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I could see it both ways. Crustaceans are arthropods and this resembles a true bug about as much as a spider does, but I’ll give you that crustaceans are probably not top on people’s list of “looks like a bug.”

I lean towards using it for most kinds of “small invertebrate pest,” because those are the factors about bugs that I care about. Even a tiny, annoying hummingbird would only seem like a bug to me until I looked at it, but something with chitin almost always feels like it counts

That’s insane

Yeah, that lost me

Tbh, I’m 32 and if I could have my 16 year old energy levels back, I might be more open to having kids.

My parents were over 40 when I was born. I think about the idea of getting pregnant at that age with horror.

I know that it’s “financially smart” to wait longer, but god, being able to be done (I know you’re not “done” done, but the workload is significantly reduced) in your mid thirties sounds great. Especially if you have a well established family support network like that.

Honestly, having a large multigenerational family you live among sounds way more sustainable than every small family unit having its own. My grandmother lived with us when I was growing up, which was a huge help for both my parents and grandmother.

That’s definitely a bug, just not an insect

I was looking at it more from the perspective of truly wanting to get as skilled as you possibly can. Something with the cache of an Ivy League or MIT is probably going to be better for your resume than genuine competence, but that’s not probably really the case for a school like Smith or Emerson and it’s almost definitely not the case for a state school (excluding some of the UC system and occasional others, subject area dependent).

There definitely are some lazy students everywhere, but there’s also a lot of competition in the entire Chinese school system. I don’t know how many of the lazy students get to a position where they have a shot at studying outside of China, but maybe that’s way off base. It jibes with what my Chinese classmates say about their process for getting here, but I’m not an expert at all. Plus I do actually also know a Chinese student who came to study in Germany against the wishes of the government, so maybe it’s more common than I would expect. Unfortunately he’s currently in China and it doesn’t seem like he’ll be able to come back because of beurocratic Rock Paper Scissors, but my cohort is petitioning on his behalf, so hopefully it makes a difference.

English is definitely a plus for the US, but if I had the option to choose, I’d choose the other five eyes (there has to be another way to refer to them, right?) first, just due to costs and quantity of trump supporters.

Outside of anglophone countries, I definitely don’t think Germany is for everyone, it’s a harder and less useful language to learn than Spanish or French and the weather is not great, but there are also fewer and less fluent English speakers than in Nordic countries (though Germany still has really good English accessibility in larger or more studenty cities). I do think the French language and universities probably also have some cache and Spanish is an incredibly useful language, especially as Mexico becomes a more important trading partner for China.

Micronesia

🤷 stop complaining about problems without telling people you don’t want help. Maybe we’ll both have a better time if we follow each other’s advice.

We have less rigorous education and it costs more than scores of other options. There might be good schools, but I’ve taken classes at Yale and at state schools, and neither was at all rigorous in comparison to good (but not great) German public schools. Yale taught at a higher level, but grade inflation is a real issue for the Ivy League schools. German university is straight up insane to me- I once got points off a student teaching lesson because the school paper I’d printed a worksheet on was not completely opaque (it wasn’t, but it looked like normal paper, you couldn’t read it from the back side or anything, plus they gave it to me). I think that’s too overboard (also I can’t predict what they’ll notice as a flaw), but it’s a huge difference in standards. If you’re looking for the best education possible, you probably want the highest standards. In as competitive a labor market as China, I assume that unless you are accepted to an Ivy League, it just makes more sense to study elsewhere.

Plus the guns, possibility of a trump reelection, and the very strong suspicion Chinese people face in higher level academia…

Wild! Orna is a geobased RPG which has bright purple teardrops called arcane slimes that you can fight.

It’s a pretty good game, but the creator wanted to avoid all scammy mobile game tactics and there’s not enough scarcity to make it long term engaging. It’s very fun for a few months every couple years or so, though, which I like better, tbh.

I still lend people money, I just don’t expect it back, and then it’s a nice surprise

I suspect most of that market’s about to die

Stroganoff, I like earth tones.

Did he always dress like Steve Jobs? I mean, I do too, but it feels creepy

Depends on whether you admit that you know your kid did that and then kept using the service without checking the new terms of service. But I don’t think your legal name is xpinchx, so you’re probably good ;)

My ex beat his mom to death when she, after having bailed him out of jail for a dui while he was still a child and in high school, told him he was ruining his life with alcohol and if he didn’t watch out, he’d end up a loser or in prison. That’s somewhat harsh and probably feels bad from your mom, but it’s also a pretty standard attempt at good parenting that was probably intended to be a wake-up call.

For what it’s worth, she was 100% right, he did end up in prison and a loser.

For context, I met him a year or so after he got out, and he lied to me about basically every aspect of his life, to the point that I only even found out about the murder a few days after we broke up. I didn’t intentionally date someone who murdered their mom.

I had, however, already made bad dating decisions before meeting him, which was actually protective, because I’d learned the hard way not to argue emotionally. Especially important, because I did actually break up with him because his drinking was out of control and he did seem to be turning into a loser (I don’t use the term a lot, but he started casually scamming people for small amounts and kept getting fired from jobs because of something totally out of his control that was less and less believable every time. He just wasn’t contributing anything positive to the world nor was he enjoying his life). I’ve thought a lot about what might have happened if I’d told him that plainly.

I realized after we broke up that he’d been skimming my ADHD medication (along with literally any pills he could find, including some for a friend’s congenital heart condition with zero psychoactive effect) and selling it as Molly to my friends and me. A few months later, my friends and I realized that he’d been the person who stole my purse with my rent money in it on new year’s. He didn’t even “mysteriously find” my phone (it was a tracphone, there was zero value in it to anyone but me) or any ID cards to help me out a bit, just stone cold watched me try to replace everything and scramble to pay double rent with no ATM access in the first week of January. So yeah, petty scams. I’m autistic and a bad character judge (no, really?), he could have literally scammed me forever if he’d had a little planning ability. I know this is coming off like I support big scams, but it just makes it seem even stupider in the end. Like, stealing my $500 rent gets him $500, which is pretty good. It loses me (at the time a college student working part time as a waitress) $500, a phone, a beloved purse, my ID, debit, and insurance cards, which is worth way more than $500. Plus, he again had a trust fund! I think he really did like me, too. He just didn’t know how not to take advantage of people. I have a google alert set for his name and he got arrested for violating the restraining order his next ex had against him to beat her up (not enough to charge him with attempted murder, but I haven’t read the details). I tried to get one at the time, but the process to get one would have made all the information about my schedule and addresses available to him before a decision was made. I just moved and bet on him not remembering the one or two trips to my sisters house well enough to get back there, which he didn’t.

I’ve also wondered a lot about what was wrong with him. He was absolutely an alcoholic, but even if he started very young, alcohol addiction doesn’t immediately turn you into a monster (my sister started in early high school and she was totally out of control with drinking, but she didn’t cause pain just for the fun of it much more than other teenagers, but maybe that’s luck) and it’s pretty difficult to empathize with bludgeoning your mother to death for what should be a pretty transparent attempt to help you (even small children know that they get yelled at for scaring their parents when they wander off- parents being emotionally invested in their kids can’t be a surprise, plus he was generally pretty perceptive). It could be that his mother or both parents were abusive and either the words or the intent of what she was saying wasn’t reported by the neighbors, but his dad still had limited contact with him and had set up a trust for him during his time in prison that would provide him with enough money to survive, but not enough to get into much trouble every month, which seems like a pretty reasonable way for a loving parent to react to something like this- make sure he’s safe and stay in his life, but at arm’s reach. He could also have just been missing some combination of foresight and sympathy for his whole life, but that’s the second worst option. The worst one is that he was a completely normal kid who made one ghastly violent decision because his brain wasn’t yet mature and he was still tipsy, got shuttled off to a crucible of trauma for two decades and then spent the rest of his life taking the resultant guilt out on those around him.

Oh hell yeah, fellow orna enjoyer. I like the arcane slimes almost as much as the deadwood.

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That’s pretty expensive for the age, but cheap overall. I was in a similar situation with my coworker at the same age, but it was luckily about an order of magnitude smaller a loan. I mentioned it to my family and they sat me down to explain that I’d inadvertently given both of us a gift, just mine was in the form of experience.

It sounds like you maybe don’t have a lot in common with those people. I don’t mean that in a negative way, you can build commonalities if the relationships are worth it to you.

When they talk over you, what are they talking about? Try asking about those things and letting yourself get excited, even if they don’t sound like your interests. I once let someone infodump to me about Kim kardashian, whom I was actively uninterested in, but they were so passionate, I still enjoyed the conversation.

Otherwise you can try to do a new activity with them (even if you’re not in the same area, there are are dozens of remote socializing tools that are still around from the pandemic, online party games and things like that).

They might also just be having a tough time, too. I tend to withdraw from my loved ones when I’m stressed out. Maybe they’re not responding to the memes but they still appreciate them.

It doesn’t hurt to ask, assuming you trust them enough to be emotionally vulnerable like that. Maybe after doing something fun, since from the context of the post, I’m assuming you’re worried you might be emotionally overburdening them and a relationship talk (even for a friendship) isn’t exactly lighthearted.