ellabee @ ellabee @sh.itjust.works

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1984, not 1948, in case anyone goes looking for the reference

I've always had anxiety issues, and got to the point of panic attacks before I got help. my psychiatrist says that breakthrough anxiety is normal, when there's something especially stressful. it's not something to beat or get past.

since it seems like part of what is causing (perfectly natural) anxiety is that you don't know what to expect, why don't you reach out to the dentist to ask what to expect? maybe do a little research, if that won't send you panicking about the worst case scenarios you come across?

anxiety helps us look and plan for all sorts of future scenarios. if you can't eliminate it, try to direct it into things you can plan and prepare for. and if it's still interfering a lot with your life, talk to your Dr about changing the meds.

that's not what's meant. they mean, how long you've had an account with them, whether you have multiple accounts or loans with the institution, if you've been late in paying or carried very minimal balances or have a history of harassing customer service to the point customer service felt the need to record it.

it's your relationship with the institution, not the ceo, and whether you've been a good customer or not really.

I've allowed my partner to refer to me as girlfriend to make discussion with others easier. I don't love it, it doesn't sound like a longterm adult relationship, but I recognize it's easier to say "my wife and my girlfriend".

and both of us go to family Christmas, though not everyone needs to know relationship status.

... you're absolutely right about the scheduling thing though.

I had ferrets for a while. they liked to steal and hide things. you learn to check under the couch weekly just so you don't find things by smell. and hope it's not somehow inside the couch.

mostly it was the one guy, who preferred his chips and sweets, but knew his sister liked other things. she didn't eat tomatoes or apples or fruit, but he'd carry that stinky orange down stairs for her, lips peeled back so he didn't have to taste it too much.

not the OP you replied to, but someone else who loves the Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain book.

I think 5 days is ambitious. but a lot of what the exercises are doing is training you to see a different way. so it's not impossible.

someone neurodivergent may struggle to get what the exercises are trying to teach or to reach the point they're aiming for, so it might take them longer. those more inclined to pick it up faster probably aren't going to need the exercises in the book; it's already natural to them.

as we grow up, we learn "this is what a tree looks like, this is a dog looks like, this is what a car looks like", etc etc. the way we see a new car then goes through that filter of "this is what a car looks like". those filters are great for quickly identifying things and generally being a human in the world, so you don't get hit by a car while you're still figuring out if it is a car.

but those filters get in the way of drawing accurately. your eyes aren't literally filtering anything; that's all in your brain. so you need to learn to stop that part of your brain when you draw. that's the biggest part of being able to draw decently. the rest is technical skill you get with practice.

I'd still recommend the original OP look for an artist collaborator, since children's books need the illustrations to be as strong as the writing. there's no way to get there in just 5 days.

I'm sorry for this. I adore seeing men being fathers, being positive adults in the lives of children. my own dad was more absent than not, but my grandfathers taught me a lot about how to be a decent human being, how to have relationships with others.

please don't be absent for your daughter just because too many people have forgotten men are also capable of being nurturing adults for children.

there's a whole 2 of us! seriously though, if there's pink it gives me a stomach ache. as I've gotten older I can just about tolerate a medium well, but I still prefer well done.

as long as you don't think the function bar is a search bar. coworker opened my excel spreadsheet and I guess thought it functioned like Google?

I was right behind her to train so no formulas were injured.

oh weird, Lexapro failed entirely at managing my anxiety. worked great on the depression side, which meant that dampener of the anxiety wasn't in effect. spiraled quick, had to email the doc for an emergency appointment.

Effexor (venlaxafine) is the first SNRI I've tried and it's been like magic.

same with ferrets. if you don't give them outlets to be "bad", they will destroy everything. lots of pretending I don't notice a they drag the old shoes across the floor to the new hiding spot, or "steal" kibble from the bag. had one guy that would check to see if I was busy in the bathroom before he'd go do the thing he really wanted to do. like steal the candy off my desk.

my cat, on the other hand, just yells for what she wants. worst case, if I leave her alone too long, she might decide she deserves a treat and will get it for herself. from the bag I left on the floor, knowing she could her it herself.

I used to! I picked up a set of Black Co at a used book store to try and loan out. finally didn't come back after I "lost" the cover and apologized for the state of the book I was loaning. but got another convert, so a win in my book.

it depends. I live in a studio, I still have a kitchen trash and bathroom trash, paper towels and cleansers in both. it's just easier knowing I'll always have quick access to clean up a mess. like cat vomit.

ideally I'd also have a flashlight and first aid kit stashed in both places, but those have been less necessary and so fell off the critical re-supply list.

I too am a new to Linux person. I started with mint, as the most like what I'm used to. I like seeing that there are options I might like better, along with why I, personally, might prefer them. as well as why mint didn't rate high. and I like that it's not just spitting out the creator's favorite distro.

some people get decision paralysis, i get your recommendation. but you'll also lose some people if you just give them the Linux that's easiest and closest to what they already know, instead of highlighting how it's flexible and customizable. we need both methods of recommending a distro.

there's plenty of beginner guides telling me to start with mint. I like this picker that considers my interests. looks like I might be trying OpenSuse in the future.

in the same vein, I'm so glad they reprinted Glen Cook's Black Company books, because no one I tried to get interested in them would read them with the old covers. I'm not sure even I did. I certainly can't imagine I deliberately chose to pick up a book with this cover.

then the correct answer from the Dr should've been a referral to a gyno, not "that shouldn't be treated yet in my medical opinion".

and she may not have realized it was perimenopause when she went to the Dr. fatigue and migraines alone could easily sap libido and be completely unrelated to anything "down there".

not the guy you asked, but also .01%. I read. a lot. and I pretty much always have. mostly science fiction and fantasy, but I pick up the occasional nonfiction.

books were always around the house when I was a kid, and we went to the library a lot. my grandma taught me to read before I started school, so that's about 40 years of exposure.

so nearly everything on that test, I've encountered in context and at least have a fuzzy idea what it could mean.

guinea pigs are potatoes. usually you look for the ears, but on a curly multicolor those can be hard to find :)

Roxy (cat) and Jasper (guinea pig)

1. did I pay for the ebook/ have I read a lot of the author's work for free? do I feel like it's worth giving them money?
2. do I want other people I know to read this book?

if either of these is true, I buy it, even if it's unlikely I'll reread it. if it's 1, I try to buy a book I haven't read of theirs instead, but that's not always an option.

I've bought multiple copies of some books because I keep shoving them at people. I've given away at least 3 copies of Feed by Mira Grant, for example.