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  • There are "kinder eggs" here now, but they are in no way the kinder eggs that they have in Europe. They're the same brand, but with a ton more plastic packaging so that we don't get all confused about what's chocolate and what's not.

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  • This reminds me of the time that I learned that the correct answer to "what's up?" is "what's up?" At least in the context of that one coworker who would say that to me as we were walking past each other.

    I've since learned to recognize these things as a "bid for connection". It generally has little to do with the content of the question or the answer and everything to do with relating.

    So basically there is no wrong answer. And there are lots of good examples in this thread!

    Personally I tend to answer "not much" as a knee-jerk reaction, but sometimes I'll remember to say something else after that.

  • I think you're still giving them too much credit with the for loop and regex and everything. I'm thinking they exported something to Excel, got 60k rows, then tried to add a lookup formula to them. Since you know, they don't use SQL. I've done ridiculous things like that in Excel, and it can get so busy that it slows down your whole computer, which I can imagine someone could interpret as their "hard drive overheating".

  • Hey bud it sounds like our experiences may have quite a bit of overlap. I think the #1 thing that helps here is learning to have and respect healthy boundaries. Internal and external boundaries allow you to have more fulfilling relationships and feel more fulfilled yourself. These are things that a lot of people kind of implicitly learn from their families, but we weren't so lucky. If you have the option and can find a good therapist, they can help you with this. Otherwise, there are a lot of good books about boundaries that you can probably get from your local library or Amazon.

  • I highly recommend reading the rest of the book. bell hooks acknowledges the roles that women play in inflicting the harms on boys and men. Reading that book was the most understood I had ever felt as a cis man who until then didn't really know what feminism was about.