zerozaku @ zerozaku @lemmy.world

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Which community?

You seem to be in very funny cirxles, I want to see funny things like these. Where did you did it? I have left memes ever since I left reddit.

You make friends here?

Favourite interactions...umm my memory is weak so I don't remember anything that is striking. But yeah interactions have been nicer.

Do you think this therapist is trying to market therapy and increase his business? I also think the same 🤨

/j

Same here. I wanted to include it too but it is not as quite bad as the other two(at least I hope so because I can't avoid it). But yeah you never know with these Meta apps.

Young people have Instagram spyware on their phones and old people have Facebook spyware.

Btw Adguard collects your data. Check their privacy policy. The moment I knew this, I moved to mullvad DNS but nowadays it is not stable. (I use private DNS for system-wide adblocking)

Totally agree on the part I have to see what's others doing and do the same. I used to be a "don't-care-about-others" kinda of guy and I have been realizing that I have to observe others and notice things which they do better than me.

She was just only my crush. I thought it would be cool to know her and have her as my friend. Considering her as a romantic partner only comes after I have known her personality and stuff.

Totally agree on how I should get better with small talks. You have given some great tips, I will try to be more open to strangers and apply these. Thanks.

Do you think I really have to go out of my way to engage with someone that I have found attractive? I think it would be way too clear that I'm forcing a conversation in order to make them my "acquaintances". Doesn't that weird people out?

I was watching her only when she was in my line of sight and was totally depending on chances. But guess that turned out to be stalker-like fixation as people have pointed out here. Is approaching them awkwardly a better thing to do?

Yep thanks for the solid advice. Yep I am not gonna pursue her or anything, I would only use these experiences to be the better person in the future.

That was very lovely story of yours! Looks like you both really were destined to meet again the way you did :)

Yeah talking to strangers and practising small talk is very hard and I am actually glad that I have summered up enough strength to do so in the first place. I will keep practising (this not just with crushes :P)

She would probably react negatively if she knew about somebody idolizing her like this because it sounds like obsession, and the grim truth is that obsessions tend to ignore a person's agency and is disrespectful to them as a human being rather than an object of desire.

Ouch. But yeah I can see some truth in that. Thanks for the heads up.

Also what do I do instead, if I form a crush on them and not able to approach them?

Damn. I'm saving this in my notes.

Thanks for the write-up again.

Don't get me wrong but having to report to your accountability partner sounds very daunting to me. I have tried making to-do lists with time blocking in the past and was only half successful with them. I'll try to implement the accountability method in a way that puts with less pressure on myself. Thanks.

Thank you for your very uplifting comment <3

Honestly I am not sure whether I'm depressed or not. Two people here have assumed it without a doubt, so maybe I am depressed. Depression is board concept and I didn't think I come under the blanket definition of it and identify myself as depressed. I cannot really afford a therapist right now.

I looked up a bit on anhedonia and it sounds way drastic than I am currently feeling rn. Maybe I do have it or maybe I don't, idk.

As for the therapist, I really cannot afford one for now. Thanks for your comment tho <3

Thank you I will look up on it.

Hi, first of all you all have been very nice to me putting up huge comments to help me out. Thank you so much. I'm kinda moved lol.

Coming to accountability partners, I think I am very shy person and I don't like sharing self improvement things with anyone irl not because they are bad (I have a sweet family) but I just don't like to share my goals and then get asked questions about it whether it is good or bad.

I have an online friend with whom I share a lot of things which I don't with people irl, and maybe I can convince them to be my accountability partner.

I have few questions about the goals though. Do they have to huge like the one you shared? Do I have to report back everyday to my partner? How do I go about it.

Once again thank you for looking out for an random internet stranger <3 I was gonna reply later to you all one by one, but you keeping the timeframe out for me to check on me had be typing all this on the spot. Thanks <3

Wow. This pic alone made me feel so much better. Such a pleasant vibe.