it_depends_man @ it_depends_man @lemmy.world

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Also, updates.

"hey computer! Update!"

"Sure thing, here is a list of 57 packages I will update, y/n?"

"y"

"ok... done!"

👌

It depends a lot in which context the "discussion" is taking place.

• at a dinner table it's more about small talk and performing... "social grooming" as you would observe it in ape societies.
• at official events, people either have a job or an established opinion, they are in a stressful environment that does not actually allow them to make rational evaluations
• in school / academia / media, the particular response and opinion will affect your grade, social standing and future career opportunities

In all of those situations, it should be obvious why the "dominant" position does need to give an inch, for social reasons.

Even in absolutely perfect conditions, calm environments, prepared discussion participants, "objective neutrality" towards the outcome, individuals will have different opinions on importance of topics or methods and will discard "details" or see them as irrefutable counter examples.

Basically, there are lot of (subconscious) things going on that prevent an "objective discussion" from happening. I'm sure you can find specific examples of what could be influencing people in specific circumstances once you look for them.

Warhammer Vermintide 2, the borderlands games, the newer Space Marine 2, factorio, deep rock galactic

1. just pick any of the common recommendations. Mint. Ubuntu, Kubuntu... Just search for "which linux distro is right for me" and look at a few answers and pick one. Most of them work the same way.
2. you probably can't use autocad or adobe products. kernel level anticheat is a problem, so games that need that are out.
3. Yes. ...ish.

There are basically three levels, one where you only click everything and it's basically an app / wizard as you know them.

The next level would be that it's possible that you have manually edit a few text or config files to make things work the way you want to, or the best solution to your problem can be a command line thing. That's very mostly "not programming", the command line and manually editing config files can look scary, but most of the time it's completely harmless. This happens, but it's rare and it's mostly simple stuff. The bigger and more used the distro is that you pick, the less you will run into this.

And then the third level would be "real programming" and basically nobody does that and nobody expects that.

4. yes, you can dual boot.
5. Just do it. If you've "built" a pc before, it's the same deal. If you read the manual a tiny bit, it's like lego. It looks way scarier than it is. And if you look up solutions it is extremely likely that you will find a well researched answer that does solve your problem.

please make it die faster, I want for the communities to move to matrix.

No, that's a spike, just like there was a huge difference between 1987 and 1991. Or between 2021 and 2024. If it's same value for this year and it's consistent, then we have a solid lead that it's actually happening.

That doesn't mean it isn't time to panic.

But it's regular, average panic, not special new exceptional panic.

I appreciate the news, but keep it realistic and well sourced. As in, link to the actual publication that makes this statement.

How do I make sure not to become this kind of person?

Just focus on that and you're good.

There are two ways to do "bad things" 1. you're not aware of them being bad (because you never question yourself), 2. you are aware, but you excuse them somehow.

You have already cleared 1., all you need to do now, is to remain strict with yourself to never do excuse your own bad behavior.

And to be clear, I don't mean to constantly blame yourself, I mean "finding excuses to do the bad thing anyway, because this time is an exception". And it's also fine to give up on this later if you find you can't keep it up. It would be disappointing, but any effort in this direction is good, don't let it dominate you.

Also, practice harmless small talk. If your colleague is talking drama, try to shift the discussion and bring up their pet or hobby or something.

then they pretend to be your friend and ask questions about your personal life which I deflect as good as I can.

I'm sure you can find some old boring topic that you find moderately interesting but can talk for hours on? Just use that. Comic book art, a particular species of flower you keep in a pot, 14th century mongolian music, idk.

Makes sense.

Geopoliticts shifts, good idea to just stop, wait and see who's ready to be on friendly terms.

Particularly in Europe, the result is like a few election cycles out. Could go in like 5 different directions and is impossible to predict.

You can do both: encrypt the transmission for security and record it in a tamper proof way for transparency.

I don't think there is a huge need at the moment. Things will probably develop naturally. E.g. if some communities find they would like one, they would start one, with rules, blocks, membership, financing that fits their needs.

The writing was on the wall for PoE2, so I'm not angry or disappointed, I'll see where things go.

I would have wanted:

• less boss fights, not more, I find them bad and boring.
• maybe an interesting take on the gem system, but essentially removing it is lame. They also removed / didn't reintroduce some gems that unlock certain interesting options, so I'm still waiting on what they game is like on actual full release.
• maybe a revision and tighter integration of the more interesting league mechanics (incursion? ava's thing)
• could have done without an idiot plot in terms of writing

the slow combat isn't bad, but the game is confused. You just can't have both fair fights with rare mobs with white gear and white mobs and rare gear. Either one is too easy or the other is too hard, or the items lack oomph. Impossible to resolve.

I agree on the modifier stacking on mobs.

Alright. I hope that I'm wrong too, after all.

The first thing to consider is: can you afford the luxury of picking something you like?

In an ideal world we get the job we want, we have fun doing it, nice colleagues, etc.. This may not be true for you. You can pick a job you don't particularly like, if the job market seems good, use that to just afford living and go from there. That makes it somewhat easy, because you're no longer picking something that's "nice" you're optimizing working conditions: working times, union coverage, how long the education takes, vs. how much it pays. Maybe you find that working in a sewage plant or being a plumber isn't nice, but way better than doing a public facing customer service job. Or working your ass off in academia, 60 hours a week, with the reward of a wet handshake, a mention in a paper that's cited 5 times that your supervisor uses to boost their standing but not yours and a two year timer on job stability.

I can’t picture myself in 5/10 years from now and can’t even imagine what type of job I’d love, bc everything seems out fo reach and impossible, just like it felt when I was 20.

I’m afraid of wasting time bc of my age

Besides the job, what do you even want? And that question is hard and some people don't find the answer for decades, so don't stress over it. Sometimes it takes a decade of life experience to come to an "obvious" conclusion. The trick is that the ten years aren't "wasted", they are *necessary" to give you the context to understand what you want.

We are generally limited in the time we have, but it's only really urgent in three aspects: if you are terminally ill, you are becoming old or disabled and physically can't do certain things and family planning. If you know you want kids, make a plan for 10 years into the future. That's important because the requirements around kids are completely different than without. I don't think traveling with toddlers is smart, kids are expensive, they will eat your time and attention. If you want to get something bigger done, consider doing it before having kids, or your kids making you choose them instead of your "dream". Which can be bad, because you never ever want to think that you could have done X if only you didn't have kids. That's a regret that poisons a lot of things.

Anyway, YOU still have plenty of time. At least 10 years, probably 20, until you even have to start worrying about anything.

Do you care for art, people, technology, animals? Sitting on a couch? Sports? Cooking? Baking? Culture? Anything?

If nothing particular jumps at you, it's totally fine to browse e.g. movies, technology, memes, comics, music, literature, or to travel until you find something that strikes you. Like, do you even know what's out there? How are you supposed to pick something you like if you haven't seen anything?

Society throws a lot of things at you that you are supposed to care about and supposed to do, but you have to actually explore and decide if those things are actually for you, or if you just believe or do them because everyone you know does them or talks about them.

I recommend writing a diary or taking notes on this. Revisiting your old thoughts can be difficult and it's easier to organize your thoughts on paper.

Personally, I finished a technical education, worked in a few projects and even finished a few things I didn't like to test out what I didn't like and want to avoid. E.g. I worked in a city I didn't live in, commuted 3 hours one way every other weekend, lived in conditions I didn't like... It wasn't nice in the moment, but now I know what to avoid.

Final note: statistics say you are not alone. The opposite in fact, lots of young people go through the same issues. So maybe that's comforting, idk.

The problem is that of those 20/30% only 10% will actually get out on the streets so you are left with around 2% of the general population. And that ain’t much

So you do agree?

Getting mass protests organized is a tremendous effort. If you have 80-90% support for something, getting 30-40% on the street is a huge accomplishment. If only 30% support the idea in the first place, there is no chance.

The "mass protest" has to be at a scale, where it's basically a general strike where society shuts down because people are protesting.

That it doesn't work right now doesn't mean they should stop trying.

but a very loud and significant minority

This is meaningless in a country that chooses to ignore public voices. Authoritarian regimes can stay stable with 10-15% support of the population, ignoring protests and complaints.

There are protests, they are just way too small.

Trump hast at least 40% of the population behind him, and a good 20-30% don't care. Still.

You can't organize "mass protests" with 20-30% of the population.

I mean, you can, but they are literally a loud minority.

He does content? He can be a bit aggressive about his topics, that can rub people the wrong way.

I don't think he did anything offensively, legally or morally wrong.

I know just he exists, I don't follow his content.

I recommend these two books:

PR! - A Social History of Spin

manufacturing consent

They're older, but I don't think you need "modern examples", once you understand how it works, the techniques immediately and obviously apply to social media.

I would say, the "real" "actually" is more of that.

The "ackshually" is more knowning that people can be like that and being a bit sarcastic about it.

As in "actually, X, but only someone really sweaty and pedantic would make that point earnestly, which I'm not".

Depends on how smart she is.

To not sabotage things, you can always leave it at a "mix of luck, talent and hard work". And you're working hard, and maybe you even have luck, but step dad might have all three.

If she's smart, you can drop the whole thing on her: first of all, you love her, her mom loves her, her step dad hopefully does too or at least likes her and that has nothing to do with money. Then you can just be transparent on how much you earn, how much time that means in effort, and how much "lots of money" takes to earn. Then you can just do some math, and her step dad's numbers won't add up.

It's a sensitive topic though, you can say your piece, communicate with your ex and the step dad about that she asked and what you said. They might have a different take.

Might even spin it into making her think about what she wants to do in the future.

It shouldn't feel forever. I like that the longest part of booting my PC is the grub selection for my dual boot setup. I have an older laptop that takes about 2 minutes to boot. Not a deal breaker, but a noticeable delay.

I don't really care.

But it being snappy sure feels good. On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 feature making the setup unattractive, 5 being indifference, 10 being super important, booting fast is a 6.