Maple Engineer @ MapleEngineer @lemmy.world

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They were sexting.

59 yo man with ASD with a 20 yo daughter with ASD.

We don't perceive or express emotions the way normies do. We don't understand subtle social clues or hints. It's easier for us if you just tell us what you are thinking. My wife is moody and passive aggressive which I just don't understand. If you're happy, tell her. If you're mad, tell her. If you're upset with her, deal with it.

If she is peopled out give her space.

If she's with you it's because she wants to be. She has learned to mask which can make her seem cold or indifferent. She's just trying to act in a way that won't cause a negative reaction that she has witnessed in the past.

I do that. When I'm dealing with someone new who I find attractive I am extremely flat bordering on cold. I have misinterpreted what I thought were hints or suggestions in the past so I assume that everything that might be a hint or a suggestion is not and play everything neutral casual. I've been told by women that I'm emotionally stupid as a result.

Make her feel safe telling you what she wants. If she tells you she wants something do it if you can. If you can't, don't get emotion, just explain that you can't but ask her to ask about the next thing. Make her feel safe asking you for things.

If you can learn to communicate with her Aspies are a lot of fun. I have a standard speech that I give to everyone I meet that I might be interested in being more than casual acquaintances with that explains how I act and how to communicate with me. I had someone once ask, "So I can ask you anything and you will say, 'yes' or, 'no' and if you say, 'no' it won't change anything?" Yes. "Like what can I ask?" Do you want to have coffee? Can I join your Minecraft realm? Can I sit on your face? "Can I sit in your face?" Yes. "That's cool."

We find dealing with normies who never just come out and say what they want and who hint and suggest and brood exhausting. When you get two of us together shit happens.

I hope this helps.

EDIT: I should proofread. Fucking racoons.

According to the MAGAzis.

Stay in your safe space, dude. It's scary outside the echo bunker.

Ad hominem. You just can't help yourself.

Have a good faith conversation. As long as you use these super weak devices I'm going to call them out. I don't care what names you call me or what insults you hurl.

I have no doubt but Trump and his bootlickers aren't trying to hide the list because there are Democrats on it.

Having your bullshit called out clearly triggers you. Have you considered making informed, good faith arguments instead of trying to devalue the labels legitimately applied to your weak devices? Don't want your strawman called out? Don't use strawman arguments. Don't want your whataboutism called out? Don't use whataboutism. Don't like that I called out all your normal devices? Don't use them.

If you stop using those weak devices and actually engage in a good faith discussion I'm here. Keep using those weak devices and I will keep calling them out.

Basically a straight up admition that they’re both meaningless though terminating cliches

Another straw man. You guys are on a roll.

What is cliché is resorting to strawman arguments and whataboutism/bothsidesism when your dogmatic incantations don't win the day. They are the refuge of the weak. Attempting to devalue the ideas is a transparent effort to reduce the impact of your weakness being labelled, It's the same as white supremacists loudly calling out Godwin's Law when they are rightly labelled as Nazis or Zionists labelling legitimate criticism of the actions of the state of Israel antisematism. Mike Godwin himself said, "By all means, compare these assholes to Nazis. Again and again. I'm with you."

The modern whataboutism is the bothsidesism.

You know what the absolutely weakest whataboutism is? Both sides!

You're on a roll. Do a Gish Gallop next! I love Gish Gallops!

Definitely. I hope the full truth comes out.

"Both sides!"

Trump is now claiming that Biden and Obama created the Epstein files. The only reason for him to do this is that the files aren't damaging to Democrats and confirm that Trump is a serial pedophile rapist.

“I think that these people — and I don’t know, for whatever reason, there could be reasons — but I don’t think they’re telling us the truth about Epstein,” podcaster Brandon Tatum told the assembled crowd at the Tampa Convention Center.

The reason is that the Glorious Leader is a pedophile and well know serial sexual harasser and rapist and releasing the Epstein files would conform what everyone other than the MAGAzi fascist bootlickers already know.

Concentration camp.

I mean if, we're being real, it was also a whataboutism. "What about what the democrats did?"

Get better.

Sorry your straw man didn't work.

https://nypost.com/2025/07/04/us-news/camp-mystic-attended-by-daughters-of-texas-political-elite-for-decades/

Yes, that's what I said except I said it with three words.

Florida concentration camp.