My wife and I had the same issue when we started out. We’ve solved it two different ways.
Option 1: Use 3 parts pecorino romano, 1 part parmesano, mix in a bowl and then slowly add to pasta while vigorously stirring (pasta should be very hot still to melt cheese)
Option 2 (my personal preference): Combine a bit of cacio y pepe recipe with a bit of carbonara recipe :)
Mix your cheese with egg (we use 3 eggs + 1 yolk, 3oz pecorino romano, 1oz parm) until it’s a slurry. Add pepper to the mixture. Then add to pasta and stir vigorously.
I really like the Life Is Strange series for “playing together” with my wife.
It’s not multiplayer, but it’s like watching a movie and making choices for the characters along the way.