This is also when I conveniently forget you called, making your preferred method of communication incredibly slow compared to texting.
Could just pick up the phone... 🙄
Seriously, it is the lowest-latency and highest-bandwidth communication method we have, when used appropriately.
Am I doing this right? It's a little slow.
And then I call you again immediately, because I don't call unless it's a very time-sensitive matter... but that's probably why the meme isn't referencing me in the first place.
Yeah, anyone I know who is calling is doing so because it's time-sensitive. All of my friends should know that of me as well. Anyone like the person in the meme would not be a friend of mine.
Mood. Someone has been calling me 3 times in the past days and I don't know who. They left one accidental voice mail that didn't help and didn't text or anything. I'm not going to pick up the phone, guess I'll text them if they try again.
I only accept phone calls from people I know (when other means of communication wouldn't be practical) or when I've specifically agreed to call with someone unknown (like the doctor or something).
As much as I understand not wanting to talk on the phone, I don't get this mindset. Why not just answer it to find out who they are and what they want so you can make a more informed decision about whether you care what they want? You can always just hang up if you decide you want to be doing something else. Or "something just came up, gotta go" and hang up. Why does it need to be such an ordeal in the first place?
Because 9 times out of 10 it's a spam call and picking up marks your number as active so it gets called more often. It makes looking for a job so much worse because I have to answer almost every call. Most are spam calls but I can't afford to miss an employer calling.
Because I find calling hugely uncomfortable if I don't know what to expect. If the person on the other side wants something from me, they can inform me beforehand via a message so I can prepare. An unexpected call interrupts whatever I'm doing and therefore has no respect for my day. If I take the call I'll have to refocus on whatever I was doing again which can take time and will take me energy.
Look, maybe it's because of Autism or AD(H)D, but task switching is something that costs me a lot of energy and causes a lot of chaos. When I get a message, I can easily decide whether it's actually worth my time, and in the case that it is urgent enough I can still usually clean up whatever I'm doing in such a way that I can easily continue. Getting a call forces my brain to drop everything on the spot (leaving behind a mess) in order to focus on the "being social " part, locks down one of my hands to hold my phone, and does not allow me to filter. Combine that with the numerous bullshit calls that I get from companies, spammers, and recruiters and you'll hopefully understand why I absolutely hate unexpected calls from random phone numbers.
Calls can be very useful, but I'm only okay with it when it's expected or necessary. Having a friend or family member call (or better: asking if we can call) because they need to tell me something important or need my urgent attention is the best way to do it. I don't want a message if someone needs me right now, because I could easily read the message only 20 minutes later. Likewise, we're obviously not going to have remote meetings via chat at work, not am I going to game with friends over text chat. But even then it's often not oldschool calls with their horrible quality, need to hold the phone, and lack of video or screen sharing. It's services like mumble or other VoIP services.
The worst ones are when its some office or something and you have to listen to the voicemail and then call them back
Me, explaining to my mother for the 754th time that I would need to check my calendar to answer her question, and that I am in public so I can't do that while talking on the phone.
Hahaha meirl
So I am not the only one who do this
I don't get this. Y'all should talk to a psychologist. Its a goddamn mobile phone. If you don't want to use a device's primary function maybe you should use something else to browse porn.
And if talking to people makes you anxious and makes you feel violated or makes it feel like someone is disrespecting your private bubble...
You should go out more. Without that gd device in your pocket because clearly, obviously to everyone else but you that device is hampering you, limiting you even hurting you.
This is crazy.
I think your comment reads quite combative.
I think with the context of the Meme, yes there are some people who call you and you just know its gonna be a huge annoying phone call that you should just avoid and text the person after because some people just wanna talk your ears off.
I dunno if we have to do the: omg millenials/gen alpha is too phone anxious thing.
And sure its called a mobile phone, but as an argument that feels somewhat pedantic nowadays. Primarily its a mobile internet connected computer nowadays I would say. I use the camera/ texting/ social media functions way more than the real phone capabilities. Maybe thats different for you but I don’t think it’s uncommon that its one of the lesser used functions.
Sure if people are too anxious to pick up the phone and it negatively impacts their life they should get help for it. I don’t think we should shame them in that case though. It feels to me like shaming depressed people when they cannot find the energy to shower, which I would similarly feel is inadequate input.
Not trying to blame anyone or "omg millenials", but it's an actual issue. It's not just the "fear of phone calls", but it's a deeper rooted change in the way we communicate and how it's becoming less personal and organic. https://psychology-spot.com/silent-generation-characteristics/
I agree with you, they shouldn't be shamed.
But it's important for people to understand this is a symptom of deeper rooted issue instead of trying to normalize it. That'll put undue stress on future generations who won't understand why this is the norm.
Just because it's normalized doesn't mean it should be. Several decades ago it used to be perfectly normal and polite to smoke in restaurants next to strangers.
Just because making calls is one of the functions of the device in my hands doesn't mean it's its primary function.
If you disagree with the take that unplanned phone calls without an emergency are invasive, imagine this comment is a phone call and you need to answer as soon as I post it, otherwise I'll be quite upset with you not responding.
I never wanted a cell phone in the first place. I just needed one when my house burned down. If it were up to me, they would never have existed, and the pay phones would still work. Don't you remember how nice going to the movies used to be?
Hell yeah I should go out more. While I'm out, I want you to leave a message on my answering machine that I will ignore if it doesn't start with a number.
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gyhaa’ dayuom!
In this case I think it stands for gosh dang
Friends and family must feel real lucky to have you in their lives.
Usually friends and family actually care about respecting the wishes of the person they're trying to contact. That concept might be unfamiliar to you.
My friends and family know not to call me unless somebody is dead or dying. It's worked out pretty well so far
They're on a whitelist. Random numbers are not entitled to your attention on demand.
Yeah, they are lucky to have me. Instant access to me via phonecall is not one of the reasons, but that's fine because they don't need instant access via phonecall.
Why not just hit the red button so you don't have to wait? 🤷🏻‍♂️
Cause then they'll instantly re-dial.
And you'll just re-hit the red button.