dream_weasel @ dream_weasel @sh.itjust.works

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Would you agree that it is still poorly advised to buy them a six pack every time they clean their room?

You don't have to say "Aw jeez, teen boys only wanna slam. I better make sure he gets all his jollies at home". Kids will figure out a way, but there's a lot of room for interpretation between "It's thursday, bring sally over and get it on," and "Jimmy got caught with sally under the overpass".

That is a false dichotomy. You don't have to be a direct obstacle for sex or learning to be a person. You can be a realist about it.

So first, this is parent of a guy. This means if GF gets pregnant, you do not know what is going to happen. That's a life altering thing. This should be a huge consideration, and it's not a consideration that a horny 17 year old guy has a really profound perspective on. I remember what that was like, and that was the year I lost my virginity as well.

There are 3 choices not 2, and it's easier to analogize to alcohol, but it's transferable. I don't want to write a novel on mobile.

A) You are the house where your kid learns about alcohol. There is a safe environment and one time you buy a sixer and let them see what it's like to drink them. This is very sane.

B) You are the house where your kid (and their friends) underage drink. This is irresponsible. You do not need to provide alcohol to teenagers whenever they clean their room or whatever. "OH they are going to drink anyway, so let's be safe!" Yo... that's a nonsense argument. You be the parents that go make pickups from any place, at any time no questions asked. THAT is sane. Providing alcohol to your kids, or looking the other way when they drink on the regular is fucking nuts. That is what the comment I replied to sounds like. "You cleaned your room, sure, bring your gf over and bang her brains out. Good work champ.". Are you kidding me?

C) You are the house where booze is not allowed. You pour all the alcohol out in your house because you have a teenager. Your cabinets are locked. Whenever your kid is home and friends come over, you draw lines on the liquor bottles. You bust out your portable breathalyzer and you make the kids blow before bed and when they wake up. This is also totally insane. This is how your kids go out and make bad mistakes.

Your kids can (and will) have sex in your house without facilitating sleepovers, lol. You can be a safe harbor for discussion and mistakes without just serving up sexy time or any other vice in the name of being "approachable and safe".

What the fuck lol.

How is pregnancy less serious than getting picked up for public intox or a ticket for underage consumption? That's a huge deal. If this is your daughter asking you might have more insight, but it's her body and her choice. Getting roped into being a dad at 17 is a pretty big deal. Like change-the-course-of-your-life big.

You can reasonably say that a kid will lose virginity and try alcohol or marijuana or whatever as a high schooler. It's part of learning who you are as a person. A parent should be a coach. That does not mean that you buy the booze, you buy the weed, and you send your son up to slam after dinner every time he cleans his room.

She sleeps in a different room, but sure she can come. And there will be checks that people go to sleep, stay asleep, and wake up in the beds they start in.

Sex happens. Sex is fun. As a parent, acknowledging that is normal. Having good talks is normal, running a hookup hotel for a high schooler is ABSOLUTELY NOT normal. The consequences of mistakes are high. Expect it to happen and explain the risks, but that doesn't mean you should make it easy.

I think the answer is still no.

Have those talks of course. The sex is going to happen around that age, but as a parent it is still not your job to make it easy, yeah? This is facilitating that situation. You can raise a reasonable person but still acknowledge that some things just aren't a good idea.

This reads to me like if the same situation were presented and so says "can my friends and I have a bottle of vodka at the lan party tonight". SURE it's important to talk to kids about this and maybe even let them figure out what to expect in a controlled setting, but the consequences of mistakes are still VERY HIGH. There is a difference between being reasonable / acknowledging reality, and being a facilitator.

No?

It's not like you need to know how to write processor code to format an image or make an excel sheet. You may still be obliged to know more than run a touch screen though.

Yeah except there is a row with 4, some rows with 3, and some rows with zero as well. This sounds like the logic you use when you look at the roulette wheel history and say "ah but it's been red 4 times in a row!"

This comes down to nothing but a purely random guess. Just gotta coin flip it.

Not sure what the law has to say about steps into a pool. Nale have any advice on that? Maybe this is one you CAN just fight your way through.

That's a cataclysm. Capitalism is a criminal act conducted with computers and resulting in violence, destruction, or death of targets in an effort to scare people and coerce a government to alter it's policies.

Nope

We just swap who flies each leg

I need more coffee...

"Ok this time I'll control the left side, you do the right!"

Lol oops.

Yeah I guess maybe no problems after the books. Hard to say because basically all of that is left unspoken. Could be like the ancient tower or maybe no one power at all idk.

Kiwizza is too far

I don't see it.

I'm excited to see if I can channel. Of course, the reds will try to kill me if I succeed... but still worth a shot!

So where do I go raise hell with my reddit accounts that have not yet been banned? Automod seems to catch me fast at high pop subs for posts... But maybe the answer is making comments. Idk.

Yeah this is a pretty dumb take. If all social media is stealing your info, then they are still all stealing your info. This is not "if everyone has superpowers nobody does," it's just a dipshit thing to say.

How dumb do you have to be? By the time you make that much money you should, in theory, know the answer definitively or have a guy.

That part was unambiguous, and the month comment was clearly a joke; however, the very next line you write "22/7". While you meant division, you accidentally wrote common date separator format, which WAS ambiguous and opened the door for the joke.

You could have written 22 ➗ 7 to get the effect you were aiming for ;).