Stromatose @ Stromatose @lemmy.world

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It's definitely scammer bait. Also amusing that the leet speak "spectral" came by to corroborate leet speak "ghost's" experience. How long before VVR/\1TH, $had3, and C@sper, swing by? Heck even Gemini calls it as such:

Extreme Reactions: Parents, even very religious ones, rarely react this way. While they might disapprove of your sexuality or beliefs, completely disowning you and cutting off all contact is unusual.

Lack of Support: While friends and neighbors might be surprised or uncomfortable, it's unlikely they would completely abandon you.

Food Bank Issues: Food banks generally have inclusive policies and would not turn someone away due to their situation.

"IT Certifications" as a bargaining chip: While these skills are valuable, offering them in exchange for basic necessities like food and shelter seems out of place in this context.

It certainly matches up with my ADHD experiences including a past relationship. First diagnosed at 24 or maybe it was 25 and being rather sociable I met people through whatever my particular interest was at the time. Tennis, ju jitsu, volleyball at the park, biking, frequent gym routine, hanging out at a local bar. Most of these were pretty active things until a jackass in a blue gi messed up my knee and slowed my physical activity down considerably for a while.

Girls I met who were really into one active thing were usually also on board with trying another active thing even if it didn't stick for them but I started to notice a difference between our philosophies on hobbies and interests.

A byproduct of ADHD for many is the ability to learn and acclimate to a new interest really fast and it wasn't long after my diagnosis that I came to understand my frequently changing interests were replacements more often than they were additions.

When my knee became an issue I got really into cooking, then magic the gathering, then D&D and other table top games, and pc gaming in general. The girl I was dating at the time helped by being a really good point of reflection as I jumped from interest to interest and she was struggling to follow despite still enjoying each other's company. She liked that I was enthusiastic about things and loved that energy but since she wasn't able to share my new interests as well it strained our relationship a bit.

I was in therapy with a great doctor regarding my adhd diagnosis still at the time and she helped me through the stages of grief that often comes with ADHD diagnosis. Realizing that despite my efforts I will not always be able to control the way it changes me, my perception, and expectations of others I came to this understanding of self made rules when interacting with partners who do not have ADHD:

I must be clear about my opinion on tasks and topics early. I must make sure they understand my experience through the lens of ADHD is likely very different from theirs. I must communicate how a thing feels calmly when the context is still fresh in their mind. I must work with them to establish a fair system of equal compromises because neither of our own ways is more "right" than the others in most circumstances. I must try to recognize when I am facing a task or responsibility that my disorder will make me resent completing and I should share that feeling and explanation with my partner whenever I can.

Keep in mind these are some psychotic "I must always obey these internal rules!" kind of things but rather they are helpful reminders that I am not the imagined high energy, happy go lucky person I sometimes come off as and being up front about my quirks helps set the right expectations in a relationship. Not everyone can deal with an ADHD partner and it's shameful as well as harmful to yourself to try and trick them otherwise even if you do it with good intentions.

You do not need to feel ashamed of false advertising because with ADHD, it was never really your choice. Even in this post you still wish you could enjoy that interest but the fact is, you don't and that really sucks because it's one of the things ADHD has robbed you of.

If you are just about to get your diagnosis then make sure to get into some therapy too along with medication if you go that route as you will likely start learning a lot about yourself now that the mystery of your nature is made more clear.

Its like putting on glasses for the first time if you grew up with bad vision. You never knew how many details there were in some things ubtill you could see them through new eyes and once you start to learn more about ADHD and you can recognize things in your life enough to ask "is this a me thing? Or is this an ADHD thing?" you will gain a much broader perspective.

Oh and to answer your final questions, yes this sounds a great deal like ADHD to me with a healthy dose of strong introspection and unfortunately medication does not treat this part of the disorder. The meds are a crutch to help you focus on things you don't want to focus on naturally. Everything else will need to be treated by you learning about what makes your particular brain tick the way it does.

Seems like the best strategy don't you think? There are no real pros to pushing a pointless copyright claim and only negatives would come from doing so.

Eh, they deserve a little hostility.

Last time I fired up a game I owned on steam that required the ubi launcher was a few years ago now and it was really bad then. Like to the point of it automatically creating a new account for me and forcibly linking it to my steam profile despite it not being the account I already had with ubisoft from a registration I had created on an Xbox console previously. It permanently divided my library between multiple ubisoft logins and made accessing the right one really annoying. Their support wouldn't let me refund or even migrate the title to the correct account and they made it an even further inconvenience by not letting me unlink my steam profile from my (wrong) ubisoft profile without writing in a physical letter for some stupid reason. Something to do with purchase history not overlapping with the steam profile or honestly I don't even remember anymore but it was more than enough to no longer want to do business with them.

If it's improved to the point that it's just a pop-up I'd be willing to consider them again. I really don't want to support ubisoft themselves but I'd love to support Prince of Persia games. If any other studio owned the IP I would have bought it on release day

They are making progress by not delaying all of their releases on steam but man that launcher is a nuiscance.

I was too hostile to the company in my last message, honestly I used to enjoy their games. And in general I enjoy the types of games they produce. I'm a sucker for open world stuff but I stopped buying their games when they started trying to emulate the EA strategy of remaking the same game every year and inflating dlc.

I'll happily welcome them back into my library when they drop the launcher component and lean in to steams networking features for easy coop and such.

Just the other day my buddy and I were looking for a coop open world action game with decent combat, he stumbled onto ghost recon wildlands or maybe it was the sequel but either way once we saw it was ubisoft we moved on to look for other title and ended up choosing an entirely different genre despite that being what we were looking for

Ubisoft is in the hotseat because they let their suits have too much power over the games they produce.

I am a fan of the prince of persia series and based on the reviews I'd seen I was really interested in this title. But their absolute refusal to participate in the steam ecosystem and insistence on pushing their launcher means that I, as someone who values my own time, am not going to bother with their nonsense.

They don't understand their customers anymore. Not well enough to shift the direction of their company's initiatives. They deserve to fail even when they do manage to produce fun and interesting games because they are bad at the business aspects of being a game publisher/developer.

Yeah I mean obviously all these people must be wrong. It is a masterpiece whether you vibe with it or not but I just don't see how it comes off as repetitive to someone.

Reasonable assumptions are a fundamental requirement for communication. It's not that you are wrong in what you are saying. There is a chance that the poser of the question made a visual representation of the triangle's sides appear to be complementary and appear to construct a straight line across their bases while not actually definitively indicating them as such.

The way these triangle's are represented is already skewed so perhaps that is what they are trying to do.

The thing is though, at that point they are defying convention and reasonable assumptions so much that they aren't worth engaging seriously because it's flawed communication.

The version people are choosing to answer seriously is equivalent to a guy holding up a sign that says "ask me about my wiener to get one in a flash for free!" while standing next to a hot dog stand. If you ask he flashes his junk at you and says cheekily "haha you just assumed wrong! Idiot!"

That's already dumb enough but some people could see the clues that suggest he was actually intended to flash people the whole time through a series of reasonable assumptions about his outfit lacking pants or the hit dog stand not even being turned on.

Your argument that we can't assume the line at the bottom is straight is like saying we can't assume the theoretical trenchcoat man won't toss a rabid dachshund he was hiding under the coat at us because the hot dog stand has no buns or condiments on it.

You might not be provably wrong but it's really not worth thinking like an insane person just because a few conventions were defied

So why not hang out with them outside of the workplace?

Yep, I really enjoy my job too and I even work with some really good people but I keep my personal life... personal. It's not like I hide my personality and life from my colleagues but I've got enough friends that I don't feel like I need to add any more to my inner circle.

I don't mean to say that the place can't be nice but I would hope your home is of greater comfort than your workplace in most cases.

Obviously some different life circumstances influence your options of making new friends as an adult. I can certainly understand your perspective there but perhaps it's hard for me to relate since my significant other and I have no children nor do our friend and none of us desire to ever have them either.

I'm sure they consume a great deal of time and energy that probably drives a person to crave social experiences away from them. If work is the only place they can get away from them I can understand that too but hobbies can still be an option.

World feels overcrowded as it is. Getting a shit deal because so many others choose to have kids and then want to force people to spend time trapped in a box with them... It's like a whole population of people having their cake and eating it too... Or whatever expression fits best here for an unfair, double-dipping advantage...

And actually now that I think of it, two of our friend group did have kids and we all drifted apart because they were no longer able to commit time and weekends like we did to each other.

They used to often say "we should all hang out again!" and such but then either we're never available or had to leave early or host events at their place which required interacting with their kids and I gotta say toddlers are not skillful conversationalists.

I don't have a solution for people with kids trying to find friends at work. I can understand why it might seem appealing to them but speaking from the other side, it feels like a burden I shouldn't have to carry.

I'm sure you have friends outside of work right?

That's the part I never understand about people who connect working in office and with the fun of seeing others is person.

Why are you so willing to put up with commuting, office quality furniture, public restroom facilities, sick people who realllllly should have leverage optional work from home days or just regular old sick time... When you could just have more time for friends outside of the workplace.

I see my friends on weekends or they come over and we have game nights spending quality time with each other rather than infrequent unplanned interactions when we both should be doing something else.

My personal life friends are the people I "jump" for. Not coworkers. Having to "jump" for a coworker is and should be an inconvenience in the workplace because it means a failure of planning occurred somewhere. You can still have friendly camaraderie in the face of inconvenient circumstances but I don't think you need to have some deep relationship to help out a colleague. That comes with the job to some extent.

When I've become friends with people from work, I invite them into my entirely separate personal life and in fact that is the case for one of my closest friends.

I just feel like If you wanna hang out with people from the office invite them to something outside of the office. The whole captive audience thing is such a demoralizing foundation to start a friendship with.

I too have ADHD and my in office days are so full of interruptions I just don't plan productive work during that time anymore and instead just book them full of pointless meetings.

Working at home I get interrupted exactly once a day by my girlfriend while she plays with our cat on her lunch break since she had a permanent work from home position even before covid.

A single quiet Thursday or Friday let's me out pace all my peers books of work. The company just wastes their money when they make me show up in person. I don't even by lunch or snacks out there or anything so it doesn't even support local economy. Just wasting time and money for people who can't keep their home organized enough to effectively work from.

It's the kind of short sighted strategy you always see from upper level corporate execs. They make impulse decisions on limited data and justify it with predictions based on old data.

You know, the only kind of data it's possible for them to have at the time of their decision because they refuse to pay for external analysis or external data when they can use their own people and records!

So some jackass sets up a slicer on an excel file assigning an arbitrary value to the asset based on headcount capacity and woudknt you know it? The numbers go down when there are less people there.

Well that answers everything you need to know. Keep people in office, property retains value. Simple stuff really but they will say in their speeches and presentations that they have gone over the numbers and this is the way to go.

Never having considered that they could leverage the square footage in other equitable ways than they already do because, well, that data simply wasn't available.

And it's all bs anyways because real estate value is speculative and determined by the buyer. So when larger business embrace the hybrid or work from home model they give themselves a market advantage and can purchase or lease smaller office space at lower costs than they would have previously so really the only way this grift works is if all they big players keep overpaying for property.

Sooner or later it gets solved by the market whether that want it to be or not. The genie of work from home is already out of the bottle it's just a bunch of "boomer" businesses death gripping and smoking copium as much as they can until they are forced to adapt

I bought it digitally on release day so my slightly-above-casual-gamer GF could play on the switch and then a few days later I pirated a copy to play on my steam deck and pc interchangeably. While I would have no major qualms about buying additional copies, Nintendo's insistence on maintaining their native control scheme in a western market will guarantee that many core gamers like myself, who are familiarized with Microsoft and Sony control schemes, will shy away from their products.

I can only have my immersion and fun interrupted by canceling out of a menu or action so many times before I'm just not that interested anymore despite having given it an honest try more than once.

Whine all they want about piracy but I doubt they aren't losing a significant number of legitimate sales from it. Most people who buy Nintendo consoles and games are loyal to that ecosystem from my own experiences and wouldn't bother with learning how to access pirated materials.

So yeah I also pirated it and would pirate another game from them too if I felt like giving it a shot but even if pirating wasn't an option, I would never buy a Nintendo product for myself.