You didn't kill him, the cancer did. You were there supporting him.
I was on morphine duty when my grandpa died two years ago and it was rough. I gained a massive respect for hospice workers and the mental fortitude they have in order to work in that environment.
My grandpa had ptsd nightmares from the Korean War his whole life and my biggest fear was that while he was dying he'd be trapped in one of those. I drove myself crazy trying to interpret his twitches and mumbles as some sort of actionable message he was sending.
I stepped outside for a bit and imagined what he would say if he were conscious, and I'm sure it would've been something like "Who cares if I'm having a nightmare? Even if I am it's not your responsibility to fix it. I'll just ride it out and it'll be over." And so I went back in and just sat there quietly, occasionally making remarks or observations, talking about what I might be doing in the next few weeks or months.
I'm really glad your mom got to have that moment. Whether or not he heard her and was responding, I hope the timing gave her some peace.
I have to imagine that when you die you get to experience what it feels like to let go of all your pain, and I bet that feels pretty great.
My dad believed in "god" and died of melanoma after it got into his lymphatic system, then to his brain, and finally his spinal fluid.
My step mom recalled a conversation she had with him in the hospital after a 2nd brain surgery where she said she was angry with God and couldn't believe he would allow this to happen to my dad instead of a worse person. He said something like "it's fine that this happening to me, I'm already saved. Other people still need more time."
I've never been a big fan of modern christianity since it strays so far from the fundamental teachings of love, but I always admired my dad's ability to act in a way that aligned with his beliefs about the goodness life.
I really don't care if there's an "afterlife" or not. I just hope people can find something in this life that gives them the courage to fight for life but also eventually accept death.
The world is a fucked up place, we're lucky that we can still find a way to enjoy it in whatever capacity we can.
I will irrationally choose to believe that your dad will find exactly what he's looking for when he passes.
If you ever want to talk about anything I'm here for you in whatever capacity an internet stranger can be.
I think any religion that would claim to help people win the lottery is highly sus. Although most religions I'm familiar with are explicitly against personal financial gain as a terminal goal.
I think your question makes a lot of assumptions that prevent it from being answered in a meaningful way. Are you asking what a hypothetical person's religion says that person should do if they're not given the material help that they ask for?
Yeah, I see where you're coming from. Although instead of laughing I'd probably reply with "sounds like it's time for a story." Because I think I would assume that something happened to them recently that highlighted the danger of fire lol
"Presenting something well-observed and well-documented as a novel thought is laughable." I really like this sentence. It made me realize that I'd interpret "laughable" as either "humorous" or "ridiculous" depending on the context. Specifically regarding how genuine the person is being, which is impossible to be sure of. You can only make assumptions about whether a person is being genuine/honest, although you can get more comfortable with those assumptions as you get to know them better.
Those types of "hey did you know water is wet?" comments can also serve as a jumping off points for sarcastic remarks with friends.
Well it was a brand new discovery to them, and if they found value in it then it makes sense that they'd want to repeat it. But yeah, I guess I can see why that's "funny" coming from the perspective of an older person who may have forgotten what it's like to be a young, inexperienced kid capable of feeling fascination and wonder.
Yeah, that's a cool observation and it makes sense. There's an idea that there's really only one "story", which is the hero's journey. I think it might be a fundamental way of how people frame their experiences and observations.
Yep! I always understood the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil to be the Christian mythology's explaination for the birth of consciousness. Once you're conscious of the concepts of right and wrong you'll be capable of feeling shame for your mistakes.
Article titles like these always feel like a bit of a stretch. I would think the concept of race would extend as far back as homo sapiens vs neanderthals.
Obviously race is also a part of Christianity, but if I remember correctly the most relevant thing Jesus said about race is that salvation wasn't just for the Jews and that God's love extended to everyone. Weird how far off track Christianity can get when used as a populist tool for oppression.
Yeah, but if the campaign was based on the belief that "Trump is the best candidate regardless of who he's running against" there would never be a need to pivot based on the opponent changing.
Which to me indicates Trump was viewing his 2024 campaign as a grudge match between himself and Biden as opposed to viewing it as a campaign to be elected president of the United States of America.
Like, where's the strength of conviction? The guy is flailing and it's embarrassing.
If he felt "forced" to fight Joe in order to win the election it indicates that he doesn't see himself as a candidate worthy of winning on his own merit.
He literally showed up yesterday to take mine and I had to tell him I didn't own one. He didn't believe me and said I'd need to submit proof that I don't own a truck or else he'll come down on me with the full force of the United States Navy :( I'm so glad he's not running for re-election.
I don't let what other people do ruin my happiness. If I'm happy with the work I'm doing and the amount I'm getting paid then I really don't care what other people do.
Pachycephalasaurus has always been on of my favorites.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pachycephalosaurus