TubularTittyFrog @ TubularTittyFrog @lemmy.world

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amen

yeah. extremism seems to be the norm here. and you will be harassed and insulted and told your a POS if you even mildly disagree with the extremist narrative. most of the content seems to be angry leftism idealism that reads 'young idealist' who thinks ideological purity is the solution to problems and is incapable of acknowledging a complex and pragmatic approach to any issue at all. and generally people who are totally detached from the average person's perspective/experience, as per your windows comment.

it's just people being people. people don't like anyone who disagrees with them. it hurts their feelings. so they act out.

i will say at least the mods don't ban you for disagreement or injecting a dose of reality into a simplistic ideological narrative about the world... which is why i gave up on reddit.

no, food costs that much

exactly.

i've been gardening for years. it's a supplement. for like 1-2months i get nice produce that can feed a few people for a few weeks. but that's it. i maybe produce 20lbs of produce in a year if i'm lucky. that's over a dozen or two plants. i have a good sized garden of about 100 sq ft.

not to mention the weather any year could totally f you. one year we had three months of drought, so i got like 2lbs of tomatoes that year.

turns out i still buy like 95% of my produce from the grocery store... because it's available year round and it's hard to grow variety well unless you have multiple beds with differing soil and sun conditions.

most folks grow tomoatoes and cukes because they are easy and produce abundantly. but i am not going to live on tomatoes and cukes 365 days a year.

the space needed to grow squashes, berries, etc. is way way higher. you need a lot of land. and they are very low yield. a ten foot watermelon vine produces like maybe 1-2 melons per year and takes up 20 sq ft of garden space. a squash vine might produce 4-6 decent squash, etc. and a lot of veggies and plants are non complimentary, meaning they choke each other out if grown in proximity.

the only person i know who has a varied and big garden is an engineer who has spend five figures producing dozens of beds, water systems, and etc. and he still gets a shitty yield some years due to weather and he struggles constantly with rabbits, groundhogs stealing his crop. he has a whole trap and kill system for them even now. because the critters know he is the place to go for the tasty plants. most home gardening grow a few tomato plants and make some tomato sauce and throw a dinner party and that's the extent of their home gardening.

it's way more complex and difficult than some 'hrr drr just bring back victory gardens' nonsense. you're average person isn't going to be building a 1000sq ft veggie garden with fencing and dealing with all the part time job of labor and upkeep that it requires.

amen.

but that would require taking sex out of the equation. sex is what drives all of this misery on both sides. it's much easier to empathize with people you don't want to fuck, rather than seeing them as a in terms of sexual social dynamics, where those who are sexual desirable on both sides are given leeway in behaviour that is intolerable for those who are not sexual desirable.

exactly. empathy is the ability to realize other people have different experiences than you. to think about what it's actaully like to be homeless.

but people think it means 'just agree with me and make me feel good, and if i feel bad for people i am a good person'

i find it sad that americans see this as 'weak'.

yes, yes, and yes.

and i no longer like any of those things.

yeah. the platforms aren't so bad in and of themselves, it's the engagement algorithms that turn everything to shit.

just like IG, YT, video/music stremaing etc. you could stumble upon random and interesting shit... now the algo is just trying to shove kendrick lamar and joe rogan at me none stop because that is what is 'popular' and whatever shitty movie that netflix is trying to promote.

browsing is dead and search is also mostly broken. you can't even effectively search for shit anymore.

the only place i can freely browse anymore is my local library. and discover lots of cool things. that experience on the internet is dead.

the vast majority of nutbags with low key mental issues i meet are social media addicts who furiously want to bring their 'curated' image into the real world and force others to worship them.

the others nutbags are homeless folks.

irrational belief based on fantasy fuels people to action a lot more than rational belief based in reality.

because the former is exciting and meaningful, the latter is boring and mundane.

hence why the crazies tend to believe in cabal conspiracies of evil people whom they must fight against. whereas your average voter is like 'who do i want to have a beer with and make me feel like i'm doing better financially... i'll vote him'

my dog is racist.

putting yourself out there is how you get less ignorant.

Bingo.

their current use is to prevent housing from being developed and this keep housing supply low so that current owners can benefit from increasing prices. hence why you have inner suburbs and cities full of single family homes where they should be apartment complexes, and and towns with 3 acre lot sizes and 100ft setbacks.

you can rent and have a garden and rent is cheaper than a mortgage in a comparable area.

when people buy they often have to move further out to a cheaper area to get a mortgage

my mortgage is more than my rent and isn't as nearly in as nice of a place and convent of a location. on top of that and having to do home reapir (not renovation) i have less disposible income than I did a few years ago.

it's trade offs. i miss being in a more social area and having more disposible income, and somtimes i regret buying.

agreed.

vast majority of folks in the USA see renting as this repulsive awful stupid thing that nobody would ever do if they weren't poor.

it's nuts. renting makes a lot more sense for a lot of situations. and vast majority don't buy until they are married and having families anyway.

because in usa culture homeownership grants you higher social status and it's seen as an investment.

renting = lower status, second class citizen, poor

owning = high status, first class citizen, 'successful'

that's it.

don't know where you live, but where i live people love whining about how they can't afford rent while they go on $5000 international vacations every year.

one of my ex-friends who is a trans anarchist, just did this. they work part time in a bike shop, and yet they can afford a two week long tour of Taiwan. But they will talk your ear off about how landlords are evil and the revolution is coming because they can't afford their rent in one of the nicest areas in my city. irony.

yeah and if i point this out to the 20 something leftist demo, instead of being like 'oh yeah they win because they vote, maybe we should vote too' they just call me facist or boring or whatever insult. the left is pathetic in terms of messaging and aligning interest groups, and general has no coherent or consistent belief structure.

i mean i used to be more leftist myself, but god it's pathetic. i wish the left had the conviction and consistency of the right, then they'd actaully achieve something... like they did in the 60s... but you know that's 'history' and the left is totally allergic to that concept as well because it's 'colonialism and oppression'