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You know, I've met a few people that I was told were lawyers before meeting them and I was surprised at how kind and empathetic they were. Then, as we would get to talking, inevitably it would come out and they'd say "Oh, I don't practice anymore. That shits horrible."

Every lawyer I've met that still practices is 100% dead inside and I've never felt like I could trust them. Maybe there are lawyers that break this mold, but I am going to baselessly assume they are only a few years from getting out because a good person can't survive in that world.

I think it's maybe a little but of both of what you and Annoyed_[Crabemoji] said. From what I remember of baking, butter being not chilled enough will cause it to be too soft and cook out before the chemistry can happen and they deflate like that. But obviously, it's real tough to mix in chilled solid butter, so by the time you've needed it enough for it to incorporate, it's warm again. When I was in culinary school back in the day we'd bake in huge batches, obviously, so we'd use big ole mixers to combine the cold butter quickly with giant mechanical paddles that forced it to combine while still cold. But at home, if you have to mix by hand and you know that the butter isn't cold anymore you can definitely chill the cough before baking. I don't remember much from those days (I was never a baker, I was a line cook, but baking classes were required), but when I saw your picture my immediate thought from the dredges of 20 year old memories was "That butter wasn't chilled."

The thing is, if the place you're getting your information from doesn't list it's sources, you can't trust it. Whenever I'm researching a thing on the internet and I find an article or a paper, I don't just stop there, I check where they got their info, then I find that source and read it. I follow it all the way back until I find the primary source.

Like the other day I was writing a paper about a particular court case. In the opinions, as in most cases, they use precedent and cite prior cases. So I found the other cases that referred to the thing I was writing about, and it turns out they were also just using prior cases. I had to go 6 deep before I found them referencing the actual constitution for one of them. On another I found it interesting that the most recent use case was so far removed from what the original one was about and it was could probably be questionable to even use it as precedent if they had used the original instead of another case.

Anyway, the point is, always check sources. If anyone says anything on the internet, assume it's just their opinion until you check and follow the sources..

There's a lot of really good pieces of advice here, so I don't have a tone to add. But there's a few things that could help and possibly be prepared for.

Be prepared for:

• Maybe having to try different meds before you find the right one. There's stim and non-stim, and the individuals meds in each category can vary in their effects, so be sure to stick with it while finding the right one. It's definitely worth it.
• Medication is amazing. It's a game-changer. But it also doesn't fix it. It helps with the dopamine and can help with energy and motivation, but a lot of the other issues are still there. I definitely still really struggle with switching tasks that require my brain to change states. That's why you have to still lean on the tools you develop outside of meds to make your day-to-day easier. Someone posted the How to ADHD Youtube channel. I love her channel and she offers a lot of advice for developing these tools.
• Some days, even with medication, it's just not there. I'm on a stimulant, so when I'm short on sleep, it doesn't put me in peak performance that day. It gives me the energy to be normal, but I'm not high-functioning. And some days I sleep fine but I'm still not there and nothing gets done, and that's fine. It's okay to just have a day where the thing you do is recharge and do some self-care if you can afford the time.
• If you end up on Adderall, be warned it is sometimes difficult to get. Don't tell your doctor this, but any time you have a day where you can skip a dose because nothing needs to be done, do it and save that pill. When you get new ones, rotate in the saved ones and put aside the same number of the new ones and try to have an emergency stock for the potential time when you have to wait for your meds. This only works for Stimulants and I do not recommend telling your doctor Non-stimulants require you to take it every day to work, but they're also less likely to be in a shortage. Stimulants just work when they're in your system, so skipping a dose won't lose you any progress. Plus, Stims aren't great for you long term and you'll need to take breaks to reset your tolerance, so skipping doses can prolong their efficacy.

Things that could help:

• I'm not a developer, but I am an artist (when I have time), I work full l time, and I'm in school. My meds are in a great place, but that doesn't mean there still aren't days I just can't get anything done. Yesterday I should have been working on a paper due this week, but I had a couple meetings and a doctor's appointment. When those were done, my brain just didn't have the remaining spoons to be creative enough to write a paper. But I was able to go over my research and make notes that will help make it easier when I do write it (Hopefully today).

And that's my best advice. Breaking down every part of what needs to be done, like was also stated here. But also, categorize those into things you need a good brain day for and things that you can just type out, or do without having to engage your brain. Maybe you can't code, but can you make plans for what you need to code? Write it out and have a plan in place for when your brain kicks in. Then, when it's time to do it, there's less in your way and you can probably do more.

• Also, lean into whatever your brain is willing to do at that time. I'm not always going to be in a space to really clean my house, so when I'm in that head-space, I go all out and clean like a motherfucker. If my brain ticks over and I'm in a writing space, I write all the things and get ahead on my work.
• Also, in planning, I find it helps to use a highlighter to color-code them (I keep them written down in multiple places, and on a digital calendar). Pink for most important or urgent, yellow for standard urgency and blue for no real deadline, but I do need it done. And put due-dates next to all of them. On my daily or weekly to-do list I write them out in order of due-dates so I can just do the one closest to the top that fits how I'm able to work.

Most importantly, I want to stress how important it is to find habits that work for you and keep it up after you get medicated. Most of the tools I use I developed over years of struggle before getting a diagnosis, and without them, even the meds wouldn't be enough.

And that Youtube channel is genuinely great. She works hard to find the best information according to science and also recognizes that the same things don't work for everyone (unlike so many ADHD self-help stuff out there) so she doesn't offer THIS ONE TRICK TO FIX YOUR ADHD!!! She offers a variety of tools that have been shown to help so you can find the one(s) that help you.

The purpose of libraries has simply expanded. A lot of people do still use it for books, but this being an online forum there's likely a selection bias at play. People learn to go to the library when that's the main place they have access to stuff, often because purchasing or finding it digitally is out of the price-range. As a consequence, those big beautiful libraries in the nice part of town are often pretty empty but the cramped one near us poor folk is full of families and their kids every weekend.

But libraries offer so much more than books. They have digital services, often with access to computers (again, mostly used by those who can't afford a personal computer), and research assistance. Librarians know how to research and find sources and are an invaluable help when trying to find research on a topic. My local has community events where someone comes in and gives presentations or activities for kids often. Libraries are a community project that brings people together. Unfortunately, public libraries, being not for profit, don't have extensive funds so they don't have the reach they used to. Public sentiment has also turned away from libraries for a variety of reasons and in different ways. The capitalist-centric world-view lends to people's appreciation for owning things and improving your own station while shying away from improving the group condition. Libraries whole purpose is antithetical to that world-view, so they're ignored at best, actively fought against at worst.

This is, of course, an American centric rant, since that's where I am and can't speak to the conditions elsewhere.

But then the premise of the post doesn't make sense. People in the 50's and 70's didn't have different accents. They used different vocabulary, but accents have not changed much in the past 70 years. Quick accent changes just don't happen that quickly outside of extremely isolated groups. You might be thinking of the transatlantic accent from tv and radio or whatever, but that was an affectation by actors and presenters. It wasn't real.

You raise some good points about VTTs, but on the other side, I'll say that it also provides some tools that can make an immersive experience easier. I DM'd the first time on roll20 and got really into it.

We were doing Phandelver and I made a bunch of custom maps to supplement the default because it allowed me to have different music for each map so I didn't forget to change it for atmosphere.

I uploaded a bunch of custom .pngs for tokens and stuff on maps.

Made handouts for monsters and important NPS so the players had a better picture of it than the small tokens.

Sound effects for events.

You can set dark vision and view distance for each character so you don't have to keep track of who can see what.

You can put AC and HP on tokens for players and enemies only viewable by the DM for easy tracking.

You can have tokens hidden on the map that only the DM sees and can change the layer when the trap is sprung.

It actually made my fist time running a game a lot easier and the tools enabled me to be more creative as I found new things I could do. Also, I'm bad at voices so I got a voice changer program and it was much better for them than my poor attempts at sounding creepy or scary.

Low blood pressure, low blood sugar, maybe dehydration? When you miss out on sleep, are you in bed trying to sleep and unable? I know for me, low blood sugar will give me headaches, and if I'm awake longer with less sleep my body has expended more energy than normal and needs that extra fuel to function properly. I always wake up starving if I was up late without eating later. When you sleep, your body, obviously uses less stored nutrients to operate. If you're not changing your routine with eating and drinking and you miss out on sleep, you may need water/food. Or it could be stress from lack of sleep tensing you up or you're sleeping at a weird angle because your schedule is off and your body didn't use it's muscle memory and get you into a better position.

Basically, you're going to want to pay attention to the things you're doing (or not doing) besides losing sleep. Eating/drinking, physical exertion, how does the rest of your body feel when you wake up?

Because that individual doesn't have the power to enforce their personal freedom. The Principal does have the power to enforce their idea of what the "correct" look is. The principal isn't concerned about raising conditions for the group in actuality, they just want reality to conform to their idea of what they desire it to be. For them, it's within their rights to their own freedom to bring everything that makes them uncomfortable to heel. Anything that they don't like is an affront to their personal freedom to make everyone do what they want.

I said this elsewhere, but I'll say it here too. Your girlfriend should not have to adapt to society to feel less socially awkward. The world needs to be more accepting of people with issues like that. It shouldn't be socially awkward. It should be okay for her to just say "Hey, sorry, I don't recognize faces without context. Where do I know you from?"

I had a friend years ago with aphasia and I would help them out when we'd meet by telling them what I'd be wearing and be on the look-out for them so I could walk up to them and they wouldn't have to pick me out of a crowd. I'd also usually greet them with my name. They were really good at identifying voices usually, but the small effort was always appreciated, and it's not that hard.

Their aphasia also extended beyond faces, so they would often have problems finding their car if they didn't park in the same place, so they would take a picture of the car and some landmark near by. They would show me the pictures so I could help them find it.

What I'm saying is, is we as a society are going to be social to this great of a degree, where we interact with dozens of people, we need to learn to make it a place where everyone can also be involved as they are, not force them to conform to impossible standards for them.

Poor working memory is a huge ADHD trait. What the world needs is to drop the expectation of remembering names. ADHD, either as just a natural thing that the human brain does sometimes or as a result of other factors, is becoming an increasingly prevalent thing among a growing portion of the population. Yet the world is not built to accommodate people with it. Medication and therapy help, but the issues never really go away, and the solution in most cases shouldn't be to "fix" those with ADHD to make them more "normal," but to make the world into a place where they too can function. And this goes for anything neuro-divergent, obviously. We should get rid if the idea of making different people into "normal" people and instead make society a place where everyone can be accepted and function along side everyone else.

Sorry, I ranted a bit there...

Ooh! I've got a thing about this!

In an Episode of the Youtube series Under the Blacklight, David Blight, a Yale professor brought something up that I think brings the American idea of "freedom" into a different context. He says “This whole new idea of what’s liberty and liberty for whom, can also kill. Especially when it replaces the idea of Liberty as that which has to be shared in some kind of common good.”

The idea isn't really new and is actually deeply rooted in America's past through to it's creation. Freedom should be a group concept in which we maximize freedom for the populace. Instead it's seen as individual freedom only. When you combine this with the idea that freedom is the most important thing, it results in people coming to the conclusion that they are justified in anything in the process of attaining what they want. And they'll use whatever tools they have available to attain this in as straight a path as they can.

America has always been a champion of personal freedom, whatever they say. It's founding was about a bunch of business men who didn't want to pay taxes so they staged a rebellion. There's still a heavy bent against taxes with the main argument being people don't want the government to have any power, but really it's because individuals just want to keep their money while disregarding the ways in which that money would improve the good for all people. At it's core America is a Selfish nation built of selfishness and getting yours before someone else takes it.

It gets more a little complicated when talking about motives of those in power, but boils down to the same, and they retain that power primarily by banging the "personal freedoms" drum.

To quote famed Discworld philosopher Granny Weatherwax,

"There's no grays, only white that's got grubby. I'm surprised you don't know that. And sin, young man, is when you treat people like things. Including yourself. That's what sin is." "It's a lot more complicated than that--" "No. It ain't. When people say things are a lot more complicated than that, they means they're getting worried that they won't like the truth. People as things, that's where it starts." "Oh, I'm sure there are worse crimes--" "But they starts with thinking about people as things..."

Thank you for coming to my TED talk

Oh, I see now. I missed some pretty basic math there with that distribution. That makes sense now, thank you!

So I'm bad at math. Can you explain why we've decided to multiply pi by 2? Is there an articulable reason or is it just a rule?

c+x= pi * (d+2) in this case, right? So where did that multiply pi by 2 come from?

Okay, but what if there is no compression or expansion? What if it's a rigid string already stretched out just enough to be expanded completely but not enough to move the bell? Or maybe a thin wire of the same weight?

Do you have a degree of social anxiety? Over the years I've noticed that multiple sources of sensory input get overwhelming when I'm stressed. If I feel in control and "calm" I can just mentally filter it all as a single background noise but if my anxiety is real bad or I'm upset about something else I feel like I'm being assaulted from all sides.

If I'm at a bar with friends I'm comfortable with and we're relaxed and chatting then I'm fine. The music and myriad of conversations all just become a single background noise. Drinking probably helps.

If I'm struggling to accomplish some task and it's really getting to me, any noise from multiple sources puts me on edge and I'll do pretty much anything to stop it.

And if it's not an anxiety thing for you, it might just be that it's from multiple sources. Sensory overload isn't usually a physical thing, it's how our brain interprets it, which means our state of mind or even our perception matters. The music you listen to you know is coming from one place: your headphones/speakers. You know it's meant to work together so your brain can file that away as a single thing to comprehend. A noisy party with 20 different conversation that you know are all separate? Your brain is trying to view them all separately and ADHD can make you want to interpret all of them.

I think that last bit is most likely and could just be the basic of what your brain is doing. But for me personally, stress triggers my brains inability to filter all background noise as a single "noise" because it's on high alert fight-or-flight mode and on the lookout for dangers so it's taking everything in that it can to locate the danger.

I think something like that coffitivity thing could help you acclimatize you to it if you're looking to change your reaction. Train your brain to view that kind of noise as a singular source and not 100 different sources. And with the internet being what it is, there's almost definitely something out there that will imitate whatever environment you're wanting to adjust to.

When I was 15 and learning to drive my dad lived in Atlanta. I went there for a visit once and he had me drive there, and everywhere for the whole week. My first experience driving on an interstate included going 90 around the perimeter full of other cars going faster than me and requiring getting from one onramp and moving over 4 lanes to get tot he next exit in half a mile. It was terrifying and I definitely cut waaayyy too many people off driving into town and I'm shocked I didn't cause a wreck. That was always his teaching style, just throwing me into the deep end. It's still burned into my brain as one of the most dangerous things I've done (And that's a long list). But, when I had to go into my drivers ed class the following school year I was the only one who was at all comfortable on the interstate and one of the best drivers in the class.

I don't recommend teaching things that way and I'd never do that with my children, but damn was it effective since I didn't die. Not dying was probably a close call though.

"anti" also doesn't mean opposite, it means against. The roots of the word, tracing back to the Greek, means against. As it does in French and it's Sanskrit version. All forms of it mean opposed to. This is why language is important and some checks should be there to counter the "language is malleable" argument that people use as an excuse to not learn how to use words correctly. The idea that anti means opposite has been around as long as I can remember, and definitely longer than that, but it drastically changes the meaning of words.

As a wage slave, even spelled out like that it doesn't sound great to me. I don't care about how impressive the company is beyond it's ability to pay me. "Hey, you did a good job of making my company look good enough to hire people better than you." I'm not sure exactly how to put my discomfort with it into words, but being told I did a good job of improving the company's image just feels like a pat on the head and a "good boy." My goal here isn't to help you, it's to get you to give me money. Compliment me with a raise, not telling me how much more money you're making because of me. Bragging to employees about quarterly profits only actually cheers up the ones who drink the company koolaid at every job they ever work at. For the rest of us it means that we won't be out of a job because the company went under. I got an extra 2 hundred dollars from my salary this year from that and the guy announcing it got a hundred thousand dollar bonus. Great.

I've worked in loss leader departments before and have always liked it, but my salary wasn't dependent on tips so... But getting a job in a part of a business where your department itself doesn't bring in money, but it's existence brings in more money for the company just by existing can be great short term. You don't have to worry about KPIs or much more than just doing a good job. Then, inevitably, the company gets bought, or someone new comes in high up who only wants to see numbers go higher and can't see the forest for the trees. They see an department losing money and they don't believe the statistics around loss leaders, so they scrap it or make efficiency more important, which means the department can't focus on doing a good job anymore and it becomes just like every other job, except it's functionally impossible for that department to make money.

Back when I cooked I worked in a string of grocery stores who would have fresh prepared food available. They're meant to run at a loss. Hot fresh meals in a grocery store just isn't going to break even. People aren't going to wait like at a restaurant so food always has be be prepared and ready to go pretty quickly. It's a pretty good gig. You get to cook a variety of things as the menu changes all the time, and customers tend to be pretty appreciative there. It felt a lot like catering, but with less stress and more appreciation. But an exec always ruined it at every place I worked. I'd hop around a lot since, for some reason, there were multiple grocery brands in the area that did it. Eventually I just left the whole industry.