TheDoctorDonna @ TheDoctorDonna @lemmy.world

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Maybe I am, I really wouldn't know (my husband would though). If I am I would deal with it iand improve myself nstead of blaming it on others.

If you are referring to yourself as an incel then there is likely a regressive mindset that goes with it. Most people just call themselves single. Sexual status is a construct, whether it be virgin or "promiscuous". Unlikable men choose incel so that they can blame their lack of sex on the people not giving it to them.

Where did I call anyone an incel?

In my experience people aren't calling lonely men incels, they're calling men who are wholly unlikable who blame their loneliness and lack of sex on other people incels.

Sorry, I did miss the point. I've literally never seen it happen the way you describe it.

If you don't want to be called an incel, don't blame your loneliness and lack of sex on anyone else. Everyone is lonely, it's nobody's fault unless you want to blame society as a whole which will get you nowhere. Continue to grow as a human and don't stop trying to find new avenues of reaching out to others.

And most importantly, never expect someone to like you in any way, no one is obligated to you.

Free healthcare in that the prison doctor or nurse will refuse to diagnose him with anything until he's on his death bed and then give him comfort release so they don't have to take care of him?

That's how I feel about working in office lol. I'm busting my ass trying to get more education so I can change position, but my office wants me to be admin forever, and adding that to the feeling like I shouldn't even be there is pointing me in the WFH direction.

Mine is still so bad that my next goal is to move in to a work from home position.

That's what I said! 😆

This is what bothers me too, like physical trauma is supposed to leave no trace once the doctor says your fine or whatever. My husband has vestibular dysfunction after a couple nasty concussions and it can seriously impact his ability to even get out of bed and makes him vomit a lot, and that's a pretty mild post concussion ailment.

That's a pretty rare side effect. Everyone should talk to their doctor or pharmacist before starting any medication.

I would take that over to the thrift store and buy as many coats as I could get, or you could take it to a warming shelter and let them use as they need.

Thank you for being a kind human, I only wish I had the funds to do the same before this cold snap hit.

I also used the medication. For me the craving eventually turned in to disgust. I wasn't confident that I wasn't going to smoke again for about 2 years, but your brain doesn't stop changing just because you've stopped the pills. Simply not having the addiction speak for you anymore is allowing your brain to change. I can't even stand the smell now, I've turned in to my grandpa lol.

It will be 5 years for me soon, I've got a bit of a head start, but here's hoping you stop craving too. Congratulations and good luck!

I still dream about smoking sometimes. At first I was worried that it was my own weakness and that I was going to back to smoking. Now I also get mad at myself for the dreams because I don't even want a cigarette, why the fuck does my brain keep putting them in my dreams? I swear I can still smell them in my dreams and it's gross lol. I hope that will go away one day too.

Also, I would like to double down on your encouragement. Quit! Please quit as soon as physically possible. You and everyone around you will be glad you did. There are so many paths available now. If you are in Canada you might be able to get free help if you talk to a pharmacist. I didn't pay anything for my Champex because the government wants us to quit too. I didn't think that I could do it either- I'm the weakest motherfucker you could dream of and here I am, cigarette free since 2019.

Once I decided I didn't want to smoke cigarettes anymore medication made the path easy. My biggest problem was getting out of the mindset. I enjoy the act of smoking and I convinced myself that things would be even worse if I quit cigarettes, that I'd get fat again and be unable to control my anxiety. I trapped myself hard and I couldn't see it because the addiction spoke for me.

I had "tried" to quit several times before, but they were half assed attempts because I didn't really want to quit. I even convinced myself that the Champex would give me nightmares and make my mental illness worse ( it did not).

I wholeheartedly recommend that anyone who needs to quit, but can't, go on the Champex ( Chantix in the US). It worked so well I didn't even go through the whole recommended cycle of pills and have not gone back to smoking after almost 5 years. It made me nauseous while I was on them and that really changed how my brain sees cigarettes. I thought at first I might relapse, but the smell of cigarettes is disgusting to me now.

Now, I can't speak to how well it dealt with the physical habit side of it, because I do still smoke pot, but by god I will never willingly put tobacco in my body again. I think it was the start of my self improvement, though I didn't know it back then.

That word always sounded like it was rather self explanatory so I never looked it up before. I never realized it was specifically the disestablishment of the Church of England.

As someone who was baptized Anglican, I am 100% an Antidisestablishmentarian.

You can use gift cards for your Netflix subscription, I did that until I got it wrapped in to my internet package.

I'm too Canadian for this, sorry!

Valid criticism.