it_depends_man @ it_depends_man @lemmy.world

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I think fundamentally, it's about what kind of person you want to be, psychologically.

There is no problem with a self image that's not "puritan" and then the actions that reflect that. If you think of yourself as having a style and attitude and projecting and communicating that, aggressively, it's fine to be who you want to be. E.g. punks dressing as punks, "expensive brand stuff", or tattoos or plastic surgery.

Being about your attitude towards other people can also just be "you". So I wouldn't worry about doing it for yourself or doing it for "other people".

I would make 100% sure to talk about it with your husband, this is a thing you definitely don't want to backfire. Maybe be dislikes the idea of plastic surgery more than he would like the new shape.

By contrast, if you work in a public service job, or in a big office and there is competition and how you dress is part of office politics and competition and the difference between getting clients to sign or not, that is where I would say you're dressing for other people. Same if you're in a punk band and worried about not being "punk enough" and getting piercings or whatever because of that, to fit in and not necessarily because you like the idea of piercings.

I generally don't think modifying your own body is a good idea, and it's unnecessary. The whole "if someone demands to be impressed, they are not worth impressing" thing.

But it is your body, do what you want.

Also inform yourself about the medical side of things, as mentioned by others.

I wish you happiness with your decision either way.

idk, I've been using xubuntu for more than 10 years now, I'm not happy with absolutely everything, but the trouble I do have is definitely less effort to fix than learning a new, more elaborate distro.

So, it's a pretty good, common denominator, and as long as it keeps working it doesn't really need to be anything else?

I'm sure there are differences and niches that other distros fulfill better, but until there is a killer feature I'm interested in that only works on a specific distro or works extremely well on a different distro, I don't see the "push" factor that would make me leave?

(btw, that there is no "report bugs here" button that's just built into the window manager (besides the -,+,x buttons) and takes me to project home pages or bug trackes is wild to me, on any distro as far as I know. Like they don't want to interact with users? I don't get it.)

Not really, I wouldn't watch big names though, they're going to pump out the same stuff as always.

I would expect new and good games to continue to come out and I'm looking forward to them.

The same way you take an interest in any other person.

Ask them what they like and why they like it. Make it clear that you would like to understand.

And absolutely do NOT react in any way negatively. No "that's it", no nothing, no "ew", no disappointment, nothing. If he tells you he watches paint dry in his free time, ask him what color and if you can join him some time. And be persistent and try make specific plans, I have relatives I like with shared hobbies and we barely manage to schedule something.

If your son already has a hobby it's kind of easier because you can ask him about things he did and things he finds inspiring. If he's doing performance or sports, you can watch and support him doing that? Shop for equipment together, etc.. If he has a competitive, creative problem don't pressure him and reassure him.

If he likes media, try to lend some of his and try to enjoy it. Usually, even with hobbies you dislike, there is a point where it's somewhat interesting if you are motivated to learn about it. That does take some time though and you will need to invest that time. You can just weave in a quick "... and how is your [x] going". That's reserved for more distant relatives.

But also he's 15 so none of that may work for biological reasons.

And also, it takes two. If you want to bond, but he does not, period, there isn't really much you can do, except persistently offer it.

In a sense yes. Once a company has captured the entire (global) economy, including banking, it would control who to give credit to, who to employ, what to pay them, what their own products are priced.

They could at most reap as "profit" what they give out in credit and payment.

There may be sub-limits for capturing entire industries.

Humor is difficult.

It's tough when it's actually a bad joke or they are telling it badly, but they find it funny.

If it's a genuinely funny situation / retelling, both of you laughing about the same thing and also about how the person in question is struggling to breathe because they have to laugh so much, that's funny.

But it really really really depends.

Basically any movement or prolonged pose becomes it's own exercise.

"wall sit" might not be good for the ankle.

What you can do for your back, are exercises laying on your stomach, and then lifting and moving arms and legs. Up and down, can slow or faster, just holding them up isn't easy either. You'll figure out which poses tire and train which muscles. If you do it straight it's more for those along your spin, if you spread your arms it's more for the shoulders.

Side leg raises are probably another idea that shouldn't put strain on your injuries.

The rest kind of depends how much you can even just stand. Maybe something involving Therabands?

We don't know what an eventual outcome will be right now and it would be... weird to talk about help financing "defense" for years and then actually negotiate for concessions.

It's an open secret that if all Russian nukes would disappear over night, the other members of the UN security council would probably party for a week. The US (and the EU) is supporting Ukraine because that's the right thing to do AND it is in their interest because who knows what a bigger Russia will do next. But they're also doing it because it's weakening Russia and that's also in their interest, even though they would never publicly say it or not with the intensity that they actually think that way.

Long story short, if the absolute optimal (for Ukraine and "the west") thing happens:

• the war exhausts Russia more than Ukraine + supporters
• the timing for negotiations is chosen in a way that is extremely bad for Russia, to the effect that Russia doesn't have to just apologize, return territory, pay reparations, and all that, but ALSO give up other things.
• like UN observers and limits to their military.
• nuclear disarmament
• ???

It would look extremely badly if politicians, actual leaders of nations, were to talk about "defense" for years and then actually ask those things in the end. Which they want to.

So (imo, it's all speculation) it's preemptive PR management that leaves room for that asking for more things than would be justifiable with "defense".

One of the events that comes to mind was a "open" conference at a university that "actively encouraged" "low class" participation. (They didn't say this).

What I mean by that is that it happened during normal work hours and you had to send an email to sign up, but they did allow you to come.

Over the course of the event it became clear that it was a joint PR thing for the sponsors and the university to appear to be "doing something about [issue]", so they had 2 talks, an audience participation thing, where it was very clear that the thing needed most was more funding for people and work material and tools (think PPE, it wasn't that or that critical). ...and a panel discussion between [company] and [5 politicians] that in absolutely no way addressed the issues that were brought up in the audience participation part.

There was very nice, expensive catering.

Pretty surreal experience and something that solidified my belief that some very important parts of our society are utterly broken beyond repair.

To address this concern, CISA recommends that developers transition to memory-safe programming languages such as Rust, Java, C#, Go, Python, and Swift.

If only it were that easy to snap your fingers and magically transform your code base from C to Rust.

guy_butterfly_meme.jpg is this unbiased journalism?

1. the world doesn't owe you at least one morally correct choice. They can also just all be morally bad choices. (hello classical greek drama btw)
2. morals depend on your point of view what correct behavior is and on the social group you want to be respected and accepted by.
3. because of that, morals are subjective, made up, and can be whatever anyone wants.

So xyz being "morally correct" and saying that, is just that person's point of view, and if you have a different point of view, it's just a difference of opinion.

Why the heck would 2 projects share the same library?

Coming from the olden days, with good package management, infrequent updates and the idea that you wanted to indeed save that x number of bytes on the disk and in memory, only installing one was the way to go.

Python also wasn't exactly a high brow academic effort to brain storm the next big thing, it was built to be a simple tool and that included just fetching some library from your system was good enough. It only ended up being popular because it is very easy to get your feet wet and do something quick.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tHjuCuCkHrE

The difficulty with python tooling is that you have to learn which tools you can and should completely ignore.

Unless you are a 100x engineer managing 500 projects with conflicting versions, build systems, docker, websites, and AAAH...

• you don't really need venvs
• you should not use more than on package manager (I recommend pip) and you should cling to it with all your might and never switch. Mixing e.g. conda, on linux system installers like apt, is the problem. Just using one is fine.
• You don't "need" need any other tools. They are bonuses that you should use and learn how to use, exactly when you need them and not before. (type hinting checker, linting, testing, etc..)

Why is it like this?

Isolation for reliability, because it costs the businesses real $$$ when stuff goes down.

venvs exists to prevent the case that "project 1" and "project 2" use the same library "foobar". Except, "project 1" is old, the maintainer is held up and can't update as fast and "project 2" is a cutting edge start up that always uses the newest tech.

When python imports a library it would use "the libary" that is installed. If project 2 uses foobar version 15.9 which changed functionality, and project 1 uses foobar uses version 1.0, you get a bug, always, in either project 1 or project 2. Venvs solve this by providing project specific sets of libraries and interpreters.

In practice for many if not most users, this is meaningless, because if you're making e.g. a plot with matplotlib, that won't change. But people have "best practices" so they just do stuff even if they don't need it.

It is a tradeoff between being fine with breakage and fixing it when it occurs and not being fine with breakage. The two approaches won't mix.

very specific (often outdated) version of python,

They are giving you the version that they know worked. Often you can just remove the specific version pinning and it will work fine, because again, it doesn't actually change that much. But still, the project that's online was the working state.

Easy, join the cult of linux and bow to the power of the cult leaders: "doing math very fast". BEHOLD.

Depends, it's been a bit disappointing to see virtually no change since I started using it, particularly in terms of QoL. It is open source, so that's on everyone, including me, but I had hoped for more speed, etc..

Mastodon is way better when it comes to filtering.

Having the option of a reddit clone is pretty good though and I will stick with it. Who knows when and where it will get that critical bit of momentum.

It's already superior to regular forums, in my opinion, so now the question is what kind of format you want to have discussions in, instead of having to default to forums. That choice is a definite upside and I'm glad it exists.

Sorry, I can't seem to find it, but I can tell you that those filters exist on mastodon. I am using them a lot there.

and it seems like the only people that use Linux are HEAVILY experienced with those things I just listed… HOWEVER… I’m not.

Nah. Or at least, it should just work if you boot from your USB.

Just try it.