LeylaaLovee @ LeylaaLovee @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Yeah, that thread is awful. The original comment it's all about doesn't even matter. That mod shouldn't have posted something like that, the comment section is a great reason why. I do not know why 196 just randomly becomes cool with bigotry when it's against trans people advocating for themselves. It's all "Riots are cool, fight for respect!" until they have to reconcile with having a white, western, neoliberal worldview in the face of someone they hold power over.

They're literally doing the Bo Burnham "Socko" bit without any of the irony.

This is fresh as hell

I'm not surprised. I mean after seeing him clarify what he meant to say, I don't really think it's the end of the world. Even without that though, I wouldn't care about the comment if it wasn't posted by a mod afterwards. The thread that followed has so much fully transphobic shit in it and I find it disappointing that a mod would create the space for that.

Yeah, from my basic understanding of language, it seems like Japanese is a far denser language that something like English. I've heard that people are able to indicate tone and other such things in a way that's just kinda built into the language, whereas with English or similar languages it would require extra sentences that seem awkward

Responding to you here because fuck that thread so much. I have no idea how someone can essentially say "Yeah I'd date a trans man if they didn't have a masculine body" and see no issues with it. Fine with dating someone pre-transition because they're who you want them to be and not who they want to be? It's insane what "allies" say.

"My friend's daughter's step sister is dating a black person"

*proceeds to say the most racist shit you will ever hear

You're not an ally. If you have to start of a sentence by saying you're an ally and have friends in a marginalized group, you're already starting off wrong. You're talking down to a trans person for stating what they don't like about something. Maybe if you wanted to explain how it is actually just preference, but your comment is entirely about "trans people having victim complexes".

Not dating the guy is fine. But being okay with dating someone pre-transition specifically for the things they do not like is gross. Trans men are not women. Do you have any idea how many of us enter relationships with people who say they support us, then do anything they can to prevent us from being who we want to be? Specifically common with trans men. If he said, "no I'm straight I don't date men" that'd just be preference. But he's saying "yeah I'd date a trans dude if they essentially weren't trans". That's shitty.

Why do non-queer people have to ruin everything? :(

He graduated from business school with really good grades... Maybe we should listen to him

Not just tolerated, a mod straight up posted a report and said stop reporting it because it wasn't transphobic. Explicitly allowed and defended. If this was just some random comment, I wouldn't care that much, people can be a little problematic I don't care. But I don't want the sort of horrendous bullshit in that thread the mod posted in what I'd call a queer community.

Lemmy's 196 has been way more liberal than Reddit 196, and I'm really not a fan of it. Some of these comment sections are full of the "Not all men!" Crowd and it's annoying AF.

I'm gonna be so pissed if I don't get my Mass Effect 3 color changing ending 😤

BUT WHO WAS PHONE?

That one thread of the dude saying he isn't attracted to post-op trans men because he likes tits and the comment section that is just "trans people are too sensitive". If you don't wanna date trans people it's fine. But being like "oh nooo, your boobs are gonna go away" is a joke

What book is this?

Why the coke stache?

Just wanna say, dude was truly one of us. What's more genius than getting an entire field started by doing a shit ton of coke and writing mommy dom fan fic? He is proof that the best way to get the good answer is to just give the wrong answer and wait for people to respond.

We can trash on him all we want, absolutely GOATED tho

I mean, think of it this way. I'm into BDSM. However, I'm not into being absolutely nothing in the dynamic. Calling my partner master owner or mistress feels weird. I just want a more powerful term for her where the power dynamic isn't completely removed from anything loving.

Her: "Have you been a good sub for me today?"

People who don't say mommy: "Yes CEO, I got that quarterly report finished for you."

An animal with a broken charging port. Used my OnePlus 6t forever ago, the port doesn't work right and there's no wireless charging

Excited for the sync Lemmy app