throwawaysalami @ throwawaysalami @lemm.ee

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Sort these sentences out for yourself.

You can like someone whilst still only wanting one thing to do with them. I guess it's about how much you value friendship in general.

Have you considered you do have interest in friendship and that’s intimidating?

Well I don't have interest in friendship because it would feel like a drag.

I asked her about her day, she told me it wasn't going so well. I asked why, she replied it had to do with stress. So I followed up with whether she struggled with that often. And then she spilled her beans.

I'm good at talking to people. I basically talk with whomever, whensoever I feel like it. So yes I actually have people in my life I don't even like but they like me back.

You open this post saying you like her, you carry on showing us your concerns, but at the end you’re in just for sex- this is confusing.

I mean, she is nice and normally I'd strike up a conversation when I see her (but I'm going to stop doing that). But just because I'm only interested in having sex with her doesn't mean I only view her in an object sort of way. I'm not saying you were implying this specifically, btw. But I hope this helps clear it up a little.

If I were in your shoes, I’d encourage her to get professional help, and I’d run away.

I am probably going to do this.

This particular response shows more human emotion that your formaliser ever could (at least as of now).

I get that it's not my responsibility to make her happy. But isn't there like a soft way of telling her I'm letting this ship sail on without me?

and my AI formaliser helped me to be more passionate

It actually very much did the opposite. Because now there is no actual passion behind it. None, whatsoever.

Fuck you very much, ChatGPT.

I mean, I'll take what I can get (short term, long term). As I said I have never had any sort of relationship to speak of so I wouldn't really know. But casual sex would be best for me as things are now.

Sorta, I don't really care that much for the relationship part. I mean, if I like the girl and she wants to make it official I'll play ball, ya know.

but it’s a place to start building a framework for understanding.

It sure is! Thank you, this is honestly very helpful and intuitive! They way I got confused by the last comment was because I was like: "But I'm already talking friendly with them, that's like the one thing I'm good at."

but then what is your actual challenge here?

I don't know, that's a good question. How to convey that to the other person, I guess?

Okay, clearly you're at the end of your rope here. And I thank you for sticking around for as long as you could.

What about if you don't want anything too serious?

Flirting is just friendly chatting.

Wait, so how is that different with friends??

Do you have to be friends first before you flirt? (I feel like a damn toddler or alien, asking these questions. 😅)

Ask out your crushes instead of trying to force a crush on someone you’re not attracted to.

So you just, ask them out? Do you need to behave any differently as you would with a friend?

Have you ever experienced sexual attraction?

Yeah, like a ton actually. Sorry I forgot to mention I do in fact develop feelings for people.

Edit: I added it to the description now

Okay I probably should've mentioned this. I most certainly do and can develop feelings for people but I just don't know how to (for lack of a better word) make others see me for more than just a friend.

Edit: Okay it's edited into the description now.

Not exactly answering the question here but I am wondering about whether or not this counts as inceldom.

So here's the deal with me. I am an ugly person who is only attracted to attractive women. I have tried dating women who were, for a lack of better term, "looks-matched". But even though we actually connected really well I just couldn't develop any romantic feelings for them because of their looks.

Now this has left me in a situation where I am certain I will never get a girlfriend. My beauty standards are just too high. But I do not blame women for this. It's perfectly reasonable for attractive people to want attractive partners. Hell, that's pretty much my standard as well when it comes to dating (except I'm not physically attractive). So whadaya gonna do?