Your Huckleberry @ YourHuckleberry @lemmy.world

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If there's someone you trust, have them fill out the questions about you.

Theres a list of things that they ask to figure out if you have ADHD. If you have like 8 out of thirteen things you have ADHD. Pay attention to the qualifiers though. To the extent that your life is negatively impacted, and in comparison to your peers. Everyone loses their car keys and wallet sometimes, people with ADHD lose everything all the time, and it's a hindrance to their everyday life. People who know you comment on your propensity to lose things. Everyone hates the tedious parts of their jobs, people with ADHD lose their job because they can't do tedious things.

It may also be helpful to think about the things we can do. People with ADHD can access the expensive creative part of their brain and the detail oriented task focused part at the same time. This gives us the ability to think creatively while doing a task. There's also hyper-focus, the ability to focus on just one thing for extended periods. When the two abilities combine, you can slip into a flow state that can be very productive.

My Mom was a teacher. Her opinion was that bad teachers with poor classroom management skills were causing ADD hysteria. In a way she was right. I didn't have discipline issues, so nobody at school pushed for me to get treatment. I had this story about myself. I was lazy and apathetic. That's why I had trouble doing homework. That's why I failed out of college. As an adult, realizing that I suffered from untreated ADHD, that my life could have been easier...its hard. Coming to terms with the injury that our parents inevitably cause is uncomfortable. I try to remember that fallibility is the human condition. I know I'm making mistakes with my son. I just hope that I'm getting more right than I get wrong.

MeBurger!

Bullshit. Not Science.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8099405/

https://news.cornell.edu/stories/2018/04/analysis-finds-strong-consensus-effectiveness-gender-transition-treatment

That's an important and valid concern. What if the community federation could allow mods on your instance to ban users from other instances? You'd not see that user's posts or comments when viewing a community from your instance. The downside is that your mods would have more work.

OP didn't say force. OP specifically said allow.

This is a really good idea. Multi-instance communities would not just provide content redundancy, but also some load balancing. Each multi-instance community would become it's own little CDN. Duplicating the data across instances does pose a problem of bloat, but I think the benefits outweigh the risks.

That system makes the instance a single-point-of-failure for the whole community, which has been a big problem lately. If communities could easily be multi-instance they would have redundancy. That seems like a good reason to me.

Dopamine is the get-shit-done neurotransmitter. Our brain's dopamine system is broken. Normies complete a task and get a satisfying feeling of accomplishment, that's dopamine. You complete a task and get nothing. When you did those tasks before, and got no dopamine, your brain labeled them as useless. Your brain is literally telling you that doing nothing is better than the tasks you need to do. Better to be lazy and save calories for important tasks. You're not procrastinating, that's something normies do, you won't ever do those things. You're not putting off an unpleasant task, you're conditioned not to do them.

You need to condition your brain to expect a reward when you complete a task. Figure out what things do give you dopamine, and reward your brain with them.

Clean the house - play video games for 15 minutes.

Do laundry - 15 minutes on social media.

I've had varying results combining activities, like cleaning while listening to my favorite podcasts.

It also helps me to spend a moment being mindful of the results of the task. "Look how much better this room is now that it's clean. I'm proud of myself for accomplishing this task." It sounds dumb but it works.

I try not to beat myself up about it. I remind myself that everyone has off days, and everyone deserves some R&R.

I have a carbon steel wok that I love.

I tried to buy a BifL non-stick pan and found that it doesn't exist. Everything marketed as non-stick has some coating that will wear off and become useless. "But what about {brand that says it's not PTFE, PFOA, or PFAS}?" Yep them too. Look up sol-gel non-stick coating if you have ceramic non-stick. If you don't want to have to buy pans over and over again, you have to go stainless, cast iron or carbon steel. Cast iron enamelware is pretty good too, but isn't really non-stick. I'm in the process of finding stainless/cast-iron replacements for all my non-stick pans.

Dinner tonight was one of my favorite meals, BFMC. Bread, fruit, meat, cheese. A loaf of fresh bread, a hunk of tasty cheese, a little bit of cured meat like salami, and some fruit. If you want to get fancy you can add some nuts and olives.

That's how I found the word, I saw that diagram.

I don't think using terms that you disagree with is necessarily a straw man. If we had been arguing about the possibility of flight and my position was that all previous attempts had failed, you'd come back and say, "those weren't attempts at flight, those were bad bird impersonations."

On a separate note, I've got a question for you. If capitalism inevitably leads to people being poorer, why does this graph show that over the last 200 years the number of people in poverty has steadily declined?

I don't want to constantly have to fight against my ADHD just so I can be average. Can you imagine any other disease getting this kind of treatment? "Yeah, you have cancer, but it's not killing you so just deal with it."

I prefer positive reinforcement. If I do a task, I reward myself with a dopamine hit. I play a game or hit Lemmy or Mastodon for 15 minutes after.

“We’ll never survive!” “Nonsense. You’re only saying that because no one ever has.”

I really want to believe that a communist world is possible. Maybe I'm like the pessimists that doubted humans could ever fly. I just don't see it ever working.