I'm also a mid-30s dude and I can honestly say cooking and baking has probably been the best skill I have. I bake stuff for my coworkers every now and then and it's always a good time. And cooking a nice meal from scratch for a girl always impresses.
Weed does not agree with me at all, it sends me into truly horrifying attacks of paranoia. It effects people differently so yeah it's definitely not "completely harmless."
Who thinks hostels are dangerous? lol I've stayed at hostels all over the world including places like La Paz and had a fucking awesome time every time. I could understand a single female not wanting to stay in a mixed dorm but other than that, they're fine.
I don't have kids and live alone in Tokyo. Space is limited so keeping things neat and tidy is a must. Also idk I just can't relax if I know there is still some small housework to be done (dishes, etc.).
If you have two year old I think you can be forgiven for a bit of chaos! Don't stress.
I'm also a mid-30s dude and I can honestly say cooking and baking has probably been the best skill I have. I bake stuff for my coworkers every now and then and it's always a good time. And cooking a nice meal from scratch for a girl always impresses.