I don't look for things to be either angry or grateful about I just get on with life. I respect that gratitude works for you. Personally I find forcing gratitude just drains me. I find I do best just accepting that sometimes I'm angry or stressed and that those are signs telling me something.
IDK. I respect that gratitude works for others. I personally am not a fan because I feel we have the normal range of emotions for a good reason.
For example: Anger motivates us to leave an exploitative job or an abusive relationship. Gratitude might very well keep someone in that relationship or in a job where they end up herniating a disk...because instead of being angry enough to leave they tell themselves 'I'm so lucky! Other people have it worse!'
I find gratitude incredibly draining because it's artificial and also it seems oddly guilt based. I would rather frame things as giving myself credit. I got tasks done. I showed self discipline. Gratitude implies I was handed something on a plate.
It is most definitely not an easy ride. I have had complete stranger come up to me in the street and lecture me about being thin. I wasn't even underweight. I was normal for my height. Happened recently and I'm way heavier than I used to be and people STILL do it.
Could be something she does is burning energy and you haven't figured out what.
I used to wonder why I never gained weight despite eating twice what other people did...I never thought to factor in being extremely active because it was normal for me. I didn't think brutal martial arts classes or 5k runs counted as being 'active'. I thought it was normal.
Granted I wasn't underweight and didn't need to gain but I really wanted to look like Zarya from Overwatch
I get that it's a bit inappropriate to be flippant and make jokes but if I worried about this every time I saw a headline about it I'd die from my adrenal glands exploding and melting a hole through the back of my computer chair.
I like that though