Sombyr @ Sombyr @lemmy.one

Gender: Female, Sexuality: Enigma,

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As somebody with schizoaffective, I don't understand where you're coming from saying it means I'm the only one with power over myself. In fact, I've found even after being well medicated I'm incredibly easy to manipulate. All you have to do is tell me somebody's trying to control me and instantly I've spun a 2000 foot deep web about how they're doing it. Then you just tell me you have the solution and suddenly I'm eating out of your hand.

And my emotional barrier is paper thin. I only look unaffected by things. In reality if I'm the slightest bit scared or upset, I'm breaking down inside and spinning another web to fill in the cracks. My whole existence is built on delusions and lies I've built up to keep myself together, such that even now that I'm in a place where I theoretically could start breaking them down and rebuilding properly, I won't, because I'd fall apart, and I can't handle that.

I've decided to just be happy being fucked up. Not because that's right, but because that's the only thing I can survive.

Unfortunately, don't think we can do any of those to any significant effect. We're both on medicaid and non-taxable disability income. In other words, we don't usually legally have to file taxes unless we had some other kind of income that year because it's just gonna be a long string of zeros.

What we can do though is file for disability as a married couple, then we can legally save up a lot more money in exchange for being paid slightly less. The requirements for that are just living together and "holding yourself out as a married couple to the community you live." Well, actually, there is a bit of awkwardness with the wording last I checked that accidentally makes it only apply to heterosexual couples, but I'm sure they legally have to apply the rule to homosexual couples as well. We'll see anyway.

I believe we also have the same visitation rights as a married couple if we're ever hospitalized, which is helpful considering we've both found ourselves hospitalized as a result of our disabilities a few times. I'm not certain about that though. We had quite a distance separating us every time that's happened so far, so haven't had the opportunity to test that.

I hate the whole "its" being converted to "it's" no matter what thing, but what I hate more is when I teach the keyboard a word, and it STILL won't let me use it. Taught my keyboard "that'd" and it would autocorrect it to "that's" every time. And unlike other words, if I went back and manually corrected it back, it wouldn't leave it, it'd force it back to "that's" again and refuse to let me change it. Come to think of it, it did that with "it'd" to "it's" too. Eventually I just switched to a different keyboard with much less aggressive autocorrect, since I still need the autocorrect to type with any semblance of speed due to minor coordination issues.

My old keyboard abruptly started autocorrecting more typos into what I was saying than it corrected toward the end anyway. Probably some shoddy attempt to implement AI auto correction.

Luckily, I did look up the laws for my state, and legally we aren't technically married, but we do have the right and sometimes the obligation to apply for some marriage related benefits. It's weirdly inconsistent.

I wouldn't know. My wife's the only person I've ever dated. Probably wouldn't just do that with random dates though. My wife and I knew eachother for a while before we were dating and got close even before then. That's why I was comfortable calling her my wife. I was confident it'd last. Even then it wasn't until a while in the relationship that we started doing it.

Plus we'd been getting mistaken for a married couple quite a lot, so I figured why not just act like one? Takes off the pressure to actually get married too early, too. After all, what's there to gain that we can't gain without it?

It thoroughly confuses me that many people have come to the conclusion that people saying "closeted trans people do X thing quite often" actually mean "all people doing X thing are trans." I don't know how half the replies here have come to that conclusion.

This meme is reductive, only talking about it like it'll be either a trans person or toxic cis dude, but it's a joke. Jokes need to be some level of reductive to work. Otherwise you're just describing a funny situation in real life. (Also, reread the meme. They never say those are the only two options, they just say those are two possibilities. That's not the same thing.)

But yeah, offering to help somebody who you think may be trans acquire resources isn't a bad thing just because the majority of people won't end up needing it. Just politely decline it if you don't. Nobody's trying to force you to be trans. They're just trying to help the people that are.

You'd hate me then. I'm not even married nor engaged to my wife. We just call each other that because it feels nice.

Every linux distro I've used, and every device I've used them on, I've had to do hours, sometimes days of googling and editing config files just to get the audio to work right. Then half the time I update and it's broken again.

I'm a major linux newbie though. Not in terms of actually being new, but in terms of having no clue how to fix basic things.

As a trans woman, we definitely can get a similar phenomenon, but I can't vouch for how common it is or if it's the same thing.

If it does happen, it generally starts a while after your hormone levels get consistently in the right place. Don't need surgery. For me, it's even straight up dependant on what brand of estrogen I'm taking. I take injections, and if I'm on 10mg/ml, it happens, but any time I have to take 20mg/ml, it stops. Doesn't matter that my hormone levels haven't shifted even slightly.

It is known that it's the same organs producing it as males have, but why it begins to behave like that and why it doesn't happen to everyone is, as far as I know, completely unknown.

All you gotta do is push the ends that're stocking out under once it's soft enough. No stirring necessary. I suppose you can if that's easier for you, but I don't bother.

Editing in real quick though, I've never cooked high end pasta, so maybe that's different. I'm broke, so it's always the cheap stuff for me

I have never stirred pasta before, and never had it stick even once. Are you sure you're waiting for the water to reach a full boil to add the pasta? At that point that air bubbles should be knocking it around enough that you don't have to bother.

It's really not that long. I leave it on both as I'm brushing, and as I'm swishing mouth wash around. About 3 and a half minutes total. It's not on purpose, it's just because I don't think to turn it off.

I had a teacher tell me to drop out then be forced to write an apology letter for it.

She wrote "I'm sorry you thought I told you to drop out."

So I'm gonna say "I'm sorry you thought" is high up there. Straight up gaslighting.

I can agree with that. I've been part of a cult before (was born into it) and I can recognize a lot of what I went through there in far right people. I guess I'm just a little sensitive to people calling these people idiots and hateful people due to seeing myself in them. Like, to me, they're (usually) just good people being manipulated into thinking the awful things they say and do are good, and they need a rational and caring person to pull them slowly out of it, the same way I did.

Obviously, it takes more than just talking usually to pull somebody out of a cult, but I think it's still a big part of it. They've been fooled into thinking that things that are rational aren't, and unless they're confronted with the actual truth and the facts to back them up, they're not going to even start to question their beliefs.

I'm also not suggesting that every person needs to debate every republican about every issue they bring up. If you can't or even just don't want to debate somebody, you don't have any obligation to, but I don't think insulting them over it is almost ever the right response.

There's also the angle of how every cult teaches you that you're going to be persecuted for your beliefs, and brainwashes you into thinking that should reaffirm you that you must be correct. That is one major reason I think labeling all conservatives as irrational and hopeless is dangerous. When somebody who's been taught that the world is going to hate them for being "right" finds that the world does not, in fact, hate them, but instead just displays genuine concern, that's when you fully start to question everything.

I don't think every right winger is going to fling left when presented with this view. In fact, I think the vast majority won't, but it will make them a little more understanding, and a little more understanding over the course of many years and generations adds up.

Indeed. I drink between a gallon and two gallons every day, depending on how active I've been. According to my doctors, it's perfectly safe. I'm fairly certain water intoxication only hits at pretty absurd amounts.

I like listening to multiple songs at the same time. Like, playing a video game, while listening to music, but not also muting the game's music, so I hear both at once.

lol, never even been to a real city in my entire life. Literally the most populated place I've ever been to doesn't even crack a population of 50k people, and the most populated place I ever lived was a tenth of that. Been a small town girl my whole life.

Definitely heard the trees thing as a kid though, I'd just already been told that trees were being blown around by the wind, but nobody could tell me that cars were being blown around by the wind I felt when I saw them, so that's why I concluded it must be the cars that were responsible for the wind.

I noticed there was always a gust of wind after cars passed, so I concluded wind was caused by invisible cars driving by. Storms were caused by the invisible drivers driving too fast.

I used to go outside during storms and yell at them to slow down. I was convinced it was working.

Fixed typo resulting in ticks giving lyme disease instead of limes diseases. Ticks now properly feed on fruit juices instead of blood.

Interesting. I suppose they're both objects with pointy bits much larger than the holes they're trying to pass through. On that note, I've been through very severe anal stenosis and THAT I would say was closing in on the most horrific pain I've ever been through. Before I could go to the doctor about it my wife basically had to spend all day and sometimes night keeping me occupied so I had something to do other than cry.