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Granted I'm a lifelong loner but...how do you deal with this? I don't know for sure, but I don't think I could ever have a partner who drives so egregiously dangerous. Not only is it dangerous, but it also indicates a severe lack of empathy for other human beings. I don't know how I could reconcile a severe lack of empathy in a partner like that.

I guess it depends. Does he tailgate out of aggression or because he's not paying attention? Not that one is necessarily better than others, but the intent is different. One just implies stupidity while the other implies lack of empathy.

What you and others feel and experience is valid. It just became a way for me to feel further alienated from the human race knowing that I didn't fit in with the vast majority of asexuals either.

One interesting thing I've found is that those in the community are hell bent on defining every single facet of themselves. It becomes a mess and ends up imo not overly helpful for some of us. With others you just have terms like "gay" or "straight" and leave it at that. I've looked up all the definitions before but haven't found them useful. It just made me feel further alienated from the human race seeing as I do not even fit in with the asexuals either.

I think I just have a problem with the term "asexual". Just look at the breakdown of the word: "a-"-"devoid of" "-sexual"-sex. To me, looking at the word implies a total lack of desire for sex, both in terms of libido (with the self or with others) and sexual/romantic attraction to others. In practice, this is NOT what it means to be asexual. I do understand that this is not what it means for a majority of asexuals. But in that case, I wish they could have picked a different term to claim.

Not sure if the downvotes above are from me somehow offending asexuals. I don't really see how what I said is overly offensive. Sex and romance are absolutely ubiquitous. I'm surrounded by said media every single day...music, TV, movies, books. And I cannot relate to any of it. I remember being excited the one day I thought I finally found others like me, only to be disheartened by the fact that the vast majority of them are still not like me. It is alienating.

I had never heard of this before. I googled it and I don't really understand what it is.

Edit: I'm guessing all of the downvotes are from asexuals I've offended somehow? I don't really get how my personal experience of feeling not quite human is somehow offensive. Romance/sex are literally ubiquitous in media...almost every song, book, movie, etc. involves them in some manner or another. To not be able to relate to something that's literally all around me every single day makes me feel less human than everyone. And to then not be able to relate to the asexual community makes me feel even further away...

Sometimes I feel like I am a different species of being that isn't quite human. I lack a very core set of feelings and sensations that 99% of humans seem to feel and experience. Not in terms of empathy or compassion or anything like that, so I don't think I'm a psychopath, just a bit different...

I've found there are others out there like me, but so rare that I've not met another in person.

For the curious, I'm likely to be considered to be on the asexuality spectrum. But the confusing thing to me is that many asexuals I've spoken to or read about online still seem to experience their own form of attraction and their own sexual urges. So I still don't relate to the majority of them and I find it confusing why they all still consider themselves to be asexual.

Wow, I've never seen a North Korea apologist before. This is honestly pretty interesting.

Yeah, I'll be honest and say that I do not understand what it means to be transgender. And I will never understand. It doesn't matter how many trans friends I have or how many times people try to explain it to me. I won't ever fully get it.

But why in the ever living fuck should it matter whether or not I get it? Just let people live how they want to live!! I don't understand why it's so complicated for Christian fundies to understand that. How in the world are trans people harming anyone by existing? You don't have to "get it" to understand that people just want to live their fucking lives in peace.

One of the biggest things people bring up is the sports issue, like you said. To people's credit, I actually don't think there's a great solution to the sports problem. But pro athlete trans people make up only a tiny fraction of trans people so I don't understand why it should randomly be used to invalidate all trans people.

There are many who defend family no matter what

Yeah, I really don't like this point of view. Unfortunately it exists out there, but it at the very least does not seem to be as common online.

One of my closest friends is like this, and I really don't get it. Imo people with this point of view have often not seen the more damaging side of some human beings OR they seek validation too much to be able to shun those who deserve it.

We only have one life on this planet. It doesn't make sense to remain in a relationship with someone if it's hurting you.

I have a parent who is still living, but that I don't have the best relationship with. He was an abusive husband, but I still see him occasionally and speak to him over the phone. Currently, he lives across the country and likes to talk about moving close to me when he retires within the next couple of years or so. It sounds bad to say, but I kind of hope he dies before that happens instead.

My mom is a wonderful person, and it always makes me feel some type of way with interacting so much with the person that harmed her for so many years.

Many years back when I was in my late teens, my dad threatened to kill himself over finding out my mom had evidently been cheating on him. I honestly thought it was hilarious and I just went to college as normal that morning, not caring whether or not he was actually going to kill himself. I wasn't sure if I'd come back and he would be dead, but I didn't really care at the time.

I don't know if it makes me a bad person, and I guess I don't know for sure that I would feel relieved if he died. But I think I probably would.

I don't recall George Bush attempting to cause an overthrow of the US government before.

LGR???

It's very interesting that despite all of your exposure to gay people that you have this sort of reaction. Why do you think you have this sort of a reaction with two men but not with a man and a woman? Do you think you have any sort of idea?

Is the red one a real pic or a photoshop? It seems to actually look decent with some color as opposed to its normal appearance as a stainless steel fridge.

I have no idea what this is, but it looks hilarious

I got 49k minutes and it said I'm in the top 5% of listeners. So decently far up there, I'd say!

Thanks for some sanity here. Some of these comments are really bizarre.

Look, I get that the system is shitty and corrupt. I don't condone that and I agree it needs to change. But that doesn't mean that every single individual is a terrible person. Some people are too chronically online to understand that life is not black and white.

Instead of "number plate", we call it either a "license plate" or just a "plate". Some states require both front and rear plates, while others only require a single rear plate.

A "tag" is a small registration sticker that is updated/changed every so many years for proof that your vehicle registration is current. The "tag" is often placed on your license plate itself, but some states put the tag on the windshield instead. Some other states don't actually have any tag stickers that need to be placed anywhere on your vehicle even though your vehicle still needs to be registered.

I think the confusion is arising because a user here is referring to their license plate as a "tag". In my experience, this is not common word usage. I've never heard of anyone refer to a vehicle tag as anything other than the registration sticker. But just because it's not common in the places I've been doesn't mean that people don't use the word that way.

I am sorry to hear that tbh. The only instance I blocked was lemmynsfw (altho not the users) because porn kept flooding my screen whenever I would attempt to browse for new communities. I also blocked a buttload of lemmygrad.ml communities before I had the ability to block instances, but I'm not sure if my instance even federates with them anyway. For users, I only ever ended up blocked one person evidently according to my account info.

Yeah it seems a lot of the bigger communities from Lemmy.ml have seen alternatives grow in popularity on different instances now.

Well now you're not making any sense. I don't see "tankie" comments because I don't subscribe to or browse political communities. Yet I see plenty of posts and complaints about said users in non-political communities. Check where we are right now. We're in a meme community. Of course if I subscribe to meme communities, I'll see posts and comments like this. It's not that complicated to understand.

I don't understand what OP is asking either, even with the upvoted response to your comment. What do Mississippi license plates look like?

I live in a different state, and we have the option to have either our state's motto on our plate, or the county that we live in. I chose the county that I live in. When I drive around, I see many others displaying the county that they live in as well. Is Mississippi's system similar to this? I don't understand why it would be a hassle on the part of the state to print different license plates for different people. They already do that anyway.... I don't get how that would be using excessive resources.

When I have to renew my vehicle registration, it is either done online, within kiosks at certain grocery stores, or at a government building within the county I live. It doesn't seem like a confusing or weird system at all to me. But again, I don't know how it works in Mississippi.