Skip Navigation

InitialsDiceBearhttps://github.com/dicebear/dicebearhttps://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/„Initials” (https://github.com/dicebear/dicebear) by „DiceBear”, licensed under „CC0 1.0” (https://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/)LA
Posts
0
Comments
66
Joined
2 yr. ago

  • Older brother: we get along well enough but haven't talked in ages.

    Younger brother: I haven't spoken to him in about 12 years, since I had the epiphany that I don't have to put up with constantly being treated as a lesser person because I'm a woman and have interests that don't line up with his. The fact that he can't beat the hell out of me now that I live 1200 miles from him is also a giant plus.

  • It's been about 8 years since I spoke to my parents, and about 12 since I spoke to my younger brother. They were all different forms of abusive, addicted, and mentally ill, and life without their bullshit is so much nicer. I don't have to listen to tirades about how my interests are wrong, or how I didn't turn out to be the perfect daughter. I don't have to pretend to accept apologies that are only to make someone else feel better. And I don't feel pressured to make sure that my mother isn't feeling hurt or put out by something I do that literally has nothing to do with her.

    It was rough for the first few months, but I'd already grieved for the relationships that I wished I'd had and never got. I'm a lot happier without them, and much more able to care for my mental health now.