triptrapper @ triptrapper @lemmy.world

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This is absolutely inhuman.

I'd like to strongly challenge your third point. As others have said, there are many reasons people don't provide emotional support besides "they're not your friends." They might not know how to be supportive, they might be afraid of saying the wrong things and causing more hurt, they might have an avoidant attachment style with a deep fear of having others depend on them. We all have moments when we fail to show up for people we care about, and if we respond by ending those relationships, we'll be left without any at all.

I'm not saying it's wrong for OP to end those friendships, and I think making new friends is usually a good move. I am saying that - when both parties are willing - being able to name and repair those hurts is part of having healthy relationships.

Can you explain what you mean by this?

Huh. I haven't heard this tip. Does this work with most paywalls?

Brilliant.

I've watched many videos of unarmed folks being beaten or shot by the cops, and this one turned my stomach. They were taking turns kicking and punching him in the face. I'm ashamed of this country for acquitting these fucking murderers.

You're being totally real and reasonable. Not sure why you're getting any pushback on this. $40k in available credit is doable by having a few cards open, and anyone who has a history of paying on time should have no difficulty being approved.

If they ask about your weaknesses or growth areas, I've said something like this: "I like to ask questions about how my work fits into the bigger picture. Sometimes this can seem like I don't want to do the work, but I just want to make sure I understand it first." It's a strength disguised as a weakness and I think I've gotten a good response to it.

That's where medical and psychological diagnoses are different. Diabetes has biological markers that we can measure, and DSM disorders mostly* rely on matching behavior patterns to predetermined labels. One clinician might call it narcissistic personality disorder, and another might call it a fear-driven obsession with social acceptance. Which one is correct?

A major issue with the "mental health industrial complex" is that it quickly becomes tautological while appearing objective and empirical. What do we call someone who can't empathize with others and constantly seeks admiration? NPD. What is NPD? It's when someone can't empathize with others and constantly seeks admiration.

I could make up a diagnosis of "greeting disorder" for people who feel compelled to smile and make eye contact when they meet someone. Then I could insist that people who meet these criteria "have" this disorder, but how is that useful?

*I say "mostly" because recent editions of the DSM include, for some reason, diagnoses like narcolepsy which can't be diagnosed by psychological evaluation, but they can be diagnosed by medical testing.

I am a mental health professional, and I can tell you that even among professionals, personality disorder diagnoses are very controversial. What we call a PD virtually always results from significant early trauma. To me it feels cruel and unhelpful to pathologize our brain's survival response.

Also, mental health professionals don't have a monopoly on labeling someone's behavior. I have no problem with people colloquially using the term "narcissist." It carries a different weight when I use it in my work, but you don't need a graduate degree to know what problematic behavior looks like.

I've seen similar price hikes here in Minneapolis. There's a very popular restaurant serving mocktails for $15.50. It's common to see a $18 burger with no fries. I'm certain it's not unique to Minneapolis, but I've been to NYC and Paris recently and was shocked at how affordable the restaurants were. Either restaurant owners are conspiring to price-fix, or they're following other industries and raising prices "because they can."

I assume you know about transdermal patches, and that you just mean the powder form can't be absorbed through the skin like the cops often claim.

Plexiglas tents? To cook them faster?

I can’t do what [AOC] does because we live in a purple state, and I’m a pragmatist

"It's pragmatic for me to avoid making my Republican donors upset." What an idiot.

The submarine owner/grifter may have deserved it, but the sub was also carrying a child who was only there as a Father's Day gift. And honestly, I don't know much about the dad, but if his sin was being rich enough to charter a submarine I don't consider that an automatic death sentence.

Give the guy some credit. He also got humiliated, smothered and face-cranked by Khabib. He may be a loser, but he's versatile.

I groan every time they announce he's on the commentary team. It's clear he doesn't actively watch the sport anymore, and he simply can't avoid hyperbole.

Brilliant.

Oh boy I thought it meant something else! Updating my comment.

Went to the bathroom for 3 minutes, came back and my co-worker had been arrested for gooning joggers that morning public masturbation.

EDIT: This guy would park his car, start jerking off, then ask women for directions. That morning someone recognized him, and he freaked out and drove away. He got sober after that and turned things around.