No, I agree with you. I put joke in quotes because his jokes are bully jokes like "maybe I'll have to run for a third term" where it's antagonist at best or a thinly veiled threat.
If the president wants to be a normal person now and then and add some humor, or especially some humility, that is a good thing. I feel it's important that a president is treated as an at least somewhat common man and not a ruler.
I don't think I'd enjoy the company of people that find Trump's humor to be funny.
With his reelection after all that happened, I didn't see how anyone could argue we aren't the bad guys. We've shat all over our own principles, and we aren't supposed to threaten our allies or citizens.
The "he's just joking" or "you're listening to him wrong" has never been an excuse. The president is not there to "joke." They have a responsibility to the American people. Not some, not even the majority, but all of us equally. It may have never done that, but it was supposed to be the goal.
They are dismantling all the things there for our protection with no replacement. They are threatening our allies for selfish reasons. It is clear who will benefit, and it is only the powerful and hateful. They would burn everything down for a dollar and feel no regret.
Ah, I understand now. My original intent was to say blahaj as a whole has been less alienating when compared to Beehaw. They have a pretty similar mission, but Beehaw has gotten itself pretty walled off from a good portion of the Fediverse to the point where they were talking about taking it somewhere else entirely.
Blahaj has done some things that people haven't liked, but its actions have been more in line with its existence in a federated environment.
No instance is going to be perfect, but instance admins are always going to set the house rules. I'm not going to say any more on the matter than I have only had good interactions with drag. I'm not trans, so I can't speak to his effect on other trans people, but I believe the blahaj admins are. Even trans people aren't going to always agree on everything, and that's when it's up to the admin to define what that line is with an issue.
While their decision doubtlessly pushed many away, I'm also sure they put a lot of thought into their decision on what they felt was good for their instance as a whole, and right or wrong, it's their decision to make. Some people I'm sure love them more for the choice they made.
I listened to both sides and I think I see where both groups are coming from. I think blahaj did right based on what I understand their goals to be. Drag is one individual and anyone who didn't like them could have simply blocked them and moved in with their lives, but so many had to confront them every time they popped up, which seemed like it violated their rules of respecting everyone.
No offense to the other replies, but I don't feel they're answering your question. While the ideal answer is to be yourself and not chasing trends, many people still want to look nice.
I think one of the perks of being male is that there is so much great style that is considered timeless. I'm not very fashionable, but I try to buy things that won't look dated anytime soon.
I found this article that could be of help to you. It looks at 30 men from different decades that show off classic style, and even many of the older ones, if you borrowed aspects of their looks, you would still be stylish today.
30 Icons of Timeless Men's Style: The film stars, musicians, athletes and cultural figures who have left an indelible mark on the world of style
I took a moment to scroll Beehaw a bit after bringing it up. It's largely how I remember it, but the place feels much more tense than before, but I can't really fault them for that with the massive uptick in hate around much of the world.
If one wants a place like Beehaw, I agree there probably isn't a much better one out there.
I haven't checked out Beehaw in a while, but I used to enjoy spending time there. Some people didn't like it because of how heavily they curated their instance, but I really enjoyed how polite it was. It ultimately discouraged a lot of people from going there, which they saw as good, but most outsiders saw as bad.
As .world ramped up in volume, I had more and more to interact with here, and I ran out of time to be instance hopping so I haven't checked what they're up to lately.
Overall, blahaj seems to have done a better job doing something similar while not alienating people. But if you want to see a Lemmy instance that decided to take the route less taken, maybe give them a look.
I hope I didn't imply you did anything wrong in being shocked by what you found out. It seems a pretty normal reaction.
Does them having an OF make what you originally enjoyed of them feel hypocritical? Like if they were for example promoting abstinence, some type of morality, or where they playing up their supposed innocence? Or is it more like, I thought this person wouldn't do something like this publicly? If they got banned for promoting their OF, did you miss it up until now? Or is this more like in the news where a school finds out a teacher has an OF and fires them when it doesn't have anything to do with their other gig?
I understand you being intentionally vague, but it kinda makes it hard to pin down why you are feeling off about the whole situation or what you're looking to get back from us.
People online are both real and fake, and my original comment tried to say that. I try to come off very polite and educational here. That's definitely a good part of the real me. But there's a lot more to me. There's a lot more than I won't always put front and center, but I'll open up if it's relevant, like all the terrible shit I did to people before I got medicated or from being raised by a kind of crappy family and I had no empathy for a long time. I still have a lot of difficulties, and while I can be a chronically depressed introvert with no ambition or self esteem, I can also be a positive and outgoing educator or comedian. They're both me. Sometimes I'm more one or the other or even both at once. T
his person you're talking about can be the same. They can be formal and proper or whatever the opposite of their OF persona is, and then do crazy extreme stuff in the OF context. They've understood and accepted those parts of themselves, and they're not only doing the one thing that caught your interest, but also another totally different thing for another group.
If you just take whatever time for you to process that both realities exist within that person, you will know if they're someone you still wish to follow or not.
Your mind filled in a lot of gaps of who this other person is, based on what you knew based on just a narrow part of their life. It doesn't sound like you have an issue with them having an OF, I think it's an important distinction that you understand what was in your mind is what was odd, as the picture you had of them was so inaccurate.
They aren't doing anything odd, since it is who they are. It's just them. You don't know why they're doing it. They may like it, they may hate it and are doing it to cover bills or something. While you now know more about them, you still don't know them as a whole person.
Thinking about people we like, respect, etc having sex is just not something most people typically do. Most everyone has sex though. Our parents, neighbors, celebrities, church people, racists, influencers, news anchors, etc. It's just we think of all those people in other scenarios first before we think of them doing the nasty. You just basically walked in on someone while they were in the act and now it's gotten your mind scattered.
If you follow them and this has affected you, you obviously like and respect them. That probably means watching their OF isn't the best idea if you want to continue thinking of them the way you were before. You've just seen a more intimate side of them now, and you can remind yourself there is more to them than just what you have seen so far.
Merge Boeing into Tesla, all gov vehicles now Teslas, they already got the space program on lock, just put them the rest of the way into the military industrial complex, he's already got access to all the treasury stuff for unlimited funds, bing bang boom, Tesla is now Stark Industires and we surround the country with the Elon Dome. 😒
I've made homemade tofu a few times before, and while I can't do it in a large enough scale to be worth it, it is absolutely delicious! Even my old hound dog would be in the kitchen drooling more than I'd ever seen her for anything else while I cooked it. It was easy, cheap, and pretty fun making it curdle, but it's also messy, uses a lot of things to clean, and takes a bit of time.
No, I agree with you. I put joke in quotes because his jokes are bully jokes like "maybe I'll have to run for a third term" where it's antagonist at best or a thinly veiled threat.
If the president wants to be a normal person now and then and add some humor, or especially some humility, that is a good thing. I feel it's important that a president is treated as an at least somewhat common man and not a ruler.
I don't think I'd enjoy the company of people that find Trump's humor to be funny.