I just today watch an episode where someone said "you are the thing I love most" to a person as if it was a sign or something but it's just selective memory.
I'm sorry for being stupid I guess. We are all here to learn.
That's a different story all together. In that case, there really were only 2 options and one was clearly morally wrong so Janeway had to do exactly that
Remindes me of the German card game "32 heb auf"