Whats_your_reasoning @ Whats_your_reasoning @lemmy.world

In case you can't tell, I'm passionate about rationality and critical think

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I'm glad it makes sense. I'm sorry people are downvoting you for having a different opinion and/or for daring to ask a question about something you don't understand.

It hurts when it decides to show you photos of dead pets, or people that you've had a falling-out with. Sometimes, sweet memories can come from it. But other times, it's a punch to the gut.

You're absolutely right - race is a social construct. That's more logic talk though, which doesn't matter to racists.

Then double their shock - a significant amount of those white people in the US will think your race is "Mexican." Never mind that you're not Mexican, have never been to Mexico, and that "Mexican" isn't even a race.

Logic doesn't matter in their argument. You speak Spanish? You must be Mexican. End of story.

Shortly after entering adulthood, I lost a close friend. He was still in college at the time, a talented, friendly, bright light snuffed far too early. He was well loved and his funeral was so packed that it was standing room only. One attendee described it as "the most depressing class reunion ever."

His loss has never left me.

Right before I got the phone call telling me the news, I had been feeling extremely down about myself. I was crossing my work parking lot (which I had to do regularly as part of my job) without looking up for moving cars, thinking that if I got hit, it wouldn't have mattered.

But that same day, my phone rang. It was a mutual friend, and through obvious tears and a quavering voice, she told me, "John is dead!"

With that, everything changed.

I'll never forget how much it hurt to lose somebody so important to me. The idea of purposely putting my friends through that has kept me going more times than I can count. I have to remind myself, even in my darkest, most self-hating moments, that I'm more important to others than I realize. I can't imagine John would have known just how much of an impact he had made on others, but I saw the proof. I felt the pain. I love my friends and family too much to entertain the thought of making them attend my funeral. And so I push on, but with one change:

I now make a point to explicitly tell my friends how much they matter to me.

It says "using only penises," plural. I guess you'd have to give that diglett his own dick (dicklett?)

Or just make a dugtrio.

Sites still add them because it makes them money at the expense of your privacy.

You can also consider it a form of advertising for the platforms. The buttons not only suggest for the user that they should use an indicated platform, but give them an immediate way to engage with it as well. It's manipulation, all the way down.

Way to absolutely miss the point.

I don’t need to be or decide it and it’s not my opinion: the language community is the ultimate authority of their language. Their collective choices establish observable conventions. Linguistics is dedicated to that approach.

A not-insignificant amount of women think using the term "female" is derogatory. Women who feel that way are part of the "language community." You're talking like we're some outsider group, whose use of English is less valid than yours.

Language has conventional, established meanings.

Language is alive - it evolves, it changes. As well, English famously doesn't have an established body to define meanings. Rather, English words are based on common usage. Women commonly experience the usage of "female" in a derogatory sense. We didn't designate it this way - all we're doing is pointing out that it's used in this way. Just because you don't feel a derogatory sense from a given word doesn't mean those that experience it that way are wrong.

If you had gone out to research the usage of "female," including how people perceive it in different contexts, you'd see just how many anglophones disagree with you. But those people would probably, by and large, be those who've experienced that word in a derogatory way - in other words, they'd be women. So how about we stop acting like this is a semantics issue and get to the point you're really saying, which is that women's experiences and opinions are somehow worth less than yours.

Cardinal Pizzaballa

That cannot be his real name.

Looks it up

Huh, TIL.

If it were an ordinary sentence used in casual conversation, sure. But for a news headline, it makes sense to put the most important information at the beginning.

Or just about fighting each other and it’s all about drama because they don’t have the apparent ability to just simply talk to each other.

Classic sitcom formula. I never got into a lot of the "family" shows in the 90s, because almost every plot revolved around someone being a poor communicator - and that's it. Person A can't talk about event/topic Y, and now Person B assumes reason Z and the entire episode and all its hijinks only exist because of it. Everything could've been avoided if Person A and Person B actually talked things through, like healthy, sane people who actually want to avoid conflict. But writers couldn't think of a way to both model proper communication and create a compelling storyline, so here we are.

When that show was popular, I had a boyfriend that didn't seem able to handle the idea of us liking different things. I never cared for zombies, but I'd heard good things about The Walking Dead and gave it a try. I pushed myself to watch the entire first season before deciding, "Nope, I can't."

But when I told that boyfriend? Apparently I "didn't watch it enough." When I told him I didn't care for zombie stories, he insisted, "But it's not about zombies! It's about the people." Uhh yeah, it's about people in a world with zombies. I could watch a million shows about "people" that don't involve zombies, so why would I keep watching this one that I already don't like?

It makes me happy to see others shit on Friends.

When it first aired, my mom was a fan and it would regularly be on in the living room, which was the crossroads of my childhood house - you had to go through it to get anywhere else. Which meant that Friends was impossible to ignore. Walking by, the highest praise I could conjure was, "Wow, that laugh track is doing a lot of heavy lifting."

At the time of its popularity, I never heard anyone else dislike it. When the show ended, I felt alone in not being sad about it. Since then, I can't tell if people look back on it with nostalgia or if they are truly still amused by the bland, low-fruit, celebration of stupidity that makes up most of that show's humor.

The theme song was good though.

It's been years since I've crossed the Canada/USA border, so things may be different today. But when I went, the Canada side was more concerned about smuggled weapons, while the USA side was more concerned about smuggled drugs. Still, it doesn't take much to trigger a border patrol search.

Apparently if you go from New Brunswick in the morning, spend the day driving through Maine/New Hampshire/Vermont, and cross into Quebec the next day, that's suspicious enough to get detained for several hours and to have your entire car searched at the border. To me it just made sense to do a straight line drive through those states, since staying inside Canada between those two points would have been a much longer, more convoluted route. Silly me, being logical about my route without considering how others break international law.

What makes you the ultimate authority on what terms a woman can consider "derogatory"? Where do you get the power to decide what words other people should use to describe their own feelings? What makes your opinion about it more valid than those of others?

Have you considered that the same word can make two different people feel two different ways? Unless you've got the power to know exactly what another person is feeling, there is nothing that makes your thoughts more valid than the thoughts of others in this matter. Doubling down that "derogatory" isn't the right word to use gives the impression that you don't believe "female" actually feels derogatory to a lot of women. Gotta wonder why that might be.

if that was the correct explanation then we would expect to see (1) people in countries where it’s worse having even fewer children, which we don’t see, and (2) people in countries where it’s better having more children, which we also don’t see.

That's not how things work. In fact, that's practically the opposite of how things work. Increased access to educational opportunities for women is strongly correlated with lowered fertility rates. It's a well-known pattern. Or another way to frame it, is that poorly-educated women are more likely to have more children.

Part of the pattern is missing from this picture too - before this baby bust, was the baby boom, and before the baby boom, child mortality was a lot higher. A lot of medical advancements took place around the middle of the 20th century, which resulted in more children surviving to adulthood. Prior to this, people typically had many children because so many of them wouldn't survive. It takes time for a society to adjust to higher life expectancies, resulting in a period where people continue to have many children just like their own parents did, despite no longer needing to.

However, those high rates don't last. People adjust to the new health expectations, leading the next generation to have fewer children than the one before.

Add in other factors of a prosperous state, such as educational opportunities and access to comprehensive healthcare (which would include birth control), and it makes sense that "countries where it's worse" would have more children, and "countries where it's better" would have fewer. (Check the link above for more explanation. It goes into way more detail.)

That link was a frickin' roller coaster and I'm left with more questions than answers now. From the employees having previously reported that the walls were too low, to the worker who refused to let the young men into the cafe after the tiger got loose, to the random drama about the impounded BMW, to the guys who were attacked having already been facing charges of public intoxication and resisting arrest...

Trump has crossed so many lines but I really do not see any outcry, mass resistance or opposition?

Be mindful not to mistake suppression of dissent with lack of dissent. News media is actively avoiding protests. We’re out there, even if the news cameras aren’t.

According to the article, she first was admitted at 34 weeks.

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