SincerityIsCool @ SincerityIsCool @lemmy.ca

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This is why we need propositional representation - without a system that allows viable alternatives to the lesser evil our country isn't really a democracy.

Thanks!

When my phone scans a QR code it shows what the URL text is without needing to go to the URL. Any time you're thinking about going to a link you gotta consider the risks, but if it says restrauntname.com/menu I'll feel better about it than if it's a url shortener

Plain, readable urls rather than using shortening services is a step in the right direction, but it won't stop lookalike phishing.

The more concerning thing going on is Debian potentially embracing AI, which I am very much not a fan of.

Can you elaborate on this, or point me to where I can read about it? Getting away from AI was a part of the reason I ditched Windows :/

The Dairy lobby is at it again...

You deserve that money more than anyone who parties on a yacht does.

Besides, it only seems generous because you and them live in fundamentally different financial worlds. If they were actually generous they'd pay enough taxes for you to have fully funded education with a liveable stipend.

I tried it out to see how it was coming along a year or so ago. It made Kenshi look polished.

This is really good advice for you, OP. Polyamory is potentially a very strong and fulfilling relationship structure, but it's a lot of work and it's not necessarily easy.

Most of the polyamorous people i know came into their relationships already down for polyamory. Opening up a monogamous relationship is risky, so it is a good idea to proceed in an informed and intentional manner.

There's a lot of ways relationships can go. A part of polyamory means finding what works for y'all. Who knows, maybe it'll end up as a monogamous situation where the new guy joins y'all platonically as chosen family.

To clarify, by polycule I mean the total chain of romantic relationships. Currently it's four of us living together, and two more living together as a couple where me and my chosen family member have been dating one of them for years. For most of it, the section living together was three of us, romantically a v but more than that we think of eachother as chosen family.

It definitely helps with financial stability insofar as there's a lot of buffer when someone is between jobs, but otherwise it's not all that different. Housing space needs scale with number of people in the family, after all. We're starting to look in to purchasing a house together, and to an extent the purchasing power of four working professionals helps there, but if we also want kids it means looking at big houses so again it kinda evens out. There's also an added layer of legal complexity that becomes necessary with home ownership - we don't have a ready made framework like marriage.

Edit: I realized I didn't answer your first question. It depends. Not as much as a traditional monogamous married family would - we mostly have separate bank accounts. But we share most of our expenses (even split for ease) and have income-scaled split of rent.

You should look into polyamory/consensual non-monogamy. What you're describing doesn't have to be seen as some sort of weird perverse thing doomed to failure and return to the status quo. It is a legitimate family structure.

I've been in a polyamorous family for almost a decade now. Most of it was three (the sort of v shape you describe) but also with a larger (currently six total) non-domestic polycule. I'm not the tip of the v but I love my metamours (word for partners' partners) as family.

It's viable. The trick is a gratuitous amount of candid conversation, and a dedication to the family.

Trump is shit, and he's spewing shit, but that doesn't make this a shitpost.

I recently started migrating my email and went with mailbox.org. I opted for it based on it having a good balance of ethical/environmental stances, support for custom email domain (so email doesn't feel like vendor lock in in the future), and a business model focusing on paid service.

There were a lot of options but ultimately I just wanted something "good enough" rather than spending weeks on comparing. A part of that decision was realizing I didn't care about getting something with the best possible privacy - email is predominantly an insecure medium and things with E2EE work only if the recipient is in the same ecosystem, which is rare. In practice I'm not going to trust anything sensitive to email regardless, so I might as well prioritize picking something that looks like a decent and stable balance.

Mailbox.org has calendar but I haven't really played with it much. I'm realistically going to look in to look in to something self hosted since I will require more features than most email providers will offer, so I don't want to tether the two services. That was a part of the reasoning for Mailbox.org over something with more services - I wanted email, not something trying to be the next ecosystem - that's what I was trying to get away from!

The joke is it inverts the usual "what a week/but captain it's Wednesday" meme. Wednesday (the character) calls the captain Commodore (a title for someone in command of a group of ships, but lower rank than an admiral). The captain corrects Wednesday, saying he's just a captain.

Why can't I upvote and downvote this comment

Thanks for explaining. There is a lot of conflicting information out here - do you have any sources for where I can learn more?

See my response to feebleneedle. No port forwarding limits connections

Do you know where I can learn more about this? That's a pretty important detail to be as glossed over as it is in this community

Doesn't that completely defeat the purpose of using a VPN?