Jojo @ Silentiea @lemm.ee

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Because it's still acting as a descriptor rather than an identifier, despite playing the syntactic role of a noun instead of an adjective. It's more about semantics in this case than syntax.

They do an IPO and a muskrat becomes the majority shareholder

except that we already have a word for "female person", and that's "woman". And to go out of your way to avoid saying "woman" makes you sound like some kind of incel weirdo

Sounds more like a terf or "gender critical" person, but maybe that's just my experience.

The trouble is that there's often not a difference in treatment between being involuntarily committed because you've demonstrated that danger and you checking yourself in because you can't take care of yourself right now.

I stopped using Facebook long ago, but that doesn't really matter. I'm not really their target demographic anymore. I expect neither are you. I know people who use Facebook regularly for one reason or another. I don't think that use looks much at all like it did in 2007, but they're still using it.

I have to assume that your dad would rather have you in his life as his daughter than to be estranged from his "son".

I'm ...honestly not convinced he would. And even if he would, I don't really trust his ability to have that conversation charitably. Maybe that's not fair to him, but.....

Is there an interest you both share?

I was honestly pondering that question myself the other day and not a lot. He's interested in sports (mostly hockey and basketball) while I'm not really at all. When I've tried to engage and watch a game with him, if I, like, ask a question or something he just gets frustrated and annoyed that I'm interrupting. And don't get me started on how he reacts if I say "good play" or something for the wrong team (mind, the only team I know isn't "wrong" is the broncos and he watches, like, every game from everyone)... Ask that even before my transition, let alone now.

He used to play games, but I don't think he's honestly done any gaming in like 20 years. He doesn't hate, like, party games, but if it's a party it's already not a great time for "real talk".

He has an interest in, like, politics and such. But he's pretty much totally conservative, still denies climate change kind of thing. So that's not a great way to have a nice chat with him either.

This might surprise you to learn, but boomers are, in fact, people. They might not be the driving force behind the parts of the digital economy you care about, but they still count. They still make money for the services they use.

Yeah. I'm sure if you asked him, he'd say he's being "perfectly reasonable." He lets me come to his house and call myself whatever I want (except mom to my daughter, obviously), as long as I don't "dress in a way that betrays my sex," whatever nebulous thing that means. Basically just no being a woman. And of course he'll still use my deadname, misgender me whenever he refers to me, you know how it is.

There's a pattern, but for now it's ...mostly tolerable? He's a bigot; he's homophobic towards my sister and he's homophobic and transphobic towards me. To confront him... I don't expect I would have any better outcome than "my house my rules", and my whole (big) family is pretty close. I would miss seeing everyone as often since he's the one who hosts us every week.

I've stayed away a lot more since I came out and he started being a dick about it than I ever did before, but it's hard. It's hard to make time to see my sisters and brothers and my mom, especially when they all already see each other pretty much every week at his house. So I kowtow and let him pretend that I'm his son instead of his daughter. Until I need some space from it, which might just be now, again.

Because he's a bigot, mostly. It's not a good reason

I've seen megameters used in the context of astronomical distances, but not terrestrial ones. I think terrestrially, the familiarity of kilometers helps with a sense of scale.

Thanks. I did end up changing, but only because I had to go home for a minute for other reasons.

He is the king of "sounds like a personal problem," so you're right that it isn't my job to fix how he feels

Well, my dad just said he can't be around me because I'm in a dress, but I wanted to dress up nice today so that's what I'm in. Should I leave? It's his house, but it's a family get-together and we're celebrating my grandpa's (his dad's) birthday. Grandpa is seeming to be reaching the end of his life soon...

Whew, just made it. Glad I'm not that person.

Whatever they did, it launched little floaty hearts across the room and out the door.

I'm not sure I understand what's happening here, but I'm looking forward to the five hour hbomberguy video explaining the whole thing in about 8 years.

it will UNLEASH its ability to differentiate between there and their and its and it’s.

Perfectly acceptable answer

Just make it a sauna or something so you can cook them dead every now and again

Why does it matter if one or the other is male or female?