It was my first summer driving in a big city and I was there for an internship so want aware of how bad it was - I was also young and afraid to break any rules. Ah to be young and naive.
Detroit is exactly what came to mind for me as well. Years ago I was driving back from downtown to Ann Arbor and the interchange I needed was closed so I had to exit in the middle of downtown Detroit. It was pre smartphone days and I was lost at night by myself. I stopped at a red and an unhoused person walked into the middle of the road and threw a coke bottle at my car. Luckily it was plastic.
I was terrified that he was going to come closer and attack my car and me. Luckily that's all he did. When I got back, everyone asked me why I stopped at the light and I said it was red. They told me never to stop at a red in Detroit. Wild city.
“Trump is slurring in a way I've never heard from him before,” remarked podcaster Susan Simpson. “Elon sounds like this is maybe the third or fourth time he's had a conversation with a fellow human.”
I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, no matter how shitty it may be. There's lessons to learn and things to appreciate and it seems like you guys have both covered. Don't dwell on the past - focus on the future and things you do have control over. Good luck to you both.
This is my take as well. My spouse thinks I'm crazy.