Thehalfjew @ Thehalfjew @lemmy.world

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I think it's that it doesn't take itself too seriously, while still remaining carefully in the world/rules they set.

For me, it was in Last of Us, >!when you walk through the door and get caught in the rope trap, then have to shoot the zombies upside-down.!<

I had to go through that entire animation over and over and over. It made me hate the game. I played a little bit more after finally making it through, but my heart wasn't in it and I just stopped after a while.

Yeah. It's a movie about surviving. Not winning. And the opening sets up the end.

Cinnamon raisin bagels with lox and cream cheese

The polling in question is based on electoral math.

I don't see disagree about what you said regarding the polls, but by that same token, the fact that they are in a virtual tie should read to you she has a way to win just as she is.

Good thing to remember about builds. Geralt is a sword fighter first and a magic user 18th. Be good at slicey.

I mean, maybe. But flood waters are a massive deathtrap. He had to have known at any second he could step into a strong current and be sucked under. He had no rope. No support. Dude's a hero.

So these aren't cool mice? Because I was excited when I thought they were cool mice.

Yeah.

Interesting idea! When she doesn't have string, she just chews a toy to death. But I'm not sure if that's evidence against or for your idea

My cat eats a few bites of food then finds a string, swallows it down a good bit, then pulls the string back up from her throat and takes a few more bites of food. This continues for her whole meal.

There's nothing more disgusting than stepping on her food string. It's cold and wet. So gross.

Look, I know this is a late response and all but this is serious: it's feeding a mogwai after midnight that turns it into a gremlin. Gremlin feeding times have no impact on their behavior.

Stop trying to make fetch happen.

Not sure if they get much hate but they sure get a lot of shit

Fair enough. Sounds like A is going to have to decide whether they talk to B directly, complain to the supervisor that B still isn't meeting expectations, or drop it. But keeping you in the middle isn't going to solve the problem and it needs to stop. You can say that firmly but nicely and with validation. (The validation is important to maintaining your relationship with A.)

At the end of the day, this sounds like a failure at the management level. If B is known to be underperforming, it's on management to either find a way to help B improve or replace B. Management's failure here is hurting all 3 of you. A has a right to be pissed. B needs guidance or the boot. And you need to be free of this mess.

I think you need to tell A that sharing this feedback with you won't help B change, and that they need to address B directly or talk to their supervisor.

You can also say that sharing this feedback with you is putting you in an uncomfortable position, as you are friends with both of them, and you need it to stop. It's perfectly okay to validate A's complaints ("I understand why you feel the way you do") so that A doesn't feel like you are dismissing them. But that doesn't mean you have to be in the middle.

Having spent many years in corporate life, I can tell you that one of the biggest blockers to people improving is that no one tells them there is a problem to begin with. Person B may have no idea they're underperforming. And to be fair, I can't tell from this whether their supervisor would even agree that B is underperforming; B may be doing just fine from management's perspective, in which case A needs to let it go.

Good luck!

That demo struck me as a cherry-picked example. Can it work? Sure. Is it always that smooth? I highly highly doubt it.

I see you're getting a lot of answers from both sides of the spectrum. But if you're struggling, I want to help.

Being in a behavior health ward is good for when you can't help yourself anymore, or need significant treatment that's difficult to handle via outpatient (like electroconvulsive treatments). It's not like a hospital stay where you walk out cured of some infection. It's more like a stay in the hospital after a huge car accident. They'll get you stable, they'll set you up with a therapist for long-term recovery, and meds to manage the symptoms.

You're right that talk doesn't fix money problems and things like that. But what it does do is help you keep from suffering alone AND it teaches you how to manage the feelings in a healthier way. That can be the difference between falling apart in the face of money trouble and having the skills to focus on finding a solution--or even just a way to survive.

The thing about depression is that it makes everything feel worthless and hopeless. You have to trust that you can't properly interpret whether a solution will work for you, and that the medical experts you align with are going to have a clearer view of what will help bring you out of the depression.

That doesn't mean all therapists are good. Or that a good therapist for someone else will fit you. But those are problems you can start to manage once you've taken a few steps toward recovery (assuming they turn out to be problems at all).

I've been in therapy for over a decade, on meds for just as long, and once in a ward for a week. Does it suck to be "trapped" in the unit? Yep. It's not a party in there. I don't ever want to go back. But when I did go in, it was because I felt like I legitimately couldn't take care of myself or see a way forward. In that regard, it saved me. So if my biggest complaint is that I felt stuck for a few days, well... so be it.

But there are many other options before being admitted. There are social workers, psychologists, psychiatrists, intensive outpatient programs, ketamine therapy, and more. You may never need to be admitted at all if you can get to treatment before you're completely overwhelmed. Sometimes the solution is incredibly simple, like getting more vitamin D and a proper sleep schedule. Sometimes it takes a little ongoing medicine with weekly talk sessions. Sometimes it's more. But whatever it is, it's worth it. You can be happy in tough situations, but if you're depressed you can't be happy even in good situations. And that's no way to live.

Long story short: if you're depressed you aren't equipped to judge whether a solution will work without trying it, you have very little to lose by trying therapy, and the potential gains are the difference between misery and a fulfilling life. A mental institution is an extreme measure that's only part of a longer-term solution, and you may never need it. But it can be the literal difference between life and death if you're at the end of your rope.