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I know this was a joke, but it's actually them showing you that they trust you enough to show you their most vulnerable spot. Cats can snuggle against you or sleep in your lap if they like you, but they get something out of that exchange. Showing their belly is purely letting you know you're trusted. It's like a hug.

One could argue that domestic cats proliferation throughout the world is from human action as well. Their natural habitat certainly wasn't the south of Wales before we stepped in and took them all over the world for them to evolve into different types. My understanding is that most house cats evolved from desert dwelling cats.

And lets be honest, those coalitions almost always end up being mostly a 2 party system with more steps. The elect a bunch of different parties, then those parties all group together in 2 sides mostly. Possibly leaving a few that aren't included and then their votes mean nothing. It's like gerrymandering in a different way. You don't need to change voting districts, you just have to get another party that agrees with you on the important things to also win some elections. You could even argue that, while technically under the same name, the Tea party was kinda of that. A whole different kind of politician was voted in, with the understanding that they would just be agreeing with the Republicans on legislation. It's obviously not quite the same, but it's not far off.

I'm not familiar with how it works in France, but I'm just brainstorming plans to avoid it in the future. Are they able to send it directly to a pharmacy and not give the scrip directly to you? If so, is it also possible to try to get in a few days early for an appointment for your check-in and they can just send it off on time? In the States I only have to do a mandatory check-in once a year with a doc and visit a nurse practitioner every 2 months and she just has it scheduled to send the new prescription every 30 days. It is more convenient, but I have to trust that they don't forget and I have to panic call their office.

I do the same thing. I also get 2/day and do my best to time it and get as much as I can before the first is out of my system so I can save the 2nd. My very first refill was late due to a mix-up and I was 5 days without with a lot to do in my life. Since then I've been saving whenever I can to have a fallback stockpile.

Your mentioning fried eggs reminds me of a time I had a coworker who was telling me about the breakfast he made for his kid every weekend: fried pork roll slices and scrambled eggs. I asked why not fried eggs since it would probably be better with that meal. He said he could never get through frying an egg without it breaking and just turning into scrambled eggs anyway so he'd given up years ago. So I gave him some tips I learned in culinary school. Make sure the oil is already hot, Crack the egg into a separate bowl ahead of time, and either use a small pan or tilt the pan to the egg and oil are in one "corner." He came back the next day and he said it worked wonders for him and he'd been able to fry an egg for the first time in his life.

So maybe that sort of thing? Like, focus a lot on those tiny little tricks that aren't necessarily in recipes or even required but make the job so much easier.

I think it's definitely worth looking into. ADHD doesn't have the stigma these days like it used to. More and more people are being diagnosed with it now, not because it's over-diagnosed but because we know more about it than we ever have. 20 years ago when I was first diagnosed (and subsequently lapsed taking my meds until recently) it was seen almost entirely as a focus thing. Now we know it affects so much more. Poor executive function has an effect on both mood and our interactions and relationships with others. Impulse control can be an issue. I know the inability for my brain to easily switch tracks meant that I would get hung up on stuff that most people were able to just move on from easily. Since being medicated my mood is vastly improved. It's not from the serotonin boost completely but more in the way that I don't get stuck in a specific mindset that I can't move on from.

And like I said, it's super normal now. Social repercussions are almost nil and once you get your meds figured out, your day-to-day could only be improved. I still do all the things I used to, but now I'm able to find the motivation to get things done that I had been avoiding before. I clean more often and I don't put things off.

I was diagnosed at 16, took a couple years to get my meds figured out and then around 20 stopped taking it for reasons I no longer remember. I'm around middle-age now and was talking to a coworker who got a diagnosis. I was telling them about my experiences with meds back in the day and we were talking about things to do to help. That's when I realized that all of the coping mechanisms I've developed over the years to deal with depression and anxiety had a lot of overlap with ADHD coping mechanisms (planning everything out and waiting for a manic day to get everything done). So I went and got diagnosed again about a couple months ago. I did have an advantage in getting my meds set because I had already gone through that dance decades ago so we just skipped right to the Adderall that I ended up with back then. It was an amazing over-night change.

I say all this to say that I hope you don't get discouraged if finding the right medication takes some time. The coworker I mentioned recently took a break from trying different meds because they got disheartened by the failures. I hope you stick with it. The results are definitely worth it. I used to have to wait until I had ample time to even sit down and plan out all my activities that needed to be done and often things that weren't 100% necessary were just put off until I had a "good" day where I felt naturally productive. Then I'd knock them all out and get exhausted. Now I'm able to get things done before after and even during work (don't tell my boss). I still plan things out and excessively, but it just makes me more productive. I used to be overwhelmed by the need to be productive but the inability to do so. Now I'm going back to school after 20 years and my life feels organized for the first time in my life. Stick with it. The work is worth it.

Well, Stalin was a fascist. And Tankies like to call everyone who doesn't 100% agree with their radical views as fascists and like to throw out "lib" like it's a slur to anyone they're arguing with. I'm just making an educated guess here.

You're allowed to disagree. This man wasn't killed by police because he disagreed with the shop owner having a rainbow flag. They killed him because he murdered her and (presumably) didn't surrender when they caught up to him.

I think what you're talking about is the rest of us calling out your bigotry. That's not oppression or control by the government. That's society leaving you and your outdated beliefs behind.

Hey! We found a tankie!

I assume that's primarily from the over-abundance of plastic surgery in Korean celebrities that tends to genericize their features towards an ideal? I remember hearing about surgery being a huge thing years ago and I'm assuming it still is. They're like, Stepford Wive's-ing themselves visually and all end up looking generally the same when chasing attractiveness.

Fun semi-related story. I used to work in an open kitchen where a lot of the cooking staff would interact with the customers pretty regularly. Quite often me and two other men in the kitchen would get confused with one another. I gave a guy some marinating tips one week. He comes back in a few days later and waves me over to tell me how well it went. Except he didn't wave me over, it was a coworker he thought was me. I'd have people bring up previous conversations when I've never seen them before. After the 3rd time that kind of thing happened, it clicked. The 3 of us who got confused with each other were just very generic young white guys. One of them wore glasses and I sometimes wore them, sometimes wore contacts. Who I got confused with changed on whether I wore glasses or not, but it happened constantly in the years I worked there. And it was always other white people getting us confused. Looking like a generic white guy is 100% a thing.

You're commenting in a thread about an article publishes 2 days ago about an ongoing investigation by the oversight committee. There has to be an investigation and illegal actions found before prosecution can happen. This is literally an active evolving thing and you're acting like you're upset that we haven't just jumped right to punishment.

And you still just blew right past being confronted with your "both sides" lies. Just moved right on to the next talking point, huh?

Is anyone defending Hunter Biden? I mean, I'm sure someone is (other than his lawyers who are paid to), but from what I've seen, everyone is of the thought that what he did is wrong and he should be prosecuted. Your comment feels like along winded "both sides" while propping up a strawman for one side and comparing it to a real person on the other and calling them equal.

But wasn't it that he saw the future showing he we embark on a jihad, and he worried that his trying to prevent that would still cause it to happen? I'd say it shows Paul as more complex and far thinking than you'd expect from a 14 year old kid. A kid sees that and says "I just won't do that." Paul said "I need to prevent this, but I'm not sure how, so I must be constantly vigilant of my actions to ensure it doesn't happen."

But, the book characters were intentionally written to be pretty emotionally flat? The Gom Jabbar scene... Jessica showing emotion doesn't make it a bad scene, but it kind of undercuts how the Bene Gesserit work. Their whole thing is conquering their emotions and being composed and in control all the time. Jessica's turmoil is internal while her face is stoic. That's her whole character at that point in the book. she's not a very good Bene Gesserit, but she's faked it real well.

Except Duncan and Gurney. They should have had personality. That's Their purpose in the books. To be the ones who show Paul what being a real human is like beyond the Duke (laden with responsibility and the knowledge that his entire house and the thousands of people that rely on it are teetering on a knife's edge) and Jessica (basically a magic robot concubine who was raised from birth with the sole purpose of furthering a generations long genetic project her captors teachers were working toward). They're meant to be a breath of fresh air that give Paul the foundation to be a real boy.

If you haven't read the books the movie makes no sense. It's nothing but a string of half-ass book references and pretty scenery. Even having read the books the movie was still all over the place. It was a string of individual scenes with barely anything to connect them besides having the same characters.

And since I'm finally venting about it, if they were going to just focus on visuals, they could have at least gotten the scale right. They have these giant buildings and ships alluding to a mass of people keeping it operational. Then we never see more than like, 6 people. And the one scene where they pulled out all of the people at the climax, where it makes sense to show every soldier during an all hands emergency, we see, like, 50 people. They're supposed to have thousands of soldiers. Losing a dozen soldiers in the book would have been acceptable losses. The movie force we see, that would cripple them.

Also, it should have ended just after the attack. Use all that extra time to actual get you invested in House Atreides and Paul. In anything really. That movie was so bad. I've always like Lynch's Dune for it's insanity, but compared to the new one, it's a legitimately good movie. At least there's a story.

Before getting medicated, I had a multi-step process for getting those things done. On a typical day I'd struggle, but I would have good day/days where I was able to feel motivated and get things done. So I would plan ahead for these good days.

• Break the task down into as small of tasks as possible. For taxes or making appointments, this usually also means having a lot of documents ready and if there's a phone call, an outline of what I want to go over during the conversation. Maybe some research on what the expected thing would be like if it's a new thing.
• Don't try doing all of that at once, back to back. Just do each part, one or two at a time in the days (or weeks if there's time) leading up to my deadline. Get all the docs together in one place. Look them over to make sure they're all there and I understand them. Organize them in order of need. All separate tasks for separate days.

Then, when I hit a good productive day, knocking it out is much less overwhelming and draining because the tedious work is done. It's just the action of the task that remains. It's worked for years. I still do it without realizing it often. I think it's just a good plan of action in general for everyone to makes tasks manageable.

Even more fun! In-car record players were made upside-down so that the weight of the record held it against the needle. These are all of my record player facts.