Context is everything. Yeah, your wife of 10 years deserves the face to face, more than once. A dude I dated for a few months that showed no emotional intelligence specifically told me he'd prefer a text. I obliged when I realized it wasn't going anywhere and I didn't want to keep up a casual relationship. He then asked to talk in person, though, and I again obliged.
Speak for yourself, please. I am willing to change my beliefs with new information. Unless you have evidence of an asteroid heading toward our planet or whatever, I'll stick with what I do know.
Again, faith means belief without evidence. You have every indication the sun will be fine, the earth will be fine, etc.
Knowledge is built on justified, true beliefs. I know and believe the sun will rise tomorrow. You can believe shit on faith, or lack of evidence, but I'd disagree if someone claims to "know" gods or ghosts exist and ask for their evidence.
Oxytocin is a big one, but I'm struggling to remember the others. I remember that one cuz of a psych class where the professor brought it up as an event that mothers would associate as having some of the highest levels of it. Its considered the bonding hormone, so makes sense we'd bond with our babies so drastically to keep us motivated to care for them after they ripped our lower body apart lol
Woman here in my mid 30s. I went through a few rough relationships, and in the last longterm one shifted my mindset from "of course I'll have kids" to "I won't put my body through that"
Since leaving that relationship, being in and out of therapy, and meeting someone that made me feel love in a way I didn't think was possible, I've changed my mind back. I'd be fine with it if it never happened, but there's something incredibly romantic about it to me. Being in such a vulnerable state where I'd need help but be supported. Putting my body through that, then having a common goal in raising them as a team.
I want to preempt this by apologizing if you are a victim yourself, or at least say I don't speak for all victims. That said, threatening violence - unless as immediate defense - is not moral within my view. I've been raped and had loved ones violently murdered. I would not wish pain on those responsible. I want them to understand and grow as people. Maybe it will never happen, and I can accept that. I can't accept loosening my moral standards and sinking to their level.
Sequestering them from society is more preferable. Requiring therapy. Community service.
I've been in therapy off and on for years. One piece of advice a therapist gave me that I'll never forget is to never stop being an idealist.
I would not be surprised if my chonker baby figured that out and waited until the old lady had hers dispensed then bullied her out of the way. Anyone have tips for preventing that?
Yeah, and part of that skill can be recognizing some meals arent worth it just to enjoy as a hobby. Like I dont fuck with recipes I cant make large batches for leftovers and freeze
I think that just takes a lot of skill to enunciate and hold pitch. It took me a while to hear past the "noise" when I was first introduced to heavier metal and acquire the ear for it. Theres definitely vocalists that don't do it well, but like architects' latest song "blackhole" has incredible range and is catchy as fuuuck
Being caring also involves including their consent in the process. Idk, I'd be really upset by my partner knowingly doing this without talking to me about it. But then again I guess it could depend how they react if I found out before they just admit to it. Like if they got defensive and didn't understand why I'm upset. I'm not saying the whole thing is horrible, just hiding it.
Also depends on the person and their values, I guess. If you value someone doing that kind of emotional labor for you without you having to think about it. I'm very much used to doing the emotional labor in relationships.
Damn. I just realized maybe I'm displacing here though cuz I'm a bit jealous they’re using a method that works, whereas I'm single for a plethora of reasons.
We can't get a dog's consent to engage in experiments. Continuing with this method after realizing and not talking with him about it would be intentionally ignoring consent.
Context is everything. Yeah, your wife of 10 years deserves the face to face, more than once. A dude I dated for a few months that showed no emotional intelligence specifically told me he'd prefer a text. I obliged when I realized it wasn't going anywhere and I didn't want to keep up a casual relationship. He then asked to talk in person, though, and I again obliged.