Velociraptor @ Velociraptor @beehaw.org

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I'm about to go on a two week trip to a bunch of places I've never been before! I'm super excited! Been watching a lot of the Katmai bear cam of the salmon run while I work on packing and some last minute chores. I'm excited to visit some places that are a bit more accepting of trans people than where I currently live, too.

Congratulations!! I am so happy your loved ones are accepting!

I find this kinda fascinating because if you've thought this your entire life, you would have had to have read every intended plural "you" as singular and there would be nothing to inform you otherwise without very explicit context.

For the record, every 2nd person pronoun in the preceding paragraph can be singular or plural and still be grammatically correct while remaining socially correct for my speaking to an audience of unknown size. "You all" and "you guys" are slang phrases that don't appear in formal writing.

Far as I know, this is used for MTF so I'm not really sure where the income joke fits in.

Maybe using a cis bigot's words isn't the best way to show trans support. Hurts that you'd rather hear it from a trans woman. I guess this place just isn't for me or people like me. It happens. Pretty depressing though.

How far removed from the instigating post is that? It doesn't seem all that different if we're immediately diving into fuckables and unfuckables.

Can you explain the girldick thing? I'm a transman and that comes off as one of the many things that are low key alienating in expressions of support, but it's possible I'm just mistaken.

Traditional and digital artist here. I do graphic design and illustration. Have always had a healthy interest in tech, though.

Since the worst examples I can think of have already been mentioned, I'll just throw in that Boku No Hero Academia is making me pretty sad these days. It's like they decided to stretch out a few things that were shorter in the manga for a reason and it's gone on for so long that it doesn't feel like the same story at all anymore. I miss what the show used to be.

ETA: Ascendance of a Bookworm was really fun right up until she decides to dump everything in the trash and join the church.

I'm a six foot turkey.

I made a list of names I've always liked and found I kept coming back to one in particular, so that had to be it.

The new direction is more than fair honestly. I both really appreciate and sympathize with the need to point out that these hostile bad faith responses are upsetting. For a long time, commentary on attack dogging a forum has had to sidestep the issue that having to deal with this shit is emotionally draining. It's reasonable that there is a place for eveyrone at the table but the chairs have an emergency eject for diners who start throwing food. It's bad enough that everyone still eating has to finish their meal with a mess everywhere.

"Someone who doesn't identify as male or female" has worked with my boomer family.

I am from a very catholic family. Before I knew what or who I was, I had family members use religion as abuse to belittle and degrade me from the age of 6 onward. My home life was awful and extended family piled on to make sure I really had nothing left for myself to cling to. I was kept on a cycle of love bombing (with church approved rewards only) when the constant insistence on my selfishness and awfulness would periodically succeed in breaking me. It made life entirely unenjoyable by design. Yet the programming they instilled also came with heavy guilt designed to keep me trapped by "faith."

I understand the fear of knowing you need to leave. The abuse ramped up every time I even remotely suggested I be able to live without the church. But my only regret is that I wish I had done it sooner. Religion doesn't stop you from coming out. The toxicity that it bakes into the community and your family does. They make it very hard and painful to stand up for yourself and advocate for life to be the gift it is. As with many such things, the cruelty seems to be the point.

All I look for Is a willingness to speak to others in good faith and for there to be a referee intervention when that isn't respected. "Safe space" has been so twisted and ridiculed that it's hard to use it and not feel some of the inflection of entitlement that's been imparted to it. Safe for me is an end to needless hostility in conversation and being able to talk without someone else launching a curio cabinet of their favorite ad hominems at you. So far I've found beehaw to be a bit more in line with this than tildes, but both communities have a lot of room left to establish what they want to be.

...You are agreeing with me. Sapience is what you are describing. Cats are sentient, not sapient.

The proposal being made is to keep your pet cat(s) indoors. That's it.

Humans are sapient. Your cat is not. Treating your cat by human standards is not fair to the cat.

What's cruel is having a pet you never interact with or care for. Inflicting your cat on your neighborhood is just a different kind of cruelty altogether - as is dropping your domesticated animal into a dangerous environment unsupervised. It's not a zero sum game where the cat is either indoors and tortured or outdoors and fulfilled. You can provide more than adequate enrichment with a modest investment of time and money. Insisting on the misery of your cat to persist is ironically the true projection of human emotion here.

Honest question to anyone who disagrees: many small animals are kept inside their entire lives. Is this torture? Do you look down on those who own small animals?