Im not saying go no contact forever. I've said previously they should have their mother's back until he can genuinely say sorry and start the healing process
Right now everyone here is advocating for shitting on the mother in her most vulnerable state. Because the dad is fun
Im not saying people have to be perfect. Cheating with your assistant is faaaar from perfect though.
Get a divorce and move on. To show your kid the right way in life. Dude failed that though. Showed his child that family is nothing. And the child is now supposed to just continue being family with him cause he's fun
They should be having thier mother's back, as they didn't go an do one of the lowest things you can do in a marriage
Says the man posting from lemmynsfw. Things in your second marriage must be going super well
If you held marriage to any standard, a man breaking his vows to sleep WITH HIS ASSISTANT should be pretty deplorable. And recommended an atleast young adult to just brush past that like it's just another mistake is insane.
Yeah, just look the other way that he figuratively slapped your mom across the face. Atleast he's cool though
Jaywalking. I'll be your partner in jaywalking cause it was made up by the motor industry to pass on pedestrians getting hit onto the pedestrian instead of the driver
To bad you'll never get to experience it though, being your a whale and all
Not from Kansas. Well traveled and have seen a bunch of relationships. I've seen people get divorced and I've seen infidelity.
I have immeasurably more respect for those that get divorced no matter how hard it is. Breaking the vow through being a cheater is about as low as you can go.
Sorry you don't hold marriage to sanctity it should be
And I want to call out people for excusing an affair. The dad could have done it the right way, like an actual adult. Asking for a divorce is hard, but immeasurably easier emotionally to the person you make a commitment to than sneaking around and finally getting caught WITH YOUR ASSISTANT
There's a bit of difference between making a mistake and stabbing your partner in the back. He could have done it the right way, but he chose to do one of the most emotional hurtful things you can do.
I'm just trying to give the mothers perspective. I know nothing else about these people besides one is willing to throw away the love and trust of someone they're supposed to be closest with for their own selfish gain.
You staying with your dad, at least in your mom's eyes, is you choosing the new chick over her also.
And if thats what you want to do, so be it. But you're actively choosing another woman over your mother.
Think of it like this: Someone was caught doing x. X being any deplorable act you wanna fit in there. Let's say being racist to the point of violence.
Said member of that race who you've hung out with comes to you, tells you what happened, and asks you not continue hanging with said person or else they're going to deem you racist too.
Although you don't have any racist views, and although that person has never been racist to you since your not that "undesirable" race, you continuing the relationship puts you in the racist category.
You could stop the relationship although it hurts. And in doing so you may even help the person learn the errors of thier ways, or atleast the consequences of their actions.
Or you can say nothing and allow the racist tyrad to continue.
Edit: I also want to say I'm sorry your in this position. It sucks you have to make this decision. And although its hard now, I hope everything works out in your favor in the long run.
Truly am sorry
Edit edit: yall don't love your mom's and have her back and thats just sad. Boo me all you want, but if either of my parents was to cheat I'd side with the other until the cheater comes back and apologizes like their the adult their supposed to be.
Hold people to higher standards, especially the ones that are supposed to be raising you
Never said porn was a sin
But that person had a choice to make an account on any instance they wanted to, and chose to make it on the most inappropriate one they could find.
Just saying