Waterbedrijven: Maas wordt viezer door lozingen en klimaatverandering
Shelena @ Shelena @feddit.nl Posts 6Comments 403Joined 2 yr. ago
Ik weet niet of ze met kinderen bedoelen kinderen van een jaar of 16, of echt kleine kinderen. Dat maakt wel.ren verschil. Ik vind het ook anders of ze door hun ouders zijn meegenomen of zelf het initiatief hebben genomen. Jammer dat het artikel verder helemaal nergens op in gaat.
Ik heb geen idee of dat veel is in vergelijking met wat er weg moet. Maar ik hoop dat zo veel mogelijk boeren zich vrijwillig uit laten kopen. Lijkt me wel de makkelijkste oplossing
Ik weet niet of dat zo is in alle sectoren. Bijvoorbeeld de druk in de zorg lijkt me meer geworden. Er is constant te weinig geld en te weinig personeel en die druk komt dan op de mensen die er wel zijn. Dat geldt ook voor het onderwijs. Personeelstekort en er moet steeds maar meer aan lespakketten etc. Daarnaast heb ik het idee dat mensen ook wat mondiger zijn dan vroeger en soms zelfs agressiever als dingen niet gaan zoals ze willen. Dit legt ook nog weer extra druk.
Ja, dat klopt. Beetje de standpunten verkopen van de grote bedrijven in de agrarische sector en dat is het wel. Ik begrijp niet goed wat zo veel mensen in haar zien. Ik heb van Omzigt wel een wat hogere pet op. Hij lijkt in elk geval wel integer.
Van der Plas komt juist op mij over alsof haar ego enorm op de voorgrond staat eerlijk gezegd. Hoeveel andere BBB politici kent de gemiddelde Nederlander?
Heb ik niet gezien eerlijk gezegd. Maar kan natuurlijk dat hij ook wel wat programma's gemaakt heeft die leuk waren maar die ik heb gemist.
Als zijn nieuwe inzicht en spijt inderdaad oprecht is en niet uit eigenbelang, dan is dat natuurlijk goed. Het is dan ook een goed voorbeeld voor andere mensen die niet zo bekend zijn, maar wel hetzelfde gedrag hebben op het werk.
Ik moet zeggen dat ik zijn programma's verder niet zo bekeek. De afgelopen jaren vond ik DWDD echt irritant om naar te kijken ook. Superoppervlakkig met steeds maar weer diezelfde mensen en geforceerd leuk doen en dingen over de top de hemel in prijzen. Ik mis hem dus niet echt op tv ofzo.
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Laatste tijd ook allemaal berichten over dat zowel de politie als het systeem voor de rechtspraak totaal overbelast zijn. Dat gaat dus echt ten koste van kwaliteit in dit geval.
You actually found it. I was too lazy, bit I still wanted to know. Thanks!
Here it does a great job of reducing a text of 174 words to 172 words. 👍
(I do not want to complain too much. Usually it works and it is short enough for me to quickly read it.)
I am wondering what words it saved and why we did not need those words, but, apparently, we needed all the other ones.
Also, saying that it saved 2 words took more than 2 words. So, it actually added words.
I can understand what you mean to say, I think. For example, cognitive behavioral therapy aims to change the way in which people suffering from depression think in order to cure them. It can be quite effective. However, in many cases with major depression different therapies, trauma treatment or medication is also required. In the worst cases, someone might need electroshocks.
I think the issue is that people with depression and people with eating disorders often get blamed for it and they often blame themselves. They are legitimately ill and it is not their fault, just like having any other condition is not your fault. However, due to society's message of 'just say no' to depressive thoughts or food, they might keep on blaming themselves and feel like they are a failure and should just try harder. This can make them just fall deeper in the pit they are in, instead of getting the treatment they need.
I think the last part is not what you meant, but it sounded a bit that way.
I guess OP has never heard of eating disorders.
I do not want my data to be monetised at all and I try to limit my use of services that do monetise my data as much as possible. This means that I try to not use Google products, for example.
In some cases, I feel forced to use it because the consequences of doing so are too high. For example, almost all my friends and family use WhatsApp. If I do not use it, I will be harder for hem to communicate with and I would miss out on a lot of stuff which happens in groups. I am not sure to what extent WhatsApp uses my data, but it is part of Meta and I do not trust Meta at all. However, in this case, access to my friends and family is more important to me. Although I am quite angry about it and I will get out immediately once there is a law that obligates messaging apps to be able to communicate with each other.
I would share my data for other uses, if it is in the interest of society. For example, I would share it for some scientific research.
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Hij is wel iemand waarbij ik niet denk dat hij heel gek is op zichzelf op de een of andere manier. 🤔
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That is okay, I can be quite long-winded as well! Thank you also for saying that I was helpful to talk to. I like talking to you too.
Understanding each others trauma is not enough for a friendship, I agree with that. You need more than that. Personalities that fit well together, same level of intelligence, same sense of humour.
I am not that sarcastic myself, but my sense of humour can be a little bit dark sometimes. Especially me and my sister could make some dark jokes together. I miss that. Some people might be offended a little bit by some jokes, but if they are not really hurt by it, just slightly offended, that is even funnier sometimes to be honest. I think humour is a very healthy way to cope, including sarcasm. It can be a way to still find joy or to reduce tension or put things in perspective. Nothing wrong with that. Maybe you need to have experienced dark stuff to get the sarcasm and dark humour?
I think accusing people of trauma dumping is a very unempathic way for people to create a distance between them and the things you are telling them. They are scared by it and this is their way to cope. My boyfriend had a fairly normal childhood and life. I used to be quite open with him about what happened to me and he would just almost shut down and not respond (some of the time, other times he was supportive). We had some issues with that, because I was really hurt by that. He used to say that it was just too much for him to deal with. And I actually would get a little bit angry about that. I had to deal with these things that happened to me. I had to and and I could, while at the same time even only hearing about it was too much for him. I just could not understand. However, after a lot of discussion, I now think that what you can cope with depends very much on what you have had to cope with. I can deal with the things that happened to me, because not dealing with them was not an option. They were happening and I had no control. My boyfriend, however, does not strictly need to hear about my trauma, so he has the room to be unable to deal with it. He also had not something worse than that happening to him, teaching him how to deal with this stuff. So, he just did not respond and tries to ignore it.
In short, your seamstress probably cannot or does not want to deal with it probably for similar reasons and is mean to create a distance. It could also be that it is a trigger for her and that is why she creates a distance. Traumatised people can also just be assholes.
I addition, I told you you were strong as well. It is very obvious from your story. However, I am not a therapist and a therapist should dig deeper than that. Things are not magically solved because you tell people something positive. You actually really need to get to know them and know what they need and try to provide that. These therapists seem to lack that basic skill. I am sorry to hear that the therapists are so bad where you live. A good one can really help a lot, but bad once only cost money or even do damage.
If your ex still could be a threat to you, then it is quite functional to be scared. It might help with protecting yourself. A restraining order might help with being and feeling more safe again.
I have not heard about thought tracking (but maybe that is because English is not my native language). What do you do exactly?
I also like to talk to you! Definitely let me know when you want to talk. :-)
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I believe you. And that you have been able to process this already, shows again that you are strong.
I am familiar with the feeling of being disconnected. My trauma is different from yours, but also difficult to understand or imagine for a lot of people. However, I found that other traumatised people are sometimes at least a lot easier to talk to, even if they do not understand completely. They are just not that scared by it, without minimizing what happened. I do have a couple of good friends now, who are very kind and very willing to talk with me about these things. Even if they might not completely understand, they do accept me. That helps a lot. I hope you will find people in your life like that as well.
I agree that it is very alarming that the therapist was uncomfy with what you were telling them. That should not happen. They should have been trained to be able to deal with difficult stuff. That is very unprofessional of them. The same is the case of the therapist that told you to just be more assertive and even more so for the scam artist. It is incredibly mean to try and scam people who are traumatized. You need to be a deeply pathetic person to do that.
I am in the very fortunate situation that I live in a country that pays for the costs of any EMDR and therapy that I need and we have well educated therapists here. So, fortunately, for me it is very easy to get that treatment. I can understand that for you it might be much more difficult to arrange this. However, if you ever get the chance to do real EMDR, it might be good to try. I am not sure whether you have these intrusive images, or sounds or feelings etc from your trauma, but for me it worked especially well for that. Of course it does not work for everyone, but it might be worth the try.
I am no therapist, but if you need a listening ear sometimes, just send me a message. I have had different life from you, so I might not immediately understand or I might not always say the right thing. However, I am not easily shocked or uncomfortable.
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It is a bit abstract, which makes it difficult to explain. For me, it basically means that I the experience goes through my mind with all details and the feelings that belong with it. The feelings usually increase until they are at their top and then they reduce again. After that, that feeling with the experience might not be as prominent, but I might have new feelings and thoughts about it, for which I do the same. This happens until I feel more at ease with the experience and it troubles me less.
For example, when I am processing the loss of my sister, I might think about when she was suffering a lot. Her pain is painful to me. So, I might cry about it and feel hurt myself. But after a while, that passes. Next, I feel guilty about not having been able to help her better. I might feel really bad about myself and almost wanting to hide. And I might feel like that for a time, until I think about that she never wanted me to feel guilty and she would never want me to beat myself up in this way about it. And that helps to comfort me. This goes on, until, in the end, I am somewhat more at peace with it. I might think, for example, something like that her suffering has been in the past and that at least she is not suffering now.
So, to me, processing is going through the experience in my mind and feel all the feelings that belong with it as freely as possible. There are like layers of feelings and you go to a deeper layer each time. This changes it in such a way that it is easier to live with.
I do have PTSD. For PTSD memories this is much more difficult. There I seem to get stuck in this process and never go to a next layer of feelings and it does not improve by just trying to process it. What does help for me is EMDR treatment for these memories. Often, after the treatment, I am able to process it much better.
I am not sure whether it is the samen for you, but this is how it works for me and I think for some other people as well. Processing things is not easy during the process, but for me, it makes my life much better once I am done processing. If I do not do it, I get stuck and I feel anxious and down.
Does this explanation help you?
Laten we nog een paar jaartjes VVD en CDA doen en dan gooien we voor de lol de BBB erbij. Dan weten we het zeker in elk geval.