Papanca @ Papanca @lemmy.world

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There was a crowbro community on reddit. You made me remember a community i kind of miss here. We take walks around the neighbourhood and i never leave without food for the crows, jackdaws and magpies. One jackdaw pair lives across our house and as soon as i leave the house, he will wait for me. If i overlook him, or am in a rush on my bike, he will cut me off by flying right before my wheel. He learned that i will stop and give him treats. Now, some of his kids have learned it too.

There is also a crow who saw how we fed his parents. So, now, we have been feeding him for a couple of years too. He has a partner and when she notices us, she will call so that her partner knows there is food to be had.

It's great to walk around, knowing that you make so many birds happy, which makes us happy too.

A receding hairline, apart from genetics, might happen when you tie your hair very, very tight. A loose tail would not be an issue.

I almost spit out my tea, thanks!

This, you should tell yourself as well. Many of us hate ourselves, because of what we did or didn't do, or how we are, or how we should be.

Then tell yourself; this was not a nice thing to do, you can do better. But still, i love you :-)

Thanks for the compliment, stranger, and have a great day/evening :-)

Or maybe they become little Elon copies

Particularly when leaving on bad terms, or in a fight, or just nagging, you would probably forever feel guilt and remorse

I recognize this, i'm a bit of a 'thank you'er' too. Sometimes i upvote, but particularly if someone sent me an elaborate reply, or they share something personal, or they took the effort to look something up or share a link, i will thank them. However, i don't thank them so much from a feeling of low self worth (so, not because i don't want to seem ungrateful), but because i want to make them happy, or feel good. It's a bit of a shift of perspective, i think. We live in a world that can be pretty cold and harsh and i have no idea how the person that replies feels. They might be social, reply to me, move on without a second thought. But they might also be someone who generally feels depressed or worthless and in that case my sincere thanks might make their day, or at least brighten a moment in their day.

That's really the key isn't it! What the mind wants is so much more the struggle than what the body wants. Even though physical cravings can be awful, it's the mind that steers the wheel. Thanks for sharing; i hope this sentence will help people abandon their addictions, whatever they may be.

As for me, i went cold turkey and it was very hard, the cravings were excruciating. That's all i remember for side effects, those awful cravings

Oh, you asked for my motivation; to be an example for my kids and because i was about to get my first dog and i knew how sensitive their sense of smell was.

I vaguely remember Allen Carr, but what helped was a small book that i found in a second hand bookstore in Paris, which was called: Comment S'arreter De Fumer En Cinq Jours. A quick search learns that apparently it was written by Dr J. Wayne Mcfarland and Elman J. Folkenberg. It was in french, but that didn't stop me, it was a small book and very helpful.

I was able to stop after trying to stop 7 times in two months. The 7th time worked. If i remember correctly i used breathing exercises and nicotine gum. I also avoided the couch where i would smoke after diner, instead doing something else.

The most important thing that helped was to change how i was thinking. Every attempt failed because i lit up a cigarette and then thinking; i failed, might as well continue smoking. However, the 7th time it dawned on me that smoking 1 cigarette does not mean you failed. You can put it out and just continue to not smoke. It was just the mind tricking me in continuing with my addiction. Thankfully, hardly anyone around me smoked and that was a great help. I stopped 22 years ago and i had been quite a heavy smoker, a packet of cigarettes a day.

I do take care in finding a suitable username. I have four accounts on different instances and all have different names, but mainly because i find it easier to see which account i am currently using. I like my usernames, but i'm not attached to them, nor am i attached to my accounts

Thank you so much for caring, well done!

I love sci fi movies/books where not many humans are left. Even though not all are small stories: The day of the triffids; I am legend; 28 days; i love those because of the shots you see of cities without people, with overgrown buildings that are falling apart, animals thriving. I also like other sci fi stories, but the ones i mentioned above provide a temporary relief from all the news about wars, hunger, heartless people, news that is caused by greedy, evil people who seem willing to destroy the weak, other species, and even the entire planet.

I heard something like that too, he seems a very nasty guy

I honestly can't figure out what he is thinking: is he trying to kill of twitter because he doesn't care about it, or does he honestly belief that this will make good money? I feel like i'm watching a bouncing ball in a small room, you never know which way he goes next

I have a paid proton account, recently upgraded. Yes, it's not cheap but i do feel like supporting them and i am very pleased with them and their services. And yes, i do donate to some services, provided i trust them (no shady business like tracking, selling my data etc), they don't keep nagging me for money, and i use it a lot. And i don't do subscriptions, it should be one time only or when i feel like wanting to spend some money to support them, if i can miss it. I recently also donated to Lemmy, because the devs are so transparent in what is happening, what kind of difficulties they run into, what their thoughts are, etc. I enjoy Lemmy a lot. While it is different from reddit - where i subscribed to little niche things that are not present in the fediverse just yet -, i really feel like most people are kind, helpful, and enthusiastic to help make Lemmy a vibrant alternative. I never spend a cent for reddit.

Edit: i also paid for the Simple apps in f-droid, really like those a lot, so i wanted to show my gratitude to the dev

I mimic their sounds and am not ashamed of it :-) Whether cats, dogs, or birds, or the pair of wild crows i feed outside, it doesn't matter. I even mimic the sound of danger that our wild doves make when they see a sparrow hawk. So, if i see one while hand feeding a dove, i point and make the sound and look up very obviously so they know there is one circling around our garden (but often they notice before i do).

Useful site, thank you