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  • The syntax is cake but your point is entirely valid. If your config is commented and plain. There's not much of learning curve. I came from windows to mint, now to NIX. I did a full custom install luks, all my apps and settings pretty much loaded, settings and all, from my mint machine to make the transition easy as I could. Damn near like I never left and even more so now that I have backups, systems in place and working on impermenance and using a golden USB to boot my machine from any device, anywhere. Once I got gen 1 running the rest was simple. The day to day is zero fuss. It's totally mental burden free. That's what I wanted. To finally be stable and out of the way.

  • Look I love fully offline concepts just as much as the next person. But what Bitwarden offers me that those other solutions don't, is to offload some of the mental load long-term. I like privacy but something are exhausting. Pick and choose your battles.

    Less hands on maintenance and mental overhead to keep things synced and all services / files up to date. We bitwarden users have other stuff to do. Different priorities.

    This is one of the things I decided to keep to the people who do this far more and deeper than I ever could. Their job. Their liability.

    All my accounts are encrypted, cloud accessible, or offline accessible. Protected by a giant hash of a master password. It allows me to feel safe and provides the convenience of copy and pasting insane credentials needed in today's times. Hassle free. Great features. The end.

    *potentially even under free account if you choose.

  • Honestly NIXos. Run it impermanent or traditional OS style. If your coming from Arch and want less breakage and more declarative configuration. Immutable or not. Pick almost any DE and all you maintain is your nix config. Nix config is your master file its not huge and the machine runs from it as you tell it. The machine does the rest. No system drift, no cruft. Just works and if you break it. Select your previous generation at boot and your back exactly as you were before.

  • The last paragraph sounds like her she will go quiet unless you keep poking at an issue then she will talk but be extra moody. She's totally normal day to day and not super autistic it's mild. Another commenter said to try a mood wheel. They sent a few examples and I saved them to try to send to her as a tool in the bag. That's the type of ideas I was looking for.

  • Perhaps that was way over stated. All our interactions are not negative but for the sake of the post I was focusing on those aspects to find tools to improve myself and her to communicate more effectively.

    In no way shape or form are our interactions as basic as that sounded. We function almost entirely normal. Do normal activities, go places, hangout, work and hobbies. When I meant basic interaction I don't mean she sits on bench and cannot function. I just meant anything outside of typical day to day like intricate displays of emotion or communication about our relationship issues is where the wall hits. Its not trust. Or as dead sounding as that seemed. Its that she lacks ways to articulate her emotions and what to say.

  • I'm very fast paces mentally And physically. I'm ADHD through and through so going slow and feeling tired is not in my mindset. She takes forever, can't talk deeply, has trouble mentally in all aspects. I'm more like a racecar and she's like a turtle. Nothing is wrong with that. We have good chemistry. But it's not easy past the chemistry stage. Because our childhoods, adult mentality are so different.

    Edit: We are very open, direct. We plan sexual activities, we plan almost all activities. But anything past basic conversations gets lost in translation for her. I'm very supportive, we both are for each other. The dynamic is good. Just the communication sucks no matter how much we try. Consistency is her flaw, depth. I am the doer. I do, plan, almost everything. She's more idle, watch, hands off plans and couldn't make a decision on where to eat if she tried. Shed starve to death. Highly indecisive.

  • We do all this. We are direct. She has trouble finding the words, or has no clue what to say. I was trying to find tools, resources, and ideas how to empower her to communicate. She wants to talk. Wants to tell me things. But when it's time to talk or tell me she has no ability to. Not physically she can talk fine. Emotionally and mentally. It's like a barrier between her brain and communication normal. With words. Like we all do.

  • We are very open, talk directly. She does not explain things well, has no real methods to communicate. We tries writing letters, we have tries texting, but she ends up getting frustrated And upset because she doesn't know HOW to explain her feelings. She defaults to IDK. She will say that she wants to understand, wants to talk but does not understand her own feelings and thoughts to even know how or what to talk about. So we always just wind up in a stalemate and move on. We basically seem to agree we feel the same emotions but the communication between us is hard due to her inability to express it.

    Edit: So I was asking for tools to use. Methods to try. Anything at all to attempt to gain insight into her. How can we grow and talk if she is incapable of explaining anything even basic emotions and feelings.

  • I guess the friends aspect would help alot. I don't have many friends due to Severe medical issues. I really want to try Minecraft again and add a ton of mods and play build craft again. I'm more interested in machines and building systems.

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml

    Autists (?) I need your help as a Normie for my autism GF.

  • Have you tried cloning and ssd or swapping it into another device to see if the same effect happens? That could tell you if it's a software or hardware issue. If you have researched and used those fairly extensive battery programs then I'm guessing there's some sort of hardware issue. I'd swap or clone the ssd. And check on another laptop.

  • Sounds like a bad battery or something is phantom draining it. That's unusual unless there is a software issue. I'd run full system logs to check what the load on the battery is before it dies while at rest, you can also try power-top, and TLP.

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