I can totally see homeschooling as an alternative to the failings of the US school system, but I don't think you can recreate the variety in a public school setting where everybody from the community is there. It's not a want to thing it's a can't thing -- I'm not sure you can have the scope of awareness yourself to expose your kid to everything to properly prepare them.
I have ADHD too and was only diagnosed in my 30s, so I feel for you and your kids -- Make sure they know it can be part of their superpower too ;)
I suppose if the kids in a community being homeschooled are representative of the rest of the kids, sure, but I doubt that's happening, though I don't know.
I am glad I went to public school after starting at private school because of all of the exposure to 'the real world' and all the kinds of people in it.
But Museums aren't what school prepares kids for once they're adults. It's the conflict with lots of other kinds of people and learning how to navigate that in my opinion.
Raising your kids is ultimately about preparing them to be full productive adults that can seek fulfillment and provide a net good to the world once they're adults.
I don't see any way you could create a microcosm in your home (any home) and meet that goal or not severely hamper your kid from meeting that goal.
It's just brinkmanship. They're in a position to negotiate for more than they're normally worth given the political climate/war. They'll position towards that and then try to use it to negotiate a better deal with the west and take the best offer. Unfortunately best offer may be personally enriching not country enriching
thanks bros