husband told me he was 6'3" my jaw dropped. Sure I was happy (he can reach the top shelf for me) but I seriously wouldn't have batted an eye if he was shorter

Date kind people, not shallow cunts and you should be okay.

I dated one guy who told me he was 5'10". He was kind of a cunt. He was actually 5'7". It just showcased his insecurity. I didn't like that. Wear yourself with pride. No one choses to be short/tall. Accept yourself and others will too.

https://bakinghermann.com/zeytinyagli-pirasa-turkish-leeks-with-olive-oil/

I just made this recipe. I eat carrots raw all the time, rarely cooked. This recipe surprised me, the carrots were very, very good.

They're chopped and cooked on the stovetop, boiled carrots are blasphemy, this recipe was god teir tho

Pot roast? Cook pot roast? No, beef is too expensive, I just cook the pot.

:(

As a mother I don't really care for mothers day either. Nor do I care for Valentine's day.

I am a mother everyday, and I love my husband everyday, I don't need a capitalistic holiday that requires spending money to celebrate this.

I'll take the cake on mother's day, but mostly it's for my kid and husband feel good for doing something, not because I expect it. Corpo holidays can fuck off wirh their expectations, yes

We learn from our mistakes don't we? Hows it go, it's only truly a mistake if we don't learn from it.

It's still your liberation day, and I still wish you the best in finding what you need in life. Love a good fresh start, be kind to yourself out there, stay genuine to your heart.

I know it can be fixed. It takes time for cultures to shift, but there is a solution.

Voice your frustrations, always voice your frustrations. Lead by example and be vulnerable in front of other men. Never silence your voice, I hear you here. Loud and clear.

..the plot thickens lol

"nobody cares about a man's suffering" This is simply untrue and I can't take your story seriously after reading this line, it does sound like youve begun to work on some stuff for yourself, but might be some more to go still. I still got shit,

I've watched nearly every man in my bloodline go down the shitty, self hating, misogynistic, alcoholic poor me sad life cycle my entire life. It saddens me most that a lot of these guys had/have great parts about them but choose not to work out their demons, go to a therapist or take accountability for their own actions.

It saddens me the most to watch a man go through life feeling alone, ashamed, and unable to talk about how he is feeling. To watch them chose "masculine" coping, ie: drinking beer and whiskey, while making wife bad jokes and watching action movies to drown out the brain noise. I breifly dated a man who told me he didnt like looking in the mirror because he hated himself so much it made him want to punch the mirror, so he just avoided the mirror. He never went to therapy but came home with a six pack of beer everyday from work religiously. It's fucking sad, and I hope that guy is doing better today.

And to mention, easily a third of the men I have dated/known/or were family, as young boys, were raped. They just stuff it and live with it. No one talks about how often boys are raped by other men, men they are supposed to trust, and they just go on with life internalizing that shit. Its fucked. Dare I say we need a men's me too? Even one guy I dated at one point told me his adopted father had raped him when he was 12, but it only happened once so he forgave it. They acted like a happy family outside of this. My jaw fucking dropped. Then you see the maladaptive habit, he was the type who didn't wash his ass because it could make you gay. Everytime I hear someone making a joke about a man who doesn't wash his ass, I no longer think it's funny. I think he might have been raped as a child. Imo we need larger discourse about it, because the pattern can repeat. Internalized shame is poisen.

It all feels out of my control so I just try and do what I can for the people close to me. All in all, It's okay to make mistakes, its okay to be wrong, a lot of people, all people, many of them struggle admitting they were wrong. It's also not your fault if you were put in a vulnerable situation. It's not a sign of weakness. A lot of time thats the only ticket to a demon free brain is just accepted its okay to make mistakes and be wrong, and its not your fault if a bad thing happened to you as an actual victim.

No one cares about men's mental health, that's ridiculous. I was 13 years old giving my 40 year old alcoholic father pep talks on how to manage his emotions for christsake. Lmao I really thought I could help him then. I could not-

I have always cared, and many other women do too. But no one knows whats going on unless you use your voice. I've watched so many men suffer over the years. It pains me as much as anyone elses suffering, if not more because yall don't build networks for yourself and often it doesn't feel safe for you to express yourselves, and thats tragic.

I see this rhetoric all the time online and I will fiercely express, I am a woman, and I care. There are others who care too, stop spreading nonsense.

That's messed up. I can't stand people who lie, I'm mad for you

Every time I read about male loneliness, see it in my life in other men, I can only relate, as a woman.

I left a DV situation myself, and found no support anywhere. I ended up starting over in a town bout two hours away from where I knew, and it was literally just me and a baby for four years. Some weeks the only conversations I had with another adult were at work, ir standing at a cash register buying something. I had made one friend, but then she had to go and die. I just had no one to rely on or vent to.

One of the hardest times of my life. In '16 I remember messaging my brother, who at this point I honestly think just lost respect for me for being in a DV relationship, so he didn't talk to me much, we had once been close. I remember asking him to come over one weekend, I had a grill and some food and beers, offered him money for gas as he lived an hour away. He told me weekends were girlfriend time (7 year relationship). So I explained I was really low, and no one I knew in my life had known me more than a year, I just would really like to laugh with somone who actually knows me, like my brother, and be like we used to and have a fun night.

He told me bluntly, he does not feel pity for people and he couldn't make it. So cold. I cried like you would when a close family member dies.

I'm watched my husband win the battle with his alcohol addiction. He had a low tolerance socializing before, it's only gotten worse with sobriety. He's picking up a hobby now, and after four years sober, maybe not making friends, but sharing a hobby with other dudes. I encourage him as much as I can to continue this.

I've met many men who keep social, but I've also seen many recluse themselves as they age, and it's nothing new.

I'm a woman, and I have felt gut wrenching loneliness for so many years of my life. My 30th birthday I tried to work overtime, but ended up leaving, going home to an empty house. When you can only spend $15 on frivious things, I chose vodka, cried myself dry on the bathroom floor, alone, for my birthday. No one messaged me. The guy I was dating didnt even know it was my birthday. I've had so many friends pass away too young, and yeah, I protect myself from hurt by not putting myself out there. Im greatful for my husband and son. Loneliness may appear in different ways in different genders, And the media may take that to the extremes. But loneliness is a human thing, it is not gendered

Im sorry OP isnt getting support, I for sure know that sucks. But at least you know whats real and whats not now. Fresh starts are liberating. This is your liberation, and a chance to remake your life in the way you want. I wish OP health and happiness

This is the evil shit

I too have my best existential crisis while in the shower

I like my junk pile of analog human experience