ellabee @ ellabee @sh.itjust.works

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paper calendars work ok. apps are better at collating and predicting based on past data, and therefore giving you a better idea when and what to expect and whether it's "normal".

apps can help you provide a condensed report, which helps when seeking help from a doctor. it shouldn't work that way, but at least in my anecdotal experience, the Dr who dismisses handwritten notes for 3 months, was more reasonable when it was "data collected via app".

I stopped using an app a few years ago, because of privacy issues, but there are absolutely good reasons people still use them when a calendar works.

when we had a lot of cats and the occasional intruder cat, "duels" between one of ours and one intruder were most common. meet on neutral territory, hurl insults, maybe there's an attack but maybe not. and only after sufficient insults.

this was a specifically male behavior, too. we got a young female cat, and the 2 older males were horrified when she came and jumped their opponent. she was very no holds barred, get off my lawn, don't mess with my guys. a different time, a different young female cat was equally willing to jump in swinging claws and skip the insults.

typically the other male cats would be hanging around, observing and jumping in only if things moved from neutral ground to their territory.

in my experience, there's not even as much consistency therapist to therapist, psychiatrist to psychiatrist, as there is in the rest of the medical field.

I love my psychiatrist, but what I love is that she's very much about staying up to date and knowing what she's prescribing, and probing to see if it's working (I am a terrible judge the worse off I am. no, really, it's fine, I can just wake up a little earlier and add a panic attack to my morning routine, don't change my drugs. huh..ok, since we upped the dose, I haven't had a panic attack, I guess that was a good idea.)

I like this. in my family, I figured it out at about 3 or 4, promptly told the 2 year old, and broke the reality to the next two before they could even start to believe there was a real Santa.

instead, Santa was the spirit of Christmas, so any of us could be Santa if we gave presents with no expectation of recognition or a return gift. much more Secret Santa than magical man leaving presents.

this did lead to several years where the youngest would give away all their toys, only to then reclaim them after presents were opened. generosity isn't an easy concept for the pre-schoolers.

I use onenote at work for all my notes. tabs and individual pages let me organize things so nothing is too long to scroll and find what I need. I can put text, screenshot, and hyperlink (to another part of one note or outside link), and a link to a pdf or excel file. I can add check boxes to whichever line items.

once I've got a nice set of notes, I can share either the entire notebook, the section, or just that page with the next person. or if they're a bit of a luddite, I can print it out and maintain format (mostly). the most recent version broke emailing a page, but if you're still running an older version of one note, it embeds it, with formatting, without being a pdf.

got something you need to paste in all the time? I've got one page where each text box is one copy/paste comment. clicking the header automatically selects all the text in just that box.

like OP, I tend to use one note at home for D&D, but if I can find something just as good I'm happy to try it. work leaves me with MS Office.

she doesn't drink tea (yet), but she does know head butting my hand when I'm holding a cup is a bad idea!

My cat recognizes the tea kettle whistle as time to get off my lap. "Up" and "Down" mean the same thing (you need to get down so I can get up).

She's not the brightest, but a warning that she needs to move means I get clawed less.

I knew a guy in real life who got into men's rights and Men Going Their Own Way nonsense- basically, he had sex so he didn't qualify for incel, but he held a lot of the same beliefs.

I was the only woman he seemed to have any respect for. He didn't respect his mother or younger sister, felt they had taken advantage of his dad and were now taking advantage of him. The one girlfriend I know he had, was very manipulative and not a good girlfriend.

I pointed out all the issues with his thinking and his MRA, MGOTW sources multiple times. he'd come back around to being reasonable for a while, then wander back into the toxic wilds of the internet. eventually, I gave up; I can't be the only voice of reason you bother to listen to.

if I understand correctly, it's actually more illegal now, because Texas passed the CROWN act after the previous 2.

I suppose there may be differences that make a difference to the outcome, but it seems unlikely here.

I live in WA state. the state and county response to covid seemed very informed and measured; they based policy on WHO and CDC recommendations, tried to ramp up and ramp down to make it easier, and were transparent with the numbers they were looking at.

We still saw our medical facilities struggling, especially as one of our neighbor states was not particularly great at covid prevention. so when their situation was bad, a lot of them came over here.

when Roe was overturned and abortion bans started going into place, our leaders realized our neighbor was going to once again flood our medical system. so they started stockpiling abortion drugs and doing what they could to increase support.

they're also trying to increase public transit, which I appreciate. it's plagued by corruption and delays, but they are slowly making progress.

I think there's a human bias towards certainty, to believing in true facts. research is work, and when it undermines personal certainty, there's an urge to just go with whoever does seem to be most certain. if you can't be sure of the facts on a personal level, go with the guy who is loudest and most certain. and because people seeking to relay truth will make room for doubt, conspiracy theory guy wins.

understanding probability helps here - if 90% of climatologists are 90% sure of climate change, their doubt doesn't make climate hoax guy right. the podcast 538 covers politics, but goes into polling theory, statistics, and probability in ways that make it easier for me to understand and apply in other areas.

I'm in my mid 40s, high school in Missouri. I wouldn't say they taught media literacy, and despite having a computer lab with the internet, it wasn't considered.

Research was finding sources to cite for a paper and was a big chunk of the grade in English one year. They did cover what were considered reputable sources, but that meant published non-fiction, news reports, and maybe firsthand accounts (consider the source reputation). They seemed to assume we knew the difference between, say, a real newspaper and a tabloid, or the difference between Channel 5 News and Jerry Springer. The idea that the NY Times or Channel 5 News might have bias in how they presented things, and in what they chose to present, wasn't considered at all.

Since this was taught in English, it was much more about using proper citations, not full plagiarism, and writing persuasively. I know I couldn't find enough actual books on my topic in the school or public libraries, so I padded my reference list with the list the encyclopedia used. It worked fine.

To be fair, I do still use questions i learned from that research paper to evaluate info. am I seeing the same info across multiple sources, including high quality ones? can I trace it to an original source, and how much do I trust that source? can I find several high quality, independent sources for a particular thing?

I've had several ferrets, and intelligence definitely varies in them, but it's impressive what their little raisin brains can manage. watching them figure out a puzzle was the most fun.

but it wasn't always fun. I had a ferret with some serious attitude, and he and my sister didn't get along. one day, she shoved him aside with her foot and called him a little shithead. later that day, we found her phone, in it's nice leather case, in his litterbox. he knew exactly how to get even.

same little guy would push open the bathroom door if he could, see I was 'occupied', and then get up to whatever bad idea was the current favorite. it took me a bit to catch on, but I got it after the cute little weasel poked in, then went and dragged a family size bag of m&ms under my roommate's dresser, leaving a trail from my room to hers. little pest knew he had plenty of time before I could catch him at it.

you'll be missing out on a lot of what people are talking about, but you can absolutely play through the main scenario without having any of the conversations with companions. you get the option to hire retainers instead pretty early.

the more recommended option is to engage with the companions and their stories, but be aware that some choices will lead to a romance option. some companions will just be friendly, others are a bit more in your face with the romance option.

I'm not into romancing games either, but there is so much else to dig into with this game. and the horniness at release was a "bug" presumably getting addressed so it's even less in your face. basically - go ahead and give the game a try, if it's otherwise your kinda thing.

I prefer the seats facing each other, but only because sitting sideways to the direction of motion somehow makes me less car sick.

Definitely still headphones in, eyes down. Pretend I'm focused on my phone or knitting, even if all I can think about is nausea, because i definitely don't want another awkward bus conversation. Make sure the knitting is contained on my lap and doesn't spill into anyone else's seat.

the busses were less crowded post covid here, and the solution seems to be fewer busses so it's more "efficient". which is awkward when using it to commute and my options go from "10 minutes early, on time, 10 minutes late" to "30 minutes early or 20 minutes late".

not the person you replied to, but someone with similar opinions: of your 3 examples, only you are still working in the community you presumably grew up in and live in. homeschooling can make it difficult to feel tied to your local community; often, they are perceived as "other" and feel themselves separate, at least the ones I've met. you may all feel driven to work for "communal good", but it seems like it's often done as an outsider to the community. there's no "communal empathy" because you(generally, the home schooled) aren't part of the community.

I have awful social anxiety - when I was little it was just called "painfully shy" - and my mother considered home schooling as an alternative. my grandmother was an elementary school teacher in the local public school system, and said the most valuable thing they taught in school was how to navigate socially. everything else can be taught outside school, but it's extremely difficult to give kids the opportunity to learn societal norms and how to deal with peer groups when they aren't interacting with people outside their small group on a daily basis. I'm honestly not sure how well I'd function in society as an adult if my mother hadn't listened to my grandmother. I learned a lot of my social skills at school, more than I could in church or clubs where the peers were fewer and our similarities greater.