Whats_your_reasoning @ Whats_your_reasoning @lemmy.world

In case you can't tell, I'm passionate about rationality and critical think

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It's kinda... squishy? I can hear my cerebral spinal fluid when I go for walks in quiet places. It sounds like it's coming from the back/bottom of your head, and it's like a light rushing fluid sound, swishing with each step.

Pictured below: one kinky little fucker

I can’t remove accountability from these women for making the choice to marry guys like this in a relatively short time frame. It is, in a way, misogynistic and infantalizing to paint women as helpless victims without agency in this type of situation.

Were you raised to not speak up for yourself? Were you socially conditioned to be held responsible for the emotions of others? Have you ever been like that, and were manipulated by a partner?

I was, for all three of those. Thankfully, I was able to get away from the guy that led me 1000 miles away, using charm and lies. But I was a grown adult, in my 20s, and maybe at the time, I would've agreed with you - not only would I not have realized he was deliberately pulling my strings, but I probably would've been upset at the suggestion that I wasn't making my own decisions. But looking back, I can see how little control I really had. Someone can't give informed consent to a situation that they're being tricked into, regardless of gender.

The guy in this article used "aliases, manipulations, and love-bombing tactics." Such psychological manipulation can mess with decision making, especially if paired with pre-existing issues with self-esteem or confidence. I know the power of that manipulation is real because I, and many people (mostly women) that I know, have lived through similar experiences. It's pretty shitty to tell a former victim that admitting to not having control when being abused is "infantalizing women" and that acKshUally I had agency all along. So many people struggle with feelings of responsibility after abuse, unable to accept that they were misled, unable to believe that they fell for an abusive charmer. To finally come to terms with having been powerless is a huge step and it takes a lot of humility.

So please, just listen to my experience and believe my words. I'm not trying to argue with anyone. I can't expect anyone who hasn't been psychologically manipulated to fully understand what it's like, but it's important to know that being in that state interferes with rational thinking. The closest thing I can compare it to is highly effective propaganda - the kind that is so good at convincing a person of something, that they don't realize they've been subject to propaganda at all.

To Be Fair

I mean...

::: spoiler In case the link doesn't work -

fair [4]: of a light hue; not dark:
fair skin.
Synonyms: blond, pale

I recently learned that there's a group dedicated to planting 1000 trees in the city of Trenton, NJ, USA. I'm really glad to see a city working to bring back a little nature!

Also, if you don't eat when you're hungry, it's not simply a grumbling stomach you have to deal with. Now hunger comes with lethargy, headaches, irritability, and more. I used to be able to fast most of the day without any issue, but at some point in my mid-20s, it was like a switch got flipped. Now when my body senses low blood sugar, it basically revolts against me until I eat something.

I'm saying these women were manipulated and it's not fair to assume desperation, or any motive really. I don't know them, I don't know their situations, but I was a young woman once and I know what it's like to be victimized by an abuser, then subsequently blamed for it.

I've seen a lot of guys on Lemmy say they don't see misogyny on here. But when misogyny gets pointed out, it gets dismissed and whatever comment points it out gets buried under downvotes. Guys. This is an example of misogyny, even if it wasn't intentional. If you don't see it, let me ask you one thing: why are we accepting the assumption that the victims (women) had a motive and that the abuser (man) was just really good in bed? Do you see how that narrative denies the power dynamic at play, and in fact compliments the man who took advantage of three different women?

Did you see his eyes? He's a black guy with astonishingly green eyes. That's enough to make a guy stand out, without his "dick game" even factoring in.

It's important not to discount that he used charm and love-bombing to manipulate these women. That isn't a matter of "desperation" - these women were unwilling victims of a con man.

Yes and no. A lot of the sounds are mating calls, but there's so much more being communicated.

Some sounds are warnings, like when squirrels see a cat and start to chirp. If you watch them, you'll see them run up a tree and pause upside down on the trunk, chirping an alert to others. Other squirrels in the area will repeat the behavior and amplify the "message" until the threat (the neighborhood cat) goes away.

Some sounds are intended to trick others. Blue jays mimic the sounds made by birds of prey in order to scare other birds away from their feeding grounds. It works really well - I've seen a jay clear a whole flock of starlings from my yard before. He then swooped down and plucked a bunch of worms and bugs from the soil.

There's probably more, but these are just examples I've observed while hanging out on my porch.

Ugh, I hate that presumption among healthcare professionals. We're not really in pain, we're all just dRuG sEeKiNg.

I mean, I came to you with a medical problem, which is often solved by or improved by medication, so I guess technically, yes?

And if I'm in such pain that I require narcotics, wouldn't you rather I see a doctor and take it with their supervision, or that I go find a dealer on the street?

I understand there are some people with addiction issues, but allowing a patient (especially one with no drug abuse history) to suffer, on the off chance they might use pain killers for fun, is so fucked up. I already have to jump through hoops to get ADHD medication for the same reason. It seems that in the US, you're assumed to be addicted by default.

Please don't insult muppets like that. Trump's a puppet, absolutely, but he lacks the warmth to be a Jim Henson creation.

I agree that a discussion about this is best held elsewhere. I was worried about commenting about it here because of the risk of detracting from the important topic at hand. But since it was a video in this post's link that bothered me, it didn't make sense to me to make a separate thread about this minor observation.

I heard some variant of, "He lies all the time, so I don't think he's serious about tariffs/Project 2025."

Which is interesting to square with the thought of, "He tells it like it is, so I trust him."

But I don't live with chronic cognitive dissonance, which I assume these people accept as just another uncomfortable feeling humans have to live with. Like aches that persist with age, or feeling exhaustion at the thought of getting out of bed and going to work. That flicker of doubt from seeing that your beliefs contradict each other is just another sensation that needs to be suppressed and ignored.

It's time to play America's favorite game, "Find Something Made in the U.S.A."! Check the clothing in your closets, check the produce in your fridge, check the toys in your child's toybox!

The first person to find five different items labeled "Made in the U.S.A." wins the game!

I recently bought a small generator that charges via solar panel. With weather events getting more severe each year, and my boyfriend needing a sleep apnea machine, it seemed a good idea to get a portable source of power that's completely off the grid.

I don't know what's going to be happening in the near future, but I figured I'd rather have it and not need it, than need it and be unable to get it due to scarcity and potentially-dramatic price increases.

If someone asked the latter question, I'd think they're concerned for my well-being.

If somebody asked the former question, I'd think they're stalking me.

In this context, DV probably means "domestic violence."

This is disheartening news, but I had trouble watching the vertical video on a computer screen without cutting off the top or bottom of it.

Why are drone videos being shot in portrait? Are vertical videos officially the default now?

I understand vertical videos being made if someone's holding their phone in their hand, but for a drone video it doesn't make sense. Landscape orientation would work better as a default, since it's easier to view on more devices - I can't turn my computer monitor 90 degrees the way I can simply turn my phone.

Am I already too old and out of touch? Is there some psychological game to this that I'm missing?

"Arthropleura (Greek for 'jointed ribs') is an extinct genus..."

Thank fuck

Thank you for reminding me that Lemmy needs a "Fierce Flow" community, for men with long hair to celebrate their amazing locks.