It's not about "deserve". Reality has choices and consequences. We don't get to choose how those align, all we can do is try to figure them out and make the best choices. Life is not fair, and never was, and being upset or bitter about that is immature and counter-productive.
Also dirt can cause wear and tear too. It gets into or between the fibers and acts as a light abrasive as they flex with movement. Honestly I don't know where the inflection point is between dirt wear and washing wear, but the minimum wear point is not "never wash".
KDE Plasma may be a lot more customizable than Gnome, so you might be able to find something more like what you are looking for there. I would do a web search for varied examples if I were you.
You could search for more Gnome examples too. I believe Gnome requires more in the way of plugins for customization, so you might have to seek out examples of gnome plugins that customize look and feel or window styling. I'm just speculating here, I don't really know Gnome very well.
Well it might have been a thought about what would be good for you (to their belief), but to be upset that it didn't just make you want to use seems a but naïve.
from a fiction standpoint, you'd probably want to use this in some character having a vision or hallucination. maybe have some crazy religios leader relating it. this is some revelations level stuff!
I could also imagine it as a vision provoked by contact with some kind of Lovecraftian thing.
I think you should have to pick a year and hope for the best. otherwise it's no different then choosing some fantasy past like 'medieval times, but non violent and progressive, and no plagues.'
It's not about "deserve". Reality has choices and consequences. We don't get to choose how those align, all we can do is try to figure them out and make the best choices. Life is not fair, and never was, and being upset or bitter about that is immature and counter-productive.