@Bitrot Just search for the book you want, and if it isn't on your instance, it will give you the option to import it from other instances, Inventaire or OpenLibrary. Then you'll be able to edit the details. If none of these options are the right ones, you can manually add the book by clicking the last option.
But indeed, it does have a lot of missing books and editions of books. If you do not have the patience to add them, then it is clearly not for you.
Inventaire is also AP enabled, despite being centralized, tho.
@tesseract from a market perspective, it's an okay trade to pay for having privacy, as you still use their services. I also donated this month to my instance because those servers don't get their uptime from the Holly Spirit. But this should come with an audit to check if they are really respecting the user privacy of the paying customers. Or better, some regulatory to figure out if the market price for privacy is justified or is it too big, compared to the amount of data created in a given period of time by the user and sold to the advertisers.
Not to mention, they should overhaul their data collection practices so that you only have your data collected while using the service. That means getting away with practices such as shadow profiles or pixel tracking.
Or they should just use other methods to make money with their service altogether.
@ProdigalFrog I think YouTube urban planning is great for onboarding people, and getting them aware of the issues. But yea, involvement is left at the whim of the viewer. You are the one that needs to inform yourself regarding this.
OTOH, these channels have an international audience, and local administrations work differently from country to country. They couldn't have such great success if they focused on how to involve yourselves in local decision-making in the US, for example. Car-centric infrastructure exists and is being developed in lots of places around the world and takes different forms.
@skullgiver For Apple, the US I think is their main market. Here is still that thing that you need to be rich enough to afford, so this is why iMessage is not such a great thing.
I think that by staying below the EU radar they get to keep their walls for the US users, where regulations are more lax and don't pose any risk for their business model.
@Bitrot Kinda like that. Most friends of mine don't even own an iPhone. Those who do, generally use Facebook Messenger to speak to each other. If anyone is not on Facebook, they are surely on WhatsApp, or they can be reached via the classical phone calls and SMS messages (but I've yet to meet someone who I need to use these with, as they are clearly inconvenient as hell). If there's a group chat, it is generally on WhatsApp.
I heard Telegram is popular as well in the post-soviet space. It is my fallback as well, and I'm not in one. Plenty of Romanian channels (news or organizations), and I speak with a couple of friends from there. I realize this is just "a different WhatsApp" from the POV of a centralized silo, but the features are great and I'd clearly trust Telegram more than Meta. @brisk
@Powderhorn I didn't get podcasts either at first. But they're basically just an equivalent to radio shows, only that you're listening to them recorded already and you can pick which one(s) to hear and in what order.
I am 28, soon to be 29, and I've been single for almost 5 years if I'm not mistaken. I've gone to Tinder, Bumble, Alovoa (despite no hot singles in my area there, haha) and I just grew disappointed. Every time something happened with a girl, we would just hang out for a drink, then went home and never spoke ever again. Either she didn't like me, or (in a couple of cases) I didn't like her.
And it's not just the physical aspect that I am interested about somebody (although it does play a significant role). It's also about how well we click. About the way we think about things, about what our passions are, our interests etc. If those don't match, then nothing can come out.
I've been in a relationship for 3 years before. She looked great, but I saw we saw things quite differently. She was quite pushing for a long term thing, while I just wanted to take things more slowly. Also, she was a bit possessive as well, and didn't quite like that I was hanging out without her - despite the situation didn't even allow her to be there.
Then at a previous job that I had, I met someone that fulfilled all the criteria. I didn't do anything with her outside of work, besides hanging out a few times and talking on WhatsApp, then on FB, but I realized I was spending better times with her than with my ex from then. I tried changing the situation, that didn't work, so we decided to part ways. I'm still in touch with that former colleague, but I was too stupid to try something out with her in time (there were also various circumstances, but still), so she found someone else, and now they moved together since a few months ago.
Most of my dating experience as of late was after that moment, but I never found such a person again. I just wish I had a time machine, so I could go and tell myself to act at that moment.
My advice (and answers to your questions):
You just know. You just feel that the person is the right person. Interact with that person some time and see what you feel about them. It's okay not to be attracted by someone. I've met countless persons that I just had opinions that they just appeared not okay to me at all. I personally still crave a relationship, but at the same time I'm aware that not having similar visions about the world is not going to cut it long term. So I just lose my attraction in them altogether.
If she's a person that I don't know that well, I generally go to a place where I have the opportunity to meet her better (generally a park or somewhere where we can drink something). If I already know what she likes, I pick a fun activity. But yea, as I am disappointed in dating, I am out of specific ideas.
I learnt to figure it out even from the first date. But 2-3 dates would generally be fine as well. Then, again, I am also quite a friendly person, so I might keep in touch even after if the person is okay enough. It's complicated anyway, it's not about time, more about how I feel, as I said above.
I had the biggest success in real life. I met my first gf at a concert, as she was the friend of the gf of a good friend of mine. The second I met in a pub, brought by a friend of a friend from the group we hung out with. Then, the third (which was the one I spent 3 years with), was talking about some classes on the hallway of my college, and the fact that she needed a course. So I just jumped into the conversation and said I could help. My former colleague that I wrote about earlier just looked great, and I just joined the conversation with her. It was her first day of work (or something like that, I remember it was in the first week of training) and she told me she just broke up with someone the other day. So I thought about being a bit flirty with her. I also found out we were studying similar stuff on college and that she also knew Russian and was into politics and had similar views. And as we were still talking, I ended up actually liking her. On dating apps, I did not have the same success (as said earlier). But I tried them because I had nothing to lose in real life. Nowadays, I'm just no longer really using them that much. I feel they're a waste of time and that you just can't have genuine feelings on these. You cannot comfortably attach to someone there and not be dumped, either by ghosting or by being unmatched altogether - albeit this can also happen in real life in a way or another, so they can also be a good lesson.
and 6. - I wrote about these earlier.
Sorry for the long post. Hope you'll be more lucky in finding your half than me 😁
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